Meaning of Life

[rickrockrack]

Sometimes i find it hard to understand why anyone would choose marriage over a steady escort life and maybe a low maintenance girlfriend.

[Dieve]

The problem starts with most people equating marriage with monogamy. The right partner should value the same lifestyle as you do, that's what partnership is supposed to be about.

[Moocher]

The problem starts with most people equating marriage with monogamy. The right partner should value the same lifestyle as you do, that's what partnership is supposed to be about.

Dieve, I don't think a long term relationship can really work, unless it is exclusive. Trying to manage multiple relationships ,on top of all of the various pressures of life is just too much. Your 'right ( long term ) partner ' is most unlikely to value your work as an escort for too long.

[Launcelot]

I think we can have lots of friends but generally people need mutual (exclusive) commitment so that both parties know the other person has their back. We choose to make certain things as exclusive such as Sex because of that reason. There are many reasons why exclusivity is important but I think that everyone has to find out what works for them.

[IrishSarahBarra]

Future grandbabies and occasions to go to, shared pets, shared wealth, someone to share milder interests like watching telly, someone to do things for, someone to keep you on track, someone who does the things when you're bate, a housemate you don't want to kill so much because they're an extension of you...suffer together/succeed together, someone to holiday with and when you retire, body heat, shared talents...you technology, me snacks, you set alarms, me talk to customer service agents.

[Dieve]

Dieve, I don't think a long term relationship can really work, unless it is exclusive. Trying to manage multiple relationships ,on top of all of the various pressures of life is just too much. Your 'right ( long term ) partner ' is most unlikely to value your work as an escort for too long.

I tell all my dates early on before we meet that I'm an award-winning slut. If they react anything less than wow, I wish them good luck finding their wow with someone else, and fuck off.

Happy open relationships exist. Predominantly polyamorous people would feel trapped in monogamy, and overwhelm their partner with their excess need for intimacy they cannot quench elsewhere. Just like you can manage your friendships, poly people can manage their relationships the same way. They can usually tell if they're polysaturated.

Being lonely is the biggest pressure for me.

[Moocher]

I tell all my dates early on before we meet that I'm an award-winning slut. If they react anything less than wow, I wish them good luck finding their wow with someone else, and fuck off.

Happy open relationships exist. Predominantly polyamorous people would feel trapped in monogamy, and overwhelm their partner with their excess need for intimacy they cannot quench elsewhere. Just like you can manage your friendships, poly people can manage their relationships the same way. They can usually tell if they're polysaturated.

Being lonely is the biggest pressure for me.

Some day, you can fill me in on their reactions.i'd say that you have had some fun and laughs. ( P.S. I had to google 'polysaturated' .... Shows my age ! I thought it was something to do with the spread of Flora margarine .)

[jessicabp]

I think first you have to find out who you are and then you can know who can be your matching partner.
Getting married at young age is not always happy.

[IrishSarahBarra]

The problem starts with most people equating marriage with monogamy. The right partner should value the same lifestyle as you do, that's what partnership is supposed to be about.

I'd agree with up this up to a point. Problem is if people change or realise that they don't really want what they thought they wanted.

[Harry68]

In not sure how you define “a steady escort life” but looking at it from a financial point of view strictly if you are a say sexually active under 40 year old male it makes more economic sense to have a steady partner to have for sexual relations than visiting an escort weekly. It can be an expensive avenue and I would imagine the majority of callers here are on the wrong side of 40 (if not 50) and are relatively financially secure.

Societal and peer pressures steer people towards marriage. The tax code is more favourable to married people. Succession rights are. History moves people that way. Marriage is right for some people but for others it’s something they should never have entered or entered with another person. The problem of course is once you’re there the financial and societal forces that bought you there may have been added to by children and long term financial commitments that are difficult if not impossible to leave.

My smallish hometown has a run down apartment complex nicknamed “batchelors walk” so many divorced and seperated men live in it. Coincidentally or not it’s once of the 2/3 spots for escorts there.

I think personally everyone should be open to finding that person they wish to join their star to for the rest of their life but if they are lucky to find that person I wouldn’t necessarily join under the marriage flag though.