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[enda915]

I meet Courtsean for time n companionship. Because I have issues dealing with being intimate and sex of Lady company. Which in my meeting with Courtsean and Ladies in personal life, has cause many problem.

I met many beautiful Courtsean. But like you Mate. Different is, you have no problem and know what you meet the Lady for.

Thing is, I struggle to get intimate with a Lady and long booking suit me. Which I book and do meeting in 2 to 4 hours, to overnight. The Lady and myself, can end up chatting 80% of time with her.

Which in 2 hours it can be 1 hour 20 min chat, or 2 hours in 3 hour 30 Min booking before, any consenting intimate take place.

Expensive to do and no fault to the Lady, as they can only do what client consent to. But I more confident now and not make a idiot of myself, with a Lady in outside life.

Better to look a idiot and nervous wreck with a Courtsean, then a Lady who think I am weird.

So to answer your question Enda915....

I see Courtsean. Because they won't judge me, if the Lady and I get intimate. But end up stopping sex half way though. Has happen few times and at least they understand and are considerate.

Also very patience, especially one Lady I met on Thursday. Couldn't do enough to encourage me to be intimate with her. She could had taken my money and chat only. But she wanted intimate, which show business sex can be fun for both.

Try that with a Lady in one night stand or dating relationship, which they think you odd n weird, if you refuse or stop sex. Plus they will drop or won't contact you again. Worst if it someone in your company. Will be the talk of the office !!!!

So meeting these Courtsean help me in way. Two Ladies now are a great help and give great advice. It does show, if you give and show respect toward them. Then a Lady in this business, want to see her clients do well and be happy.

Hope that answer your question Enda915.....

Thanks for your answer Mr Sweet Guy. Nice to see the Lady is encouraging you to be intimate with you, not a bad complaint to have on your behalf I totally get what you're saying and some of the reasons you gave I can really relate to. I also have my own personal reasons as to why I enjoy the company of some of the ladies here. Each to their own. As long as respect goes both ways and both (or more if you're lucky) parties leave happy then I see no problem. Just remember to not become so disconnected with the "real world". That is something I have noticed of myself as of late.

[enda915]

Did ye ever think of just bringing a few Sausage Rolls along with ye to break the ice a bit?

Hang sangwiches and a bag of Tayto. Maybe, just maybe, a Wispa between ye if you're feeling kinky.

[Mr Sweet Guy]

Thanks for your answer Mr Sweet Guy. Nice to see the Lady is encouraging you to be intimate with you, not a bad complaint to have on your behalf I totally get what you're saying and some of the reasons you gave I can really relate to. I also have my own personal reasons as to why I enjoy the company of some of the ladies here. Each to their own. As long as respect goes both ways and both (or more if you're lucky) parties leave happy then I see no problem. Just remember to not become so disconnected with the "real world". That is something I have noticed of myself as of late.

Thanks you Enda for understanding my issues. When I first started see Courtesan. I use to book 30 min and most time just chat.

I guess, I was looking for comfort and company. So longer appointment became a better for me now.

Sorry to hear Enda, you have your own personal issues to deal with. If meeting these Courtsean help you in away to deal with whatever your personal issues.

Then I say, go for it Mate and don't be afraid to express yourself to the Lady. You also say you can relate to some of my issues I been dealing with.

Then I truly have sympathy for you Enda. It feel a lonely dark place to be in.

When meeting a Courtsean, First thing we should be thinking, is excitement and pleasure of seeing that Lady. But it doesn't work like that for people, who are in fear of intimacy.

It on-going battle in your head. Does she like me and enjoy my company. Does this Lady want me here. Is the Lady been true and honest with herself, to want sex or not. All that run in your mind and it your conscience saying, what feel right or wrong.

I see you do 1 hour booking and can I ask, how you cope with any nervous Enda....? Pm me, if you prefer to answer like that Mate. It could be too personal to discuss here on the forum.

But will say it better to be honest and open on how you feel, to any Courtsean in their company. Then putting on a smile and trying to act different person.

Even now it take time to feel more confident in one self. Crazy Mate isn't it, that Gents do suffer fear of intimacy of Lady company. Especially been in company of beautiful looking Ladies, doesn't deter the fear of intimacy.

If one can't conquer his fear of intimacy, then why any Lady want to be his girlfriend. Who want to live in sexless relationship. Where if she touch or kiss him, he recoil and make her feel unattracted in herself.

And believe me I been told by Courtsean that it feel disrespectful, when I rebuff their sexual advances. Few Courtesan I have only met once, won't see me again.

Because I confused and rebuff their sexual advances. Which they say after, why come here if you act like that.

Enda I will say, fear of intimacy. It does disconnect you from been able to enjoy yourself in getting to know someone you like. Because you know you will just make a idiot of one self.

Other evening in the bar having a drink and two Ladies sat beside me at the bar. Both start to chat among themselves. Which one turn said to me (Hello there)

First thing came into my head was. Hello and I will leave you two in peace, to chat privately. I got up and walk away to sit on another chair. But they look at me as I was a weird and idiot. Could see they where talking about me and so I left the bar. But the humiliation I felt, was not nice.

I think people who suffer fear of intimacy with a Lady. They do find it hard to trust any Lady. When a Lady say I like you or enjoy your company. It feel like she just saying that, to make me feel good.

It a nightmare Mate... It does question one self, if they can truly enjoy touch, kiss, sex without fear. But thanks for your post Enda and I have got help, which in time will improve my confident to let go without fear.

I hope you can find and deal whatever your personal reason are and if related to anyway, what I dealing with. You are not alone Enda... Their is many other Gents, who suffer fear of intimacy and sex with a Lady.

But true you Mate, you shouldn't feel disconnected or alone. But easy to say words to someone, but hard to take action on making it better.

Hope meeting Courtsean help you and make you happy also Enda

Good Luck and take each day, as it come Enda !!!!!

[mighty899]

I have no problem talking to non escorts but its just that they find me unattractive even though i dont have any birth defects or terrible injuries.

Im tired of people saying things like "it will happen some day" or "you need to go different places".

If there were any women who read these forums looking for a man, id have no problem (assuming shes local and not in dublin)

[bmw528]

I have no problem talking to non escorts but its just that they find me unattractive even though i dont have any birth defects or terrible injuries.

Im tired of people saying things like "it will happen some day" or "you need to go different places".

If there were any women who read these forums looking for a man, id have no problem (assuming shes local and not in dublin)

How about yourself and Mister Sweet Guy going on a double appointment and he might give a few tips on how to behave with a Courtsean?.

[Mr Sweet Guy]

How about yourself and Mister Sweet Guy going on a double appointment and he might give a few tips on how to behave with a Courtsean?.

How about yourself and Mister Sweet Guy going on a double appointment and he might give a few tips on how to behave with a Courtsean?.

Well Mr Bmw

He did ask to go for a double booking and meet a separate Courtsean each, in the same apartment block. But Lady safer and discrete is no 1 priority to her.

But only tips I can give him is, to act nicely and respectively on the chair

You Mr Bmw, will have to tell him tips, on how to take the meeting to the next level

Because that where my experience, is only amateur. To some of Professional Clients here and yourself Mr Bmw

Who meet Courtsean and give the Lady a true GFE experience

But I am sure Mighty899 got his own quality and Funboy special chef spring roll, will keep his energy up during the meeting

[enda915]

Thanks you Enda for understanding my issues. When I first started see Courtesan. I use to book 30 min and most time just chat.

I guess, I was looking for comfort and company. So longer appointment became a better for me now.

Sorry to hear Enda, you have your own personal issues to deal with. If meeting these Courtsean help you in away to deal with whatever your personal issues.

Then I say, go for it Mate and don't be afraid to express yourself to the Lady. You also say you can relate to some of my issues I been dealing with.

Then I truly have sympathy for you Enda. It feel a lonely dark place to be in.

When meeting a Courtsean, First thing we should be thinking, is excitement and pleasure of seeing that Lady. But it doesn't work like that for people, who are in fear of intimacy.

It on-going battle in your head. Does she like me and enjoy my company. Does this Lady want me here. Is the Lady been true and honest with herself, to want sex or not. All that run in your mind and it your conscience saying, what feel right or wrong.

I see you do 1 hour booking and can I ask, how you cope with any nervous Enda....? Pm me, if you prefer to answer like that Mate. It could be too personal to discuss here on the forum.

But will say it better to be honest and open on how you feel, to any Courtsean in their company. Then putting on a smile and trying to act different person.

Even now it take time to feel more confident in one self. Crazy Mate isn't it, that Gents do suffer fear of intimacy of Lady company. Especially been in company of beautiful looking Ladies, doesn't deter the fear of intimacy.

If one can't conquer his fear of intimacy, then why any Lady want to be his girlfriend. Who want to live in sexless relationship. Where if she touch or kiss him, he recoil and make her feel unattracted in herself.

And believe me I been told by Courtsean that it feel disrespectful, when I rebuff their sexual advances. Few Courtesan I have only met once, won't see me again.

Because I confused and rebuff their sexual advances. Which they say after, why come here if you act like that.

Enda I will say, fear of intimacy. It does disconnect you from been able to enjoy yourself in getting to know someone you like. Because you know you will just make a idiot of one self.

Other evening in the bar having a drink and two Ladies sat beside me at the bar. Both start to chat among themselves. Which one turn said to me (Hello there)

First thing came into my head was. Hello and I will leave you two in peace, to chat privately. I got up and walk away to sit on another chair. But they look at me as I was a weird and idiot. Could see they where talking about me and so I left the bar. But the humiliation I felt, was not nice.

I think people who suffer fear of intimacy with a Lady. They do find it hard to trust any Lady. When a Lady say I like you or enjoy your company. It feel like she just saying that, to make me feel good.

It a nightmare Mate... It does question one self, if they can truly enjoy touch, kiss, sex without fear. But thanks for your post Enda and I have got help, which in time will improve my confident to let go without fear.

I hope you can find and deal whatever your personal reason are and if related to anyway, what I dealing with. You are not alone Enda... Their is many other Gents, who suffer fear of intimacy and sex with a Lady.

But true you Mate, you shouldn't feel disconnected or alone. But easy to say words to someone, but hard to take action on making it better.

Hope meeting Courtsean help you and make you happy also Enda

Good Luck and take each day, as it come Enda !!!!!

There will always be an element of nerves but finding the right lady eases proceedings. Reviews help with that, to try and gain an insight into the personality of the lady you are hoping to meet. The more reviews the better, they might mention something about her that you want or that would make things easier for you. There will always be nerves when you arrive at the door or make that phonecall but that is just a part of the thrill.

Again, I don't want to dig too personal, but it does appear that maybe you have self acceptance issues. Sure, the lady you are seeing will do their utmost to make you feel relaxed and confident but it doesn't compare to the real world.

I'm not trying to turn you away from the ladies here, but I believe "getting more out there" in the real world could really help. You alluded to the importance of the lady enjoying herself just as much as you and I think that would help. Although, it's not as easy as saying "get out more". That's my biggest issue. Work prevents me from building any meaningful relationships with "real world" ladies, hence why I use this site for some companionship so I empathise with you fully.

[Mr Sweet Guy]

There will always be an element of nerves but finding the right lady eases proceedings. Reviews help with that, to try and gain an insight into the personality of the lady you are hoping to meet. The more reviews the better, they might mention something about her that you want or that would make things easier for you. There will always be nerves when you arrive at the door or make that phonecall but that is just a part of the thrill.

Again, I don't want to dig too personal, but it does appear that maybe you have self acceptance issues. Sure, the lady you are seeing will do their utmost to make you feel relaxed and confident but it doesn't compare to the real world.

I'm not trying to turn you away from the ladies here, but I believe "getting more out there" in the real world could really help. You alluded to the importance of the lady enjoying herself just as much as you and I think that would help. Although, it's not as easy as saying "get out more". That's my biggest issue. Work prevents me from building any meaningful relationships with "real world" ladies, hence why I use this site for some companionship so I empathise with you fully.

Thanks again Enda. Yes it work and travel life that also hinder my chance of long relationship also. But one can only go so far or so much, before they want real companionship.

Had a few brief moments that never started, as here today and gone tomorrow. Will say it a business for all Courtsean. But their feeling is real, on what they happy n like to do in my company. (I can only speak for myself)

But I will always put first the Courtsean feeling before my own need. Yes their business involved consenting sex also.

Now it not a date and it just business meeting with a Courtsean.

But if I want just sex, I could just book 30 min and have sex with the Courtsean Consent. For my experience I like meet and chat to see or feel, if Lady is comfortable and happy.

If sex happen it will and if not. Then one can walk away with clear conscience.

But meeting Lady in real world is challenge and way my fear of intimacy, does hold me back from taking the next step.

But your post is spot on Enda... My own fear does make the Courtsean, probably can't enjoy my company and ruin the experience for us both.

But one Lady I met on Thursday and the review I wrote for her. Tell how great and understanding help she is. But her words she said to me is...... LET GO and fully enjoy my companionship, she want !!!

Now that my next step and it confident in one self, will make happy experience with Courtsean and real life.

Cheers Enda