Autism?

[Grunt]

Like I said in my OP, escorts are welcome to discuss this too!

An autistic client and an autistic escort. Would things be painfully awkward or would they immediately click?

[IDF2]

Sorry. I sort of derailed this thread. Please carry on.

You made the thread dude.

[Dieve]

Every ASD person has their own comfortzone and triggers. My job is to connect, so I will always be the boss of the house, even if someone makes me cry I guess I conjured an ASD client recently when I was reading through this thread, and it went very well

[JennyIrish]

Hi, this is a difficult thread to post but I feel it's time to rip the plaster off. It may be cathartic, and it is men's mental health month after all.

Any other guys have autism/on the spectrum/neurodivergent? How does it affect you when it comes to this aspect of life, ie escorts? For me, I find there can be an anxiety and awkwardness to things. I tend to massively overthink things, even though this is purely a transactional arrangement.

Escorts are welcome to discuss this too, if/how they've dealt with clients like this? Do they mind or would they prefer someone more "normal"?

Thanks for your understanding.

I have clients like this, mostly all younger gentlemen, late 20s/early 30s. Some will tell me themselves once they are comfortable with, others I just suspect.

I totally get the anxiety/ overthinking thing also rigid attention to detail seems to also be important to clients like this. I have been told by some that they have had very bad experiences with escorts but I can kind of understand why, if you arrive in a state of high anxiety it can rub off on the lady and make for an awkward encounter.

My advice would be stick with well established escorts with good reviews who are used to dealing with all walks of life. Be open and honest, not necessarily to say that you are autistic but on making the booking to mention that you can be very nervous and it can take you a few minutes to relax once you arrive. Dont be afraid to talk to the lady at the start and let her know what you like and how you would like the meeting to go. I know it's easier said than done, try not to overthink things, ok so you may be a little "socially awkward", for want of a better term, but this is not going g to make the lady think that you are "weird", trust me and established lady will have come across plenty of "weird" in the true meaning of the sence and a person with autism does NOT fall into this bracket.

Again with the overthinking, I had a guy who once he had relaxed into the appointment told me he had something he would like to try but it was really weird and it took him about 2 minutes of him warning me how weird it was before he would tell me.

Well it turned out not to be weird at all!!!! And i told him this, i told him I've had a client who kept trying to call me "Mammy", that was weird, a client who arrived wearing his aunties panties, that was weird, but not the thing he had mentioned.

As i always say, this job is not all about the sex, it's about being personable and understanding of people. Look out for escorts with reviews mentioning what a nice person they are, or something along those lines and go from there.

Good luck and have fun!!!

[IDF2]

I have clients like this, mostly all younger gentlemen, late 20s/early 30s. Some will tell me themselves once they are comfortable with, others I just suspect.

I totally get the anxiety/ overthinking thing also rigid attention to detail seems to also be important to clients like this. I have been told by some that they have had very bad experiences with escorts but I can kind of understand why, if you arrive in a state of high anxiety it can rub off on the lady and make for an awkward encounter.

My advice would be stick with well established escorts with good reviews who are used to dealing with all walks of life. Be open and honest, not necessarily to say that you are autistic but on making the booking to mention that you can be very nervous and it can take you a few minutes to relax once you arrive. Dont be afraid to talk to the lady at the start and let her know what you like and how you would like the meeting to go. I know it's easier said than done, try not to overthink things, ok so you may be a little "socially awkward", for want of a better term, but this is not going g to make the lady think that you are "weird", trust me and established lady will have come across plenty of "weird" in the true meaning of the sence and a person with autism does NOT fall into this bracket.

Again with the overthinking, I had a guy who once he had relaxed into the appointment told me he had something he would like to try but it was really weird and it took him about 2 minutes of him warning me how weird it was before he would tell me.

Well it turned out not to be weird at all!!!! And i told him this, i told him I've had a client who kept trying to call me "Mammy", that was weird, a client who arrived wearing his aunties panties, that was weird, but not the thing he had mentioned.

As i always say, this job is not all about the sex, it's about being personable and understanding of people. Look out for escorts with reviews mentioning what a nice person they are, or something along those lines and go from there.

Good luck and have fun!!!

Young adults.

[Silvergrey25]

I have clients like this, mostly all younger gentlemen, late 20s/early 30s. Some will tell me themselves once they are comfortable with, others I just suspect.

I totally get the anxiety/ overthinking thing also rigid attention to detail seems to also be important to clients like this. I have been told by some that they have had very bad experiences with escorts but I can kind of understand why, if you arrive in a state of high anxiety it can rub off on the lady and make for an awkward encounter.

My advice would be stick with well established escorts with good reviews who are used to dealing with all walks of life. Be open and honest, not necessarily to say that you are autistic but on making the booking to mention that you can be very nervous and it can take you a few minutes to relax once you arrive. Dont be afraid to talk to the lady at the start and let her know what you like and how you would like the meeting to go. I know it's easier said than done, try not to overthink things, ok so you may be a little "socially awkward", for want of a better term, but this is not going g to make the lady think that you are "weird", trust me and established lady will have come across plenty of "weird" in the true meaning of the sence and a person with autism does NOT fall into this bracket.

Again with the overthinking, I had a guy who once he had relaxed into the appointment told me he had something he would like to try but it was really weird and it took him about 2 minutes of him warning me how weird it was before he would tell me.

Well it turned out not to be weird at all!!!! And i told him this, i told him I've had a client who kept trying to call me "Mammy", that was weird, a client who arrived wearing his aunties panties, that was weird, but not the thing he had mentioned.

As i always say, this job is not all about the sex, it's about being personable and understanding of people. Look out for escorts with reviews mentioning what a nice person they are, or something along those lines and go from there.

Good luck and have fun!!!

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You've nailed it, I've never been diagnosed with anything but as a client walking into a room it's a learning curve. I've learned to say with someone new I appreciate someone who takes the lead. Because I don't want to cause upset or tread on boundaries. I believe with the right lady that connection will grow naturally over time when trust is established. It's difficult though. Autism is a spectrum it's hard to gauge through just words what it really means or how it affects someone unless they tell you but trust is the most essential first step. I'm an overthinker at the best of times, but i guess as always communication is key

[JennyIrish]

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You've nailed it, I've never been diagnosed with anything but as a client walking into a room it's a learning curve. I've learned to say with someone new I appreciate someone who takes the lead. Because I don't want to cause upset or tread on boundaries. I believe with the right lady that connection will grow naturally over time when trust is established. It's difficult though. Autism is a spectrum it's hard to gauge through just words what it really means or how it affects someone unless they tell you but trust is the most essential first step. I'm an overthinker at the best of times, but i guess as always communication is key

"Communication is the key" exactly!!! That's exactly what I was trying to say with my big long post, ha ha!

[Ryankelvin]

We can all have moments when we are bordering on Autistic,
Overthinking and overanalysing situations is probably my greatest downfall. that can bring both positives and negatives .
Regarding meeting escorts, it was much easier for me when the escort took total control, and dictated all aspects of our first meeting,
I didn’t have to concern myself with; was it ok or not ok to do certain things.
I have had a kid of mine diagnosed with a mild form of Asperger Syndrome, I’ve no doubt he got it from me ,
I had never heard of it previously.

[Ryankelvin]

No problems with flying
It’s the crashing bit that worries me

Took me years to become comfortable flying,
I always think we will crash , I just accept that better as I get older .