Disabilities

[Lighthearted2022]

I don't have a disability - but I have had an ileostomy as a result of an accident many years ago....... I'll wait here while everyone googles that

And that's part of the problem - when you google you mostly see extreme cases which even I find a turn off. It doesn't get in the way and is hygienic, but trying to explain what it is can be difficult anyway - never mind to someone who's first language is not english.

I'm trying to work up the courage to enter this world - is this something I should explain at the first call, or arrange an appointment and make sure the girl is ok with it when you get there? I'm not ashamed or embarrassed by it, and have no problems talking about it, but I do feel its easier for the girl to just say no at the outset as they usually have plenty of choices. Having said that, I do understand that some people would be uncomfortable (i had experience of that in my dating life) and that's the last thing I want -I'd like a mutually enjoyable experience.

I think there's a somewhere question in that rambling text!! In short - explain at booking, or give girl opportunity to back out at appointment time?

[Tightsmonster]

I don't have a disability - but I have had an ileostomy as a result of an accident many years ago....... I'll wait here while everyone googles that

And that's part of the problem - when you google you mostly see extreme cases which even I find a turn off. It doesn't get in the way and is hygienic, but trying to explain what it is can be difficult anyway - never mind to someone who's first language is not english.

I'm trying to work up the courage to enter this world - is this something I should explain at the first call, or arrange an appointment and make sure the girl is ok with it when you get there? I'm not ashamed or embarrassed by it, and have no problems talking about it, but I do feel its easier for the girl to just say no at the outset as they usually have plenty of choices. Having said that, I do understand that some people would be uncomfortable (i had experience of that in my dating life) and that's the last thing I want -I'd like a mutually enjoyable experience.

I think there's a somewhere question in that rambling text!! In short - explain at booking, or give girl opportunity to back out at appointment time?

I would say to explain it when you first call. Even try a pm or email first, although you won't always get a response to pm's. I have a physical disability and was told many years ago that most Ladies would like to time to consider if they can deal with a disability or medical condition, rather than having it sprung on them during a phone call and having to give an answer on the spot.
I had a member of my family who had similar to yourself, so I know what you mean.
You will have to do some research to see if you can find a Lady who can help.
Good luck with your search and hope it works out for you.

[Lighthearted2022]

I would say to explain it when you first call. Even try a pm or email first, although you won't always get a response to pm's. I have a physical disability and was told many years ago that most Ladies would like to time to consider if they can deal with a disability or medical condition, rather than having it sprung on them during a phone call and having to give an answer on the spot.
I had a member of my family who had similar to yourself, so I know what you mean.
You will have to do some research to see if you can find a Lady who can help.
Good luck with your search and hope it works out for you.

Thanks for the reply - always best to be upfront I guess. We'll see how it goes

[Lighthearted2022]

I thought I’d update this thread following my first few weeks on the scene. I’ve been like a kid in a candy shop and actually had 4 meets this month. However my bank balance has confirmed that rate cannot continue into the future!! I’ve only written 3 reviews as the last meet was so good that I need to go back and see was it just both of us having a good day or what. Watch this space.

Maybe I’ve been lucky, but the girls I met, as well as being gorgeous, were absolute sweethearts each one, and couldn’t have done more to make me feel at ease. I was very anxious for the first meet, and still very nervous for the 4th, but like I said the girls could not be kinder or more accommodating.

I chose girls that had good english and were in their late 20’s and up, as it would be easier to describe my issue and guessed that with a bit of experience they would have seen most things by now anyway!

(As a side note, I think those old hands and escorts on here don’t realise how daunting it is for us beginners to phone an escort– I mean we’re ringing a woman asking if she wouldn’t mind getting naked & have sex with us – it’s a strange dynamic. Every single phonecall was me being flustered and stammering, hanging up, and then realising I hadn’t said all I wanted.)

With the first 2 girls I went to great lengths to explain my condition over the phone, and when I got there gave them the opportunity to decline if they wanted. Both were more taken aback by the ‘fuss’ I was making and felt I was making too big a deal of it. With the second 2 I didn’t give as much info in advance for a couple of reasons, but again when I got there and showed my scars etc it was a case of – ‘that’s nothing to be concerned about - are you getting undressed or what?’

However I did have one refusal. In that instance I didn’t have the opportunity to speak to the escort as it was an advance appointment by PM. I explained my issue and even linked my post above, but got back a refusal. I understand that this girls english may not be as good as the others (as well as being a bit younger) and she would have found it hard to figure out what I was on about. Either way its entirely her right to choose her clients and why bring a potential complication that you don’t need onto yourself? I totally understand and would support any girls right to refuse a client for any reason. While it can be a bit of a blow, those of us with any kind of body issues have to take our pride or indignation out of the equation and accept that some people just aren’t able to deal with anything out the ordinary, and why would you want to put somebody else in an uncomfortable position? The enjoyment needs to go both ways. And besides, I’d take an 80% success rate all day!

So, for the TL;DR people out there with any physical concerns they may have my advice would be;
• Read the reviews and choose a girl who has experience, she’ll have seen plenty in her career and is less likely to be phased by something new;
• Try to speak to the girl rather than by PM or text, how you speak is important and she has the chance to question you - if you're having difficulty being understood, maybe this is not the escort for you;
• Don’t be afraid to explain any concerns to the girls, you’ll find most are angels who want to make you comfortable and have an enjoyable experience;
• The mantra you read on here is actually true and not just bull – be clean, well dressed, mannerly, and polite and you’ll get a long way with most escorts. In my case, I showered and changed my dressing at every meet – its small and not strictly necessary to change (its good for 3-4 days even with going to the gym etc) I wanted to demonstrate that I was doing everything possible to consider their comfort. While everyones issue is different, I believe that its appreciated when we do our utmost to address any lingering doubts the girls might have;
• If you’re hesitating about having a meet – don’t – the experiences can be amazing.

Best of luck.

[MistressMonique]

I thought I’d update this thread following my first few weeks on the scene. I’ve been like a kid in a candy shop and actually had 4 meets this month. However my bank balance has confirmed that rate cannot continue into the future!! I’ve only written 3 reviews as the last meet was so good that I need to go back and see was it just both of us having a good day or what. Watch this space.

Maybe I’ve been lucky, but the girls I met, as well as being gorgeous, were absolute sweethearts each one, and couldn’t have done more to make me feel at ease. I was very anxious for the first meet, and still very nervous for the 4th, but like I said the girls could not be kinder or more accommodating.

I chose girls that had good english and were in their late 20’s and up, as it would be easier to describe my issue and guessed that with a bit of experience they would have seen most things by now anyway!

(As a side note, I think those old hands and escorts on here don’t realise how daunting it is for us beginners to phone an escort– I mean we’re ringing a woman asking if she wouldn’t mind getting naked & have sex with us – it’s a strange dynamic. Every single phonecall was me being flustered and stammering, hanging up, and then realising I hadn’t said all I wanted.)

With the first 2 girls I went to great lengths to explain my condition over the phone, and when I got there gave them the opportunity to decline if they wanted. Both were more taken aback by the ‘fuss’ I was making and felt I was making too big a deal of it. With the second 2 I didn’t give as much info in advance for a couple of reasons, but again when I got there and showed my scars etc it was a case of – ‘that’s nothing to be concerned about - are you getting undressed or what?’

However I did have one refusal. In that instance I didn’t have the opportunity to speak to the escort as it was an advance appointment by PM. I explained my issue and even linked my post above, but got back a refusal. I understand that this girls english may not be as good as the others (as well as being a bit younger) and she would have found it hard to figure out what I was on about. Either way its entirely her right to choose her clients and why bring a potential complication that you don’t need onto yourself? I totally understand and would support any girls right to refuse a client for any reason. While it can be a bit of a blow, those of us with any kind of body issues have to take our pride or indignation out of the equation and accept that some people just aren’t able to deal with anything out the ordinary, and why would you want to put somebody else in an uncomfortable position? The enjoyment needs to go both ways. And besides, I’d take an 80% success rate all day!

So, for the TL;DR people out there with any physical concerns they may have my advice would be;
• Read the reviews and choose a girl who has experience, she’ll have seen plenty in her career and is less likely to be phased by something new;
• Try to speak to the girl rather than by PM or text, how you speak is important and she has the chance to question you - if you're having difficulty being understood, maybe this is not the escort for you;
• Don’t be afraid to explain any concerns to the girls, you’ll find most are angels who want to make you comfortable and have an enjoyable experience;
• The mantra you read on here is actually true and not just bull – be clean, well dressed, mannerly, and polite and you’ll get a long way with most escorts. In my case, I showered and changed my dressing at every meet – its small and not strictly necessary to change (its good for 3-4 days even with going to the gym etc) I wanted to demonstrate that I was doing everything possible to consider their comfort. While everyones issue is different, I believe that its appreciated when we do our utmost to address any lingering doubts the girls might have;
• If you’re hesitating about having a meet – don’t – the experiences can be amazing.

Best of luck.

This is great to hear and you keep visiting the sweet shop... Sex and intimacy is for everyone regardless of disability

Kisses

[Lighthearted2022]

This is great to hear and you keep visiting the sweet shop... Sex and intimacy is for everyone regardless of disability

Kisses

Thank you! I don't actually have a disability, more of a body issue due to surgery.

I said before I wasn't embarrassed by it (and have been asked by doctors to come into hospital to talk to people about to undergo the same procedure), however it turns out that you can't help but feel a bit embarrassed when you're standing in front of a woman with a perfect body. But what I'd say to anyone concerned about their appearance is that there's girls out there who don't care once you're nice, polite, and clean - they've seen it all before - and just take the time to find the right one. The first step is the hardest

[MistressMonique]

Thank you! I don't actually have a disability, more of a body issue due to surgery.

I said before I wasn't embarrassed by it (and have been asked by doctors to come into hospital to talk to people about to undergo the same procedure), however it turns out that you can't help but feel a bit embarrassed when you're standing in front of a woman with a perfect body. But what I'd say to anyone concerned about their appearance is that there's girls out there who don't care once you're nice, polite, and clean - they've seen it all before - and just take the time to find the right one. The first step is the hardest

We are not perfect, we all have flaws and evidence of life lived so please don't feel that we are, we are all created equal irrespective of appearance

[Corsasport]

We are not perfect, we all have flaws and evidence of life lived so please don't feel that we are, we are all created equal irrespective of appearance

A beautiful answer..

[Tightsmonster]

I thought I’d update this thread following my first few weeks on the scene. I’ve been like a kid in a candy shop and actually had 4 meets this month. However my bank balance has confirmed that rate cannot continue into the future!! I’ve only written 3 reviews as the last meet was so good that I need to go back and see was it just both of us having a good day or what. Watch this space.

Maybe I’ve been lucky, but the girls I met, as well as being gorgeous, were absolute sweethearts each one, and couldn’t have done more to make me feel at ease. I was very anxious for the first meet, and still very nervous for the 4th, but like I said the girls could not be kinder or more accommodating.

I chose girls that had good english and were in their late 20’s and up, as it would be easier to describe my issue and guessed that with a bit of experience they would have seen most things by now anyway!

(As a side note, I think those old hands and escorts on here don’t realise how daunting it is for us beginners to phone an escort– I mean we’re ringing a woman asking if she wouldn’t mind getting naked & have sex with us – it’s a strange dynamic. Every single phonecall was me being flustered and stammering, hanging up, and then realising I hadn’t said all I wanted.)

With the first 2 girls I went to great lengths to explain my condition over the phone, and when I got there gave them the opportunity to decline if they wanted. Both were more taken aback by the ‘fuss’ I was making and felt I was making too big a deal of it. With the second 2 I didn’t give as much info in advance for a couple of reasons, but again when I got there and showed my scars etc it was a case of – ‘that’s nothing to be concerned about - are you getting undressed or what?’

However I did have one refusal. In that instance I didn’t have the opportunity to speak to the escort as it was an advance appointment by PM. I explained my issue and even linked my post above, but got back a refusal. I understand that this girls english may not be as good as the others (as well as being a bit younger) and she would have found it hard to figure out what I was on about. Either way its entirely her right to choose her clients and why bring a potential complication that you don’t need onto yourself? I totally understand and would support any girls right to refuse a client for any reason. While it can be a bit of a blow, those of us with any kind of body issues have to take our pride or indignation out of the equation and accept that some people just aren’t able to deal with anything out the ordinary, and why would you want to put somebody else in an uncomfortable position? The enjoyment needs to go both ways. And besides, I’d take an 80% success rate all day!

So, for the TL;DR people out there with any physical concerns they may have my advice would be;
• Read the reviews and choose a girl who has experience, she’ll have seen plenty in her career and is less likely to be phased by something new;
• Try to speak to the girl rather than by PM or text, how you speak is important and she has the chance to question you - if you're having difficulty being understood, maybe this is not the escort for you;
• Don’t be afraid to explain any concerns to the girls, you’ll find most are angels who want to make you comfortable and have an enjoyable experience;
• The mantra you read on here is actually true and not just bull – be clean, well dressed, mannerly, and polite and you’ll get a long way with most escorts. In my case, I showered and changed my dressing at every meet – its small and not strictly necessary to change (its good for 3-4 days even with going to the gym etc) I wanted to demonstrate that I was doing everything possible to consider their comfort. While everyones issue is different, I believe that its appreciated when we do our utmost to address any lingering doubts the girls might have;
• If you’re hesitating about having a meet – don’t – the experiences can be amazing.

Best of luck.

Good to hear it worked out for you. 👍

[Tightsmonster]

This is great to hear and you keep visiting the sweet shop... Sex and intimacy is for everyone regardless of disability

Kisses

Always good to hear the sweet shop is open to everyone 👍😉