How can an "average guy" get a beautiful wife

[TheFalcon]

well the topic is not actually about me- Ive had the occasional success among many struggles with the ladies but hey I know my limitations. so its not about me,

I post on another form and there is a guy South African (not sure if that matters) who describes himself as highly intelligent but boring and lacking charisma, 5' 10 so not especially tall compared to the guys that the hot ladies seem to go for,
He wants a beautiful wife or companion, a lady who is visually highly attractive, carries herself with class and elegance, who is physically fit, can converse on a variety of topics and have a "wow" factor when she accompanies him to dinner parties and social gatherings, a lady who will make his colleagues heads turn when she enters the room.

In summary you could say he wants a lady similar to the ladies that advertise here on Escort Ireland,

Myself and the other posters are finding it difficult to provide him with any inspiration- other than he has to settle for a 6 or 7 out of 10 rather than trying to land the 10- he might settle for a 9 but nothing lower! that he has to base his partner on emotional connection and compatibility rather than looks (but he rejects these advices)

He is an intelligent guy but lacks (in his own words) charisms and charm and is pretty average looking himself- hes not built like a Springbok rugby player. " He is not good enough" he doesnt have the charm and social skills of his friends- he gets invited to the big gatherings but he doesnt have the social skills to do himself justice,

He is highly intelligent, can hold conversations about anything is financially stable but not rich,

Anyway its not happening for him with the girls or at least not with the supermodels he craves,

so my good friends- lads and lassies- how can this guy land the woman of his dreams?

[PhilPhilPhil]

Multiple mentions of him being "highly intelligent" yet he only wants a woman for her looks and to impress his colleagues.
Sounds thick as 2 planks but either way with that approach he won't ever find real love.

[Atreyou]

Think you’ve answered it already in your last sentence. With that attitude this inteligent friend will land the woman of his dreams only in his dreams…

[MiaX]

This guy sounds like he only wants a trophy wife, not true love. With this approach, he won't find real connections. He can try to find a gold digger type of woman, but it won't last, as we all know the drill.
Generally I would say, a true woman, may it be avarage or really good looking, will look for a good heart, a good soul and a nice personality, intelligence sure, main thing is the inside is what matters for the long run and a true connection, looks are not that important as long we find something that is valuable to us personalitywise, chemistry will follow naturally. But this type of woman won't settle for a shallow guy like him. It's a two way road.

[tonythetimetraveller]

Whenever you see a guy "punching above his weight", it's usually one of three things
- He's very very rich
- He's very very funny/charismatic
- He's very tall, as well as being all-rounder in other aspects (rich, funny, successful).

[Ppblacksheep]

I think Mia hit the nail on the head, he may improve on his people skills. He may get a short term relationship with a stunning woman but he will bore her after a while, but on the other hand he may be nervous talking to a stranger, he might come out of his shell once he gets to know her.

But really any guy who just goes for looks is going the wrong way about it. Give me an average girl looking girl who is good craic and I'd be happy out. Unfortunately hard to find in the real world 🌎

[Dieve]

I think it's a classic case of "fake it til you make it".

The moment he stops giving a shit about his imperfections and just goes straight in approaching those hot women who he thinks he's too boring for by acting confident yet natural, his chances of eventually landing one will dramatically increase. He's gotta get used to a shitload of rejection of course, not brood on those who don't deserve him.

No pain, no gain. No risk, no win.

Reminds me of my first signature, a Carrie Fisher quote.

"Stay afraid, but do it anyway.
What’s important is the action.
You don’t have to wait to be confident.
Just do it, and eventually the confidence will follow."

I disagree with people calling him shallow, especially because he also mentioned good conversational skills as requirement. I rather consider those who claim looks don't matter hypocrites. If you're already pretty with a huge pool of pretty partners to choose from, of course it's not an issue for you, you never had to talk about it, because it comes easy, but the moment someone mentions they want someone pretty, boo-hoo, shallow?

I also want someone pretty, interesting, smart, funny, caring... if I consider that person better than me in any way, then I hope they will accept me the way I am, and happy to watch me grow.

[IAmLIAm]

I think it's a classic case of "fake it til you make it".

The moment he stops giving a shit about his imperfections and just goes straight in approaching those hot women who he thinks he's too boring for by acting confident yet natural, his chances of eventually landing one will dramatically increase. He's gotta get used to a shitload of rejection of course, not brood on those who don't deserve him.

No pain, no gain. No risk, no win.

Reminds me of my first signature, a Carrie Fisher quote.

"Stay afraid, but do it anyway.
What’s important is the action.
You don’t have to wait to be confident.
Just do it, and eventually the confidence will follow."

I disagree with people calling him shallow, especially because he also mentioned good conversational skills as requirement. I rather consider those who claim looks don't matter hypocrites. If you're already pretty with a huge pool of pretty partners to choose from, of course it's not an issue for you, you never had to talk about it, because it comes easy, but the moment someone mentions they want someone pretty, boo-hoo, shallow?

I also want someone pretty, interesting, smart, funny, caring... if I consider that person better than me in any way, then I hope they will accept me the way I am, and happy to watch me grow.

There is nothing wrong with wanting someone pretty and smart and funny and compassionate. However, wanting that person just so others look at you with reverence or envy is fairly shallow (that's not to say I don't understand the feeling, I believe most have been there at some stage).

Now, I don't know this fella so obviously there is context that I'm missing but I do think that this kind of checklist typically manifests it's self in us when we're feeling a lack of self worth and particularly down on ourselves. Obviously the lack of confidence plays into the inability to get what you "want" which reinforces the self loathing and the cycle continues.

What this guy needs is a genuine, meaningful relationship (platonic or romantic) to help erase some of the self hate. Once he feels better about himself (and cares less about how others see him) he's more likely to attract a partner who will support him and who he can support. With any luck he will then realize that the only thing that truly matters is how they feel towards each other, rest of the social circle be damned.

[Rattlesnake]

We all want the woman/man of our dreams,
I wonder do they really exist or are they just that "dreams".
I thought I had her but she turned out to be a complete nightmare.
Anyway.
Life is a bitch and then you ***** ***.

Anyway that guy needs to wake up a bit and smell the coffee

[passive1]

Don't be an asshole, be respectful of women and realise that personality and looks are a balance that you can find an abundance of both in some and a vacuum in others, if you are on an escort site asking this question then you are probably gonna benefit from trying a few new hobbies, meeting people and going outside.