Yaaarrrr tis easy to diagnose yer problem lad.
Firsly ye need a wench ye can take control of,
You be the rule-maker n take no shit off her.
All the "dont do this" n "dont do that" crap forced yer into a mental state of rejection.
Hence yer todger felt unwanted.
Seeing twas yer first attempt maybe all them female "bits" available were too much fer thee.
Suggest ye start with a good ole T.S. lass n you`ll feel more on common ground.
Failing that do as the Cap`n does n find a cabin boy to wank e off.