Cocaine

[StevieB1980]

Maybe helps her with confidence. Your friend may be good looking, but looks and what she feels inside are completely different. You could be the best looking person at a party and still have zero confidence.
Best thing to do is not judge and just be her friend and listen.

Thanks I really appreciate your input....

[StevieB1980]

First to say sorry mate to hear your friend is going through a hard time in their life.
It can't be easy for them , maybe mixing with wrong people and thinking it cool to take drugs. When it clearly not and other people who care suffer around them , as it effect you and other to who try help them.

I have a good friend who drink a lot and take drugs. Sadly in their case like your friend , you can't tell them or force them what to do with your life. Believe me I try talking and offer to help them. I even spend a week in rehab with them as they didn't want to go in alone.
But sadly it didn't work and more likely to rebel against your advice if keep pressuring them.

It tough situation to be in as you watch them slowly destroying their life , you feel helpless and powerless to do something. I know the feeling as even now I keep in contact with them , as they say I am ok and I need no help , I don't need help and I have no drink or drug problem. They even get into row with you as they think people who are their friends should be happy for them and understanding. Problem lies Steve is they have to admit first they have a problem before they seek help and that lies the problem. Admitting it to you and other before they look for help.

Only thing you can do Steve is say to them , is I be always here as your friend and whenever you need me I am here for you anytime. But I am sad and concern about you also and don't want see you hurt and sad in life. You better then this and just want to see you happy in life. But don't like to see you like this , but 100% support you and help you if you ready and need it.
That Steve is important that they have your support always , even now if they taking drugs in their life and you 100% know it wrong. Just be there for them and keep encouraging them that they don't need drugs in their life. But don't keep pushing as it only make it worse. Sadly at moment little you can do as I to trying to help my close friend , but it heartbreaking to watch them go down that road which lead to heartache for all.

Good luck Steve and I really hope they turn the life around , as 3 years now and ongoing battle to which it affect everyone who know them.

Thanks for your kind words and advice.

[StevieB1980]

..been a week .

What has MSG done to annoy you all?.....seems a bit unfair but what do I know maybe I am better off not knowing.

[beautyaddict]

I recently found out at a party that one of my best friends has taken/snorted cocaine on a few occasions (that I know of hopefully not more than that but can't be 100% sure as I am hardly watching every move she makes) and I am really worried about it.
I am not casting asperions on anyone here who does take cocaine as I don't know enough about it....it's just I have never snorted cocaine in my life (despite my curiousity as to what it's like to take and the high you get from it) as it scares me because of overdosing,it's addictiveness and side effects like paranoia.
Any advice on what to do???

Your friend has stepped onto a merry go round , the ending of which as yet unclear but she has put herself at risk. Addiction is v complex and deploys itself in different ways and intensity . Most do not realise they have crossed the line till its too late. None realise that if they become addicted they have just got themselves an incurable disease for the rest of their lives that can never be cured only managed.
few realise the grim statistics surrounding addiction . Your friend may not trip over into addiction but her chances increase over time and use.

Maybe a visit to an NA meeting might trigger reality but most likely, not she will never identify with these addicts till its too late but I know of one person who this worked for. Advice in broad terms difficult without knowing detail and i do not want to know just in case your thinking I do. My advice, show her the downside of addiction, suggest she see a Councillor , do not join in . Drugs for the vast majority do not work. I see another here saying they used cocaine to give them confidence and it worked , it worked for now next time they visit that island it may decide to not let go...so far as I know of no one got smarter whose life got better with sustained use of drugs no one and I have dealt comprehensively in this area .

You will not be alone in watching her descend if she does, wives husbands brothers sisters are all testimony to this I have seen it too many times. All you can do is your best to point out the final destination to her, if she takes notice well done you, you have saved her and her family loved ones years of turmoil and grief if she continues you have done your best .

I see MSG has given you advice , considering he has no capacity to address issues in his own life for several years now and has caused damage to others but no shortage of self gratifying advice and hand ringing on here , and done nothing about it I suggest you ignore that asshole , he is a self centered look at me fucker no more no less and I used to be his friend on here BTW

[StevieB1980]

Your friend has stepped onto a merry go round , the ending of which as yet unclear but she has put herself at risk. Addiction is v complex and deploys itself in different ways and intensity . Most do not realise they have crossed the line till its too late. None realise that if they become addicted they have just got themselves an incurable disease for the rest of their lives that can never be cured only managed.
few realise the grim statistics surrounding addiction . Your friend may not trip over into addiction but her chances increase over time and use.

Maybe a visit to an NA meeting might trigger reality but most likely, not she will never identify with these addicts till its too late but I know of one person who this worked for. Advice in broad terms difficult without knowing detail and i do not want to know just in case your thinking I do. My advice, show her the downside of addiction, suggest she see a Councillor , do not join in . Drugs for the vast majority do not work. I see another here saying they used cocaine to give them confidence and it worked , it worked for now next time they visit that island it may decide to not let go...so far as I know of no one got smarter whose life got better with sustained use of drugs no one and I have dealt comprehensively in this area .

You will not be alone in watching her descend if she does, wives husbands brothers sisters are all testimony to this I have seen it too many times. All you can do is your best to point out the final destination to her, if she takes notice well done you, you have saved her and her family loved ones years of turmoil and grief if she continues you have done your best .

I see MSG has given you advice , considering he has no capacity to address issues in his own life for several years now and has caused damage to others but no shortage of self gratifying advice and hand ringing on here , and done nothing about it I suggest you ignore that asshole , he is a self centered look at me fucker no more no less and I used to be his friend on here BTW

Wow that is some insight thanks I will take your advice on board.....won't be easy talking with her about this but I have to man up and just do it which I will over the weekend.

[Harrybigtoe]

Look, you are the only one here, who know this person and perhaps, you might even have some insight as to underlying issues that could be pushing this girl towards drugs.

My advice

Ignore 90% of page 2+3 on this thread.

Goggle is your friend here, do some proper research.

Take lots of notes and good luck.

[philipkntz]

Once they start to dabble, they don't see sense until they hit rock bottom. The kindest thing might be to see that she gets there asap.

[cum4me]

you can't watch them 24/7 and takes a special kind of friend to stick at it and help them back

[StevieB1980]

He's played God with the information he's collected on escorts (via pm) three times in the last yr n half that I've seen (on the forum.) Not a bad guy as such, supposed to be a lovely client. But his "code" only works when he's not riled up or made to defend himself, and he's too easily riled up.

You can't be judge, jury, and mass collector of information and break your "principles" so easy.

If I had a grudge with someone would I tell him MSG all the bad things that person had done, ya probably.

That's a cruel thing to say like I did right there. But he is still at it.

Wow any personal stuff sent via PM whether it be about an escort or client is confidential and should remain private.
The 'P' in 'PM' stands for private afterall.
Just shows you as we as clients are anonymous here on this forum so best to take a 'trust no one' attitude here.
I certainly won't be posting any personal information like real names or details of anyone whether they be friends,escorts or clients on PM or this forum that's for sure.

[bmw528]

Wow any personal stuff sent via PM whether it be about an escort or client is confidential and should remain private.
The 'P' in 'PM' stands for private afterall.
Just shows you as we as clients are anonymous here on this forum so best to take a 'trust no one' attitude here.
I certainly won't be posting any personal information like real names or details of anyone whether they be friends,escorts or clients on PM or this forum that's for sure.

Yes Steve, very wise words as we can fall into that trap very easy when people start sending emails about how much they care about someone and then saying horrible things about them and inventing stories.