What is the best way to make initial contact?

[ClarkKent]

Haha yeah because I can take all day to google something clever to say! I was an ugly duckling as a child and my confidence hasn't quite caught up to the rest of me. I'm absolutely sure I've been more nervous about this whole thing than my better half. Tomorrow will be a super busy day at work, maybe I can convince her to do some talking here

[ShadowEmpress]

Hi! I'm the wife that lurks over the husband's shoulder to see what everyone has to say haha

[emilyuk]

Since I moved to Ireland, I have only had one couple actually be a couple. I remember the occasion well, I was convinced they weren't going to turn up and when they got to my location and I saw there was two of them, I was scared and excited and VERY WET I'm really into woman lol.

Lots of guys ring up asking would I see him and his wife then ask for details etc and it sends all alarm bells ringing. 99% of those calls are time wasters, so getting your wife to call (Hi ShadowEmpress) is the best means of contact. Make sure when you are looking at Escort profile you are picking Bi-Sexual ladies otherwise you'll be left disappointed.

Good luck to you, and have great fun

[Seriouslyhot]

Hi! I'm the wife that lurks over the husband's shoulder to see what everyone has to say haha

Hi
Very unusual to see a married couple who have separate profiles!

[willie wacker]

Haha yeah because I can take all day to google something clever to say! I was an ugly duckling as a child and my confidence hasn't quite caught up to the rest of me. I'm absolutely sure I've been more nervous about this whole thing than my better half. Tomorrow will be a super busy day at work, maybe I can convince her to do some talking here

Hi! I'm the wife that lurks over the husband's shoulder to see what everyone has to say haha

As said by SH unusual for the 2 of you to have separate profiles
Would it not be better to just have one and let both of you have access ?
Or have you both access to both profiles?

[Amy Alison]

You two got some very good advice here !

I could only add that some escorts would gently guide their potential clients how to easier get in touch.

Details such as "I'm only a call away", "PMs have priority", "If you can't get trough please send a text" etc. speak volumes. At least in the case of escorts who didn't just copy their profile description from somewhere else

If you ring or text, check, please do so within their working hours.

And while I agree most guys are not serious when they mention threesomes with their partners, many escorts get nervous hearing a woman's voice on the phone, with no prior warning. In my opinion still the guy should make the phone call and just specify that their partner is available to take the discussion further.

And the last thing .... the most important one: DISCUSS with each other. What goes and what doesn't. How, where, what and how much. Soft limits and hard limits. Even a cautionary "code" for the other partner to stop whatever she / he is doing in case things go a bit weird. After your session is finished, you both want to be happy, not dissapointed or jealous.

[ClarkKent]

As said by SH unusual for the 2 of you to have separate profiles
Would it not be better to just have one and let both of you have access ?
Or have you both access to both profiles?

I guess we just didn't think of that at all. We're used to having separate emails, FB, pinterest etc etc. At any rate we trust each other and do have access to both profiles (easier to see each others favorites); there's nothing fishy going on!

[ShadowEmpress]

Yeah, it didn't cross my mind at all that having two profiles would somehow be unusual (although in hindsight I understand where everyone else is coming from from an outside perspective!) We share the same password, so it's not like one of us is being shady behind the others back. We just have distinct personalities, if we shared a profile we would come across like Jekyll & Hyde on forum discussions haha! If we are at home together, it is also nice to be able to log in with the ipad, while you use the computer

[ShadowEmpress]

You two got some very good advice here !

I could only add that some escorts would gently guide their potential clients how to easier get in touch.

Details such as "I'm only a call away", "PMs have priority", "If you can't get trough please send a text" etc. speak volumes. At least in the case of escorts who didn't just copy their profile description from somewhere else

If you ring or text, check, please do so within their working hours.

And while I agree most guys are not serious when they mention threesomes with their partners, many escorts get nervous hearing a woman's voice on the phone, with no prior warning. In my opinion still the guy should make the phone call and just specify that their partner is available to take the discussion further.

And the last thing .... the most important one: DISCUSS with each other. What goes and what doesn't. How, where, what and how much. Soft limits and hard limits. Even a cautionary "code" for the other partner to stop whatever she / he is doing in case things go a bit weird. After your session is finished, you both want to be happy, not dissapointed or jealous.

Absolutely, the advice everyone has had for us has been incredibly useful! I think we are both lot more prepared for when we decide to make any future appointments. I try to pay as much attention as I can to profiles, but will definitely keep an even closer eye on the details regarding the best way to contact someone.

And thank you for your input as far as who should make the initial appointment call, it was something I had wondered about as well. I know that with threesomes in general, the etiquette rule is if the third party involved is a woman, then the female half of the couple should be the first to make contact (and vice-versa.) But I also understand why unexpectedly hearing a woman's voice over the phone could be a bit of a surprise and initially make someone nervous. I was the one to call and make our first appointment, and while I was quick to mention that I was calling to make an appointment and we ended up having a lovely chat, I could tell there was a split-second of surprise over hearing a woman's voice. The last thing I would want is for someone to think I am an angry partner! So I do really appreciate your view on this, I think we may try going about things that way for when we try to contact someone new... Unless I can get a hold of someone via PM prior to calling, I think I will let the husband take the lead on making a call, and just be nearby when he does if anyone wants to chat with me too.

And as for your last point, absolutely, communication is key! As nervous as we are about exploring new experiences and being new to the community, the one thing we have covered extensively and are very comfortable with is each other and how we feel about things. I think it helps that I was the party to bring up the initial conversation too, and had been very certain of my choice before I brought up the subject with my husband. It also was not a rushed decision for us; while we had brought up the idea of including another party shortly after getting married, at the time we decided against it because we recognized the fact that we were still newlyweds and didn't want to jeopardize our relationship then. Now we are just about to celebrate our 5th anniversary, and are very certain about our decision having thought it out more over the years. I think one thing that definitely helped evaluate how we felt was visiting strip clubs together; it is not the same of course, but a good way to see if you may have any potential for jealousy. For us we discovered it to be a great time, and were happy to find out that neither of us had any concerns... the only way I would have been jealous would be if he went without me, not because of getting dances, but because I wouldn't want to miss out on the fun myself! Because we felt comfortable discussing those experiences with each other, it certainly helped us when we wanted to talk about having another woman join us. I may be in a bit of a weird boat seeing that I am rather young to have be married and for so long, but I think having a happy and stable relationship is a must for when you decide to have a threesome

[Amy Alison]

Absolutely, the advice everyone has had for us has been incredibly useful! I think we are both lot more prepared for when we decide to make any future appointments. I try to pay as much attention as I can to profiles, but will definitely keep an even closer eye on the details regarding the best way to contact someone.

And thank you for your input as far as who should make the initial appointment call, it was something I had wondered about as well. I know that with threesomes in general, the etiquette rule is if the third party involved is a woman, then the female half of the couple should be the first to make contact (and vice-versa.) But I also understand why unexpectedly hearing a woman's voice over the phone could be a bit of a surprise and initially make someone nervous. I was the one to call and make our first appointment, and while I was quick to mention that I was calling to make an appointment and we ended up having a lovely chat, I could tell there was a split-second of surprise over hearing a woman's voice. The last thing I would want is for someone to think I am an angry partner! So I do really appreciate your view on this, I think we may try going about things that way for when we try to contact someone new... Unless I can get a hold of someone via PM prior to calling, I think I will let the husband take the lead on making a call, and just be nearby when he does if anyone wants to chat with me too.

And as for your last point, absolutely, communication is key! As nervous as we are about exploring new experiences and being new to the community, the one thing we have covered extensively and are very comfortable with is each other and how we feel about things. I think it helps that I was the party to bring up the initial conversation too, and had been very certain of my choice before I brought up the subject with my husband. It also was not a rushed decision for us; while we had brought up the idea of including another party shortly after getting married, at the time we decided against it because we recognized the fact that we were still newlyweds and didn't want to jeopardize our relationship then. Now we are just about to celebrate our 5th anniversary, and are very certain about our decision having thought it out more over the years. I think one thing that definitely helped evaluate how we felt was visiting strip clubs together; it is not the same of course, but a good way to see if you may have any potential for jealousy. For us we discovered it to be a great time, and were happy to find out that neither of us had any concerns... the only way I would have been jealous would be if he went without me, not because of getting dances, but because I wouldn't want to miss out on the fun myself! Because we felt comfortable discussing those experiences with each other, it certainly helped us when we wanted to talk about having another woman join us. I may be in a bit of a weird boat seeing that I am rather young to have be married and for so long, but I think having a happy and stable relationship is a must for when you decide to have a threesome

Very nicely said, I wish you both a lot of fun than