Bad sex or no sex

[ford pefect]

(Asking for a friend) If you’re long term partner had no interest In sex but would oblige you if you initiated it , no foreplay or fun just lie there like a starfish , would you bother or just give up trying .
She won’t talk about it so please do not suggest that ,opinions please

[jessicabp]

Give up, bad sex is totally needless

[funboy71]

If they are not willing to talk about it then I would say that the relationship is more or less dead, If you are both unhappy then maybe it's time to move on for you both?

(Asking for a friend) If you’re long term partner had no interest In sex but would oblige you if you initiated it , no foreplay or fun just lie there like a starfish , would you bother or just give up trying .
She won’t talk about it so please do not suggest that ,opinions please

[Stephanie]

Oh !! Forgive me for saying , but I think that is just so humiliating for the partner who Wants !

I don’t know if she is aware what a horrible position she is putting you in emotionally , conveys absolute

lack of care for your feelings and self worth !

: it goes both ways though , there are r/ships where it’s the Man who is withholding affection .

And to not even be open to discussion , beyond my comprehension xx


: You are Not valued in this relationship as an equal partner ; I’d say still be kind , but find

fulfillment elsewhere so you don’t ‘annoy’ the better half , and you can hold on to your Dignity !

My heart goes out to all in such situations : man Or woman whose partner uses sex to control .

Go Play my friend ! Discreetly xxx

[Stephanie]

If they are not willing to talk about it then I would say that the relationship is more or less dead, If you are both unhappy then maybe it's time to move on for you both?

: What about the kids ?

: What about the mutual burden of mortgage and debt ? Kids’ Education ?

It’s not so easy for a father of few to “walk away” - if he’s a decent man , if the kids are young ;


and even if there are no kids >> mutual debt could keep one chained to the other-half , indefinitely .

[ford pefect]

Oh !! Forgive me for saying , but I think that is just so humiliating for the partner who Wants !

I don’t know if she is aware what a horrible position she is putting you in emotionally , conveys absolute

lack of care for your feelings and self worth !

: it goes both ways though , there are r/ships where it’s the Man who is withholding affection .

And to not even be open to discussion , beyond my comprehension xx


: You are Not valued in this relationship as an equal partner ; I’d say still be kind , but find

fulfillment elsewhere so you don’t ‘annoy’ the better half , and you can hold on to your Dignity !

My heart goes out to all in such situations : man Or woman whose partner uses sex to control .

Go Play my friend ! Discreetly xxx

But everything else in relationship is great , just this one problem , and playing discreetly is probably what keeps it together, thanks for reply

[jessicabp]

But everything else in relationship is great , just this one problem , and playing discreetly is probably what keeps it together, thanks for reply

If they are happy without sex just give more time

[Stephanie]

But everything else in relationship is great , just this one problem , and playing discreetly is probably what keeps it together, thanks for reply

So many like “your friend” out there !

If all else good , why kick it up throw it away , destroy kids’ life , be dragged through mud , lose ‘Half’

and labor for rest of your life to give over ?

If all else works , appreciate That , and find outlet for that One thing elsewhere - Don’t get found out xx

Once that sexual frustration and continued personal rejection is removed from Your Being , you will be

a happier person , be able to give more of yourself to your loved ones , And , once your spouse doesn’t

feel the ‘pressure’ to ‘put out’ , she may once again become intrigued by you , and seek your touches xxx

/ Perhaps xx

[funboy71]

Stephanie, with all due respect you're saying to stay in a loveless relationship because of kids or money, I wholeheartedly disagree !

Firstly children brought up in an environment like that can have so many issues, Children can be loved by both parents separately without having to be witness to a loveless relationship
and financially that is something that can be discussed and managed between two adults.

As far as 'Go play, Discretely', this will have added stress to the relationship on so many levels.

If one party in a relationship is unwilling to discuss the said relationship (All aspects) then is it truly worth staying in a situation like that as it will eventually
eat away at ones mental and possible physical well being.

See a professional together or go your separate ways for the sake of both and if children involved then be honest with them, they are more resilient than we give them credit for !!

: What about the kids ?

: What about the mutual burden of mortgage and debt ? Kids’ Education ?

It’s not so easy for a father of few to “walk away” - if he’s a decent man , if the kids are young ;


and even if there are no kids >> mutual debt could keep one chained to the other-half , indefinitely .

[homealone1]

(Asking for a friend) If you’re long term partner had no interest In sex but would oblige you if you initiated it , no foreplay or fun just lie there like a starfish , would you bother or just give up trying .
She won’t talk about it so please do not suggest that ,opinions please

Sadly I've been there and it's a horrible situation with no winners only losers.

Get him to go to counseling even if it's just him going to start. At least he can show he's tried.

Feel free to pm if you want to.