it really doesnt though, what's it actually depends on is relaxation, because it's a muscle at the end of the day, try pushing your way through a non relaxed muscle and see how that goes for both of you. and its not just 'oh im relaxed now
' its actually relaxing your body in that part like you would to take a shit, you gotta think of the cock like a shit, let it do the work and never use your asshole to resist
you are either going to allow it or you are not, there is no middle ground, remember the cock is attached to the body (yeah funny that eh) so the unknown fear of it coming off in your ass is sort of where the fear comes from
once the push starts through the star you have to go into having a shit mode and just let it do its thing....slide in! (opposite of shit obv)
with repeats you will become relaxed sooner and train yourself to take bigger ones, the ladies say actually its the small ones (thin) which hurt not the big ones (thicker) a bit like concentrating force on a small surface area equals more force, rather than with a wider cock its therefore less force once inside (same force with less surface area equals less force!) basically bigger cock hurts less when starting out.
a good test for relax and control is put your finger in your butt (slowly) , then try and squeeze your finger, if you can then do it again and begin to notice how you are relaxing and tensing the area to squish your finger slightly, because this is basically the control you need to develop in order to be able to relax the star area and muscles inside that you need to in order to have a more successful anal sex experience
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