Am I unreasonable?

[Bruce 4play]

Would like someone to sense check this for me please, and let me know if it's me being unreasonable.

So recently in a small cafe/restaurant, I ordered coffee and sure enough the waitress brought it to me at my table (I was having food as well). I said thank you, and very politely asked if I could have some sweeteners. The girl (early 20's I'd guess) at first seemed to be thinking about my request for a second, then she just looked at me. So I smiled and again asked if she might have some sweeteners. All she did was point at the sugar bowl that was on the table, which I duly examined to make sure I hadn't missed a sachet or two of Candrell hiding in there, which there wasn't. So I looked back to her, all the while I'm very conscious of remaining very polite and friendly, and I just said that there was only sugar in the bowl, and that I was looking for sweetener.

At that point, the girl remained expressionless and silent, she broke eye contact and walked off. I presumed she would be back with the sweetener, but none ever arrived.

I have to wonder what I did wrong in the situation. I went out of my way to keep nice and friendly, but she seemed to take it all as being a most unreasonable and extravagant request, and she was stoically having none of my nonsense.

Could I have done better??

You can complain or not go back, I'd let her on, yung wans of today huh.

[TommyH123]

Would like someone to sense check this for me please, and let me know if it's me being unreasonable.

So recently in a small cafe/restaurant, I ordered coffee and sure enough the waitress brought it to me at my table (I was having food as well). I said thank you, and very politely asked if I could have some sweeteners. The girl (early 20's I'd guess) at first seemed to be thinking about my request for a second, then she just looked at me. So I smiled and again asked if she might have some sweeteners. All she did was point at the sugar bowl that was on the table, which I duly examined to make sure I hadn't missed a sachet or two of Candrell hiding in there, which there wasn't. So I looked back to her, all the while I'm very conscious of remaining very polite and friendly, and I just said that there was only sugar in the bowl, and that I was looking for sweetener.

At that point, the girl remained expressionless and silent, she broke eye contact and walked off. I presumed she would be back with the sweetener, but none ever arrived.

I have to wonder what I did wrong in the situation. I went out of my way to keep nice and friendly, but she seemed to take it all as being a most unreasonable and extravagant request, and she was stoically having none of my nonsense.

Could I have done better??

I wish I just had your problems buddy, I really do 😉
Agree that it was shit service but what are ye going to do?, complain or let it slide, easier just to swerve the joint going forward

Oh yeah, Canderel, comes in a handy dispenser, keep it in your pocket, problem solved

[beautyaddict]

Seriously this is worth posting , an everyday occurrence. Or at least not rare event. Do not sweat the small stuff , do not give someone free rent in your head , my advice .

[SteveB]

Well, all this is a lesson to us.
Never ask for a sweetener, lest you be misunderstood

Nor a fork

[SteveB]

[IrishSarahBarra]

Is this what she saw?

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZGJbxKeNr/

[Rockerman]

I wish I just had your problems buddy, I really do ��
Agree that it was shit service but what are ye going to do?, complain or let it slide, easier just to swerve the joint going forward

Oh yeah, Canderel, comes in a handy dispenser, keep it in your pocket, problem solved

He could keep it in his handbag .

[Expo]

He said born and raised here, but could be Cork or Kerry so how could the poor girl be expected to understand him🤣🤣

[TommyH123]

He said born and raised here, but could be Cork or Kerry so how could the poor girl be expected to understand him🤣🤣

🤣fair point, those lads should come with subtitles

[TommyH123]

He could keep it in his handbag .

Along with the hair band for his man bun 😉