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Dieve
I think it's a classic case of "fake it til you make it".
The moment he stops giving a shit about his imperfections and just goes straight in approaching those hot women who he thinks he's too boring for by acting confident yet natural, his chances of eventually landing one will dramatically increase. He's gotta get used to a shitload of rejection of course, not brood on those who don't deserve him.
No pain, no gain. No risk, no win.
Reminds me of my first signature, a Carrie Fisher quote.
"Stay afraid, but do it anyway.
What’s important is the action.
You don’t have to wait to be confident.
Just do it, and eventually the confidence will follow."
I disagree with people calling him shallow, especially because he also mentioned good conversational skills as requirement. I rather consider those who claim looks don't matter hypocrites. If you're already pretty with a huge pool of pretty partners to choose from, of course it's not an issue for you, you never had to talk about it, because it comes easy, but the moment someone mentions they want someone pretty, boo-hoo, shallow?
I also want someone pretty, interesting, smart, funny, caring... if I consider that person better than me in any way, then I hope they will accept me the way I am, and happy to watch me grow.
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