Loosing a close relative .....

[Frtedcrilly]

I went through it with my dad...I didn't talk much to him as I was thinking he needs his rest, etc. I never told him how great he was, how much I loved him and appreciated him. My sister was the opposite...she spent alot of time talking to him and knew so much more than me about him in the end that would never have been talked about if he wasn't dying. I regret how I spent my last few months with my dad...it could have been much more fulfilling. He knew I loved him but I wish I told him how much.
In your case I think you should spend as much time with the person as possible...talk about the old day, the great laughs ye shared. Talk about what they would like their loved ones to do when they pass away and most importantly just be there for the person.
I'm sorry to hear you have to go through something like this...stay strong.

[Paulstevens]

How do you cope while being able to speak to that person

Its one of the most difficult things in life to cope with but unfortunately it is a reality of life
One of the reasons I'm here is because I've lost my my 2 best lifelong friends, one was very sudden, while the other was a brain tumor
You do get strength from somewhere to cope and that strength will carry you through, it's important to be kind and helpful and caring
I have also found that nobody should be afraid to tell someone close to you that you love them and what they mean and meant to you, and also never be afraid to cry, never be afraid to express your emotions. There is always a time to cry
Your a nice person, I wish you all the best in dealing with what is happening

[funboy71]

Thank you all for your heartfelt comments and advice, I do plan on spending what time is left with my loved one but I still find it difficult to discuss arrangements for after but hopefully I’ll get there with the time I have left, thank you all 😘

[bmw528]

Sorry to hear about your situation.

[JMastodon]

THE LIVING YEARS - Mike & The Mechanics

Every generation
Blames the one before
And all of their frustrations
Come beating on your door

I know that I'm a prisoner
To all my Father held so dear
I know that I'm a hostage
To all his hopes and fears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years

Oh, crumpled bits of paper
Filled with imperfect thought
Stilted conversations
I'm afraid that's all we've got

You say you just don't see it
He says it's perfect sense
You just can't get agreement
In this present tense
We all talk a different language
Talking in defence

Say it loud (say it loud), say it clear (oh say it clear)
You can listen as well as you hear
It's too late (it's too late) when we die (oh when we die)
To admit we don't see eye to eye

So we open up a quarrel
Between the present and the past
We only sacrifice the future
It's the bitterness that lasts

So don't yield to the fortunes
You sometimes see as fate
It may have a new perspective
On a different day
And if you don't give up, and don't give in
You may just be okay

So say it loud, say it clear (oh say it clear)
You can listen as well as you hear
Because it's too late, it's too late (it's too late) when we die (oh when we die)
To admit we don't see eye to eye

I wasn't there that morning
When my Father passed away
I didn't get to tell him
All the things I had to say

I think I caught his spirit
Later that same year
I'm sure I heard his echo
In my baby's new born tears
I just wish I could have told him in the living years

Say it loud, say it clear (oh say it clear)
You can listen as well as you hear
It's too late (it's too late) when we die (it's too late when we die)
To admit we don't see eye to eye
So say it, say it, say it loud (say it loud)
Say it clear (come on say it clear)

[jessicabp]

I hug you !

[kyla]

That person i'm speaking of is still alive and we don't know how long they have left, I just find it difficult to talk with them knowing what we know

I am in this exact situation myself is Shiite hell , just be strong all I can say cos other things I have no idea to tell you

[MidlifeCrisis]

How do you cope while being able to speak to that person

One thing I will say is don't chicken out because it is difficult. Later on you will regret not speaking up, or not being there.

Everyone is different. Maybe it is worth telling them how you feel if you can find the words, or maybe holding a hand is enough.

[Westsidex]

How do you cope while being able to speak to that person

Lost a lot of my family while young. In all honesty it depends on the situation and person but they come first. What I'm saying is deal with your own feelings away from them. They have enough on their plate besides worrying about how it affects you. Me , personnaly I'd just carry on like normal with them, within reason.

Westside.