I’m wondering what the best method or protocol for contacting someone in this context is? Just via DM? Bar trawling through some of the other sites not sure how else it is done.
I’m wondering what the best method or protocol for contacting someone in this context is? Just via DM? Bar trawling through some of the other sites not sure how else it is done.
I assume this would be for an SP you don't already have a rapport with (since you would then probably have the contact info). I would say PM is the best way. If they are not advertising, then they may not be working (or at least not soliciting new clients). PM gives them the opportunity to reply when they are ready to.
For me, contacting an SP when not advertising is fairly similar to the dreaded "when will you be in X". So just be aware that contact might not be received as well when a provider is on holiday (even if they are posting to forums {here or otherwise}).
Last edited by IAmLIAm; 10-03-24 at 16:43.
Because they seem an interesting person online. I kind of thought this was partly why non advertisers posted here to be honest.
I’m assuming they are currently working if they are active online here which may not be the case though. I was going to do the DM approach but wasn’t sure this was ok.
I generally only contact providers advertising here or who’ve been recommended by someone else if they don’t advertise here.
Any older ones? 40 plus
Who do you have your eye on? :-) Could be either, working or not working. Pm them if you want to, there's zero harm, but maybe don't expect a reply and make it short so you haven't wasted a load of time if they don't reply.
I come here to chill. It's my only social media. I don't care who pms me, I only care when people get angry with me for not replying because they can see that I'm online, some I've seen, some I haven't.
I have a funny relationship with how I end up meeting people, sometimes I'll do everything in the world I can do so as I don't gave to meet new people, or people I haven't met in a long time, or people who I think have will have high expectations of me.
Sometimes a thing will click and I'll be in be in a mood to put myself out there and meet more people. But there's no accounting for how that happens with any one person either, my stomach just churns one way or another.
If I'm in low confidence, feeling fat, or unhorny, I'm going to pick people who I know I get along really well with, am comfortable with and who I can get horny with...because I was horny with them a couple of weeks ago, it's fresh. If I'm the opposite of that or if I have the hump with one of my regulars, I'll step out a bit more. And that's them fresh. The cycle continues...
So, don't overthink it. There could be a dozen reasons why someone isn't advertising, and they might just not be working.
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Thank you for the comprehensive reply Sarah. I don’t want to annoy anyone but the terminology about “non advertiser” is a bit confusing to me. This clears it up a good bit.
“Have your eye on” 😂. You’re more old school than me.
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