I always find these 'first time/thinking about a bi experience' type threads slightly amusing. In my limited experience I think there are more 'sub' bi/gay guys than doms. I think a lot of guys want to be led/seduced/controlled, and I just dont think there are many women who actually want to do this. My advice is to find a trans escort you like and then have a long chat before hand about what role you want them to play and then pay the required fee and look forward to living your fantasy. Again from my limited experience, if you start introducing yourself as 'confused' or 'inexperienced' or thinking about trying a gay experience' then you will continue to be disappointed. Or worse you might end up meeting a real dom gay guy and I think that is not for the faint hearted. There are a lot of really professional trans escorts out there and if you take the trouble to set the scene first (including agreeing a fee) then the only danger is that you may end up becoming addicted to the scene. I always budget carefully because I could end up spending all my money on escorts