So much more than just sex!

[Joelegs]

Humans are relation by their nature. We are hardwired to seek to make a connection on some level with other people. We do this every day with without realising it like: the few seconds when we pay at a till, when we are applying for a mortgage, dealing with people on the phone and having our hair cut.

But we have to keep in mind the nature of the relationship and context. When I go into my local coffee shop the staff know my order without asking me, they know me and call me by name. We build all kinds of connections with people in life. I think this is achieved though treating people like human beings and having mutual respect.

The issues starts when we misread the level of connection we have with another person. Most men visit an escort because they want sexual intercourse. This is a very human need and a very intimate service, but if the escort and client treate each other with respect, like human beings, I believe on some level there is potential for a professional connection to develop. However, this is a connection with boundaries! There is nothing wrong with enjoying the feeling of laying in the arms of a woman, enjoying a friendly smile and a conversation; even having a laugh together. The important thing to always remember is that you are this ladies client. It can happen, but she isn't likely to fall in love with you. Respect this golden rule and ladies tend to relax and build natural client relationships because they are not put in awkward positions. An escort did me a favour once. To thank her I was tempted to offer to take the lady out for lunch, but I didn't because she could have perceived that I was looking to spend free time in her company without paying for her service. I texted her and told her about the lunch idea and why I didn't offer to take her out. She texted me back 'you are the best, because you get it'. I understand the boundaries and play by the rules. In my opinion this is the key to success.