I must be the only one?

[slavetoyou]

I am in a 5 year relationship with the same girl i lost my virginity to....so iv been with one girl my whole life and i do love her......it is highly likely i will end up marrying this girl.

BUT ....i am an incredibly horny guy, (whats new) and ...im pretty desperate to just have sex and be pleased sexually by other women.....does that make me a bad person? i feel awful yet here i am on an escort web page. god ive even considered heading to amsterdams red light district by myself for a couple of nights! its gotten that bad!

so....part of me REALLY just wants to have sex etc with other women and another part of me feels guilty and just awful for cheating on the only girl ive been with and am supposed to love.

this reason and one other for not visiting escorts leads me to think i must be the only one like this. the other reason being i live in belfast on botanic/lisburn road and put off visiting an escort incase of police etc.....

im 23 so im young and i always tell myself one day il visit an escort to fulfill my strong strong needs.....and still i havent
so....i take it im the only one to give a shit like this yea lol?

any advice.....anyone in a similar situation?

do any of the escorts look down on clients who are cheating on their wives and girlfriends? or do you like that?

You say it is "highly likely you will marry this girl", is that something that the two of you have discussed or is that something you feel will happen because you do not know any different as this girl is the only girl you have been with. (I presume that this girl was your first and only girlfriend not just who you lost your virginity too).

You are at a point in your life where you see the world around you and you want to explore it, to have different sexual experiences and just to live a little. This would be normal enough.

You say you are horny but does that mean your girlfriend is not horny and or sex between the two of you is either scarce, non existent or just dull. Maybe you should try explore avenues with your girlfriend. The outcome of that could be one of two things:

1. She is just as horny as you and blows your mind letting you live a happily married life.

2. She is not as horny as you and this leaves you frustrated and causes you to visit escorts.

My advise to you is try option 1 first and if that doesn't workout then you would seriously have to consider the relationship as if you were to continue then you are only setting yourself up for trouble in the future as your needs will not go away, they are what they are, needs and needs need met no matter who does it.

Don't assume you are the only one who gives a shit about cheating on their wives or girlfriends as many people do not punt and do not visit escort websites proclaiming how good they are because they give a shit. Escorts don't care what you are doing, as has been said its a business transaction. They don't judge you but they probably just wouldn't go out with you

Anyway if you have gone to the trouble of setting up an account here you are on a slippery slope so you better put your thoughts of marriage in hold (especially at 23) and think about what you want.

[SmallHorn]

Its a tough call for sure.

I know what Id do

And you are def not the only one.

[slavetoyou]

Its a tough call for sure.

I know what Id do

And you are def not the only one.

Get married?

[willie wacker]

Get married?

Fuck marriage get laid

[nitram]

If you love the lady you refer to, you will make lover to her with all of your body & mind. However, if you see an escort you will have sex with her using your body but where will your mind be ?
Right now your mind is focused on getting laid, but in marriage, sex is but a small if not important part of your relationship, living life, sharing moments, laughing together and facing the ups and downs of a life together and planning your future is what really counts. Yes it's nice to fantasize about sex with loads of women but there can be a price to pay.
As to your question about escorts judging you yes they do, your manners, respect, hygiene, etc. all come under examination, your relationship status NO, If you respect the escort she will respect you.

[jd1]

The choice is yours but be aware that once you start you probably wont stop seeing escorts;it becomes addictive and the cost might be greater than lots of cash especially if you are married or in a long term relationship.But then again I think 23 is way too young to be settling down--30++ for that IMO.

[The Hound]

I am in a 5 year relationship with the same girl i lost my virginity to....so iv been with one girl my whole life and i do love her......it is highly likely i will end up marrying this girl.

BUT ....i am an incredibly horny guy, (whats new) and ...im pretty desperate to just have sex and be pleased sexually by other women.....does that make me a bad person? i feel awful yet here i am on an escort web page. god ive even considered heading to amsterdams red light district by myself for a couple of nights! its gotten that bad!

so....part of me REALLY just wants to have sex etc with other women and another part of me feels guilty and just awful for cheating on the only girl ive been with and am supposed to love.

this reason and one other for not visiting escorts leads me to think i must be the only one like this. the other reason being i live in belfast on botanic/lisburn road and put off visiting an escort incase of police etc.....

im 23 so im young and i always tell myself one day il visit an escort to fulfill my strong strong needs.....and still i havent
so....i take it im the only one to give a shit like this yea lol?

any advice.....anyone in a similar situation?

do any of the escorts look down on clients who are cheating on their wives and girlfriends? or do you like that?

If you do continue and continue posting you should consider putting far less personal details and specific details in your posts.

[Petros]

This is a rather tough one to answer!

As has been said at 23 if you start seeing escorts than it could become a slippery slope.

As for only ever being with one girl — well, perhaps you guys are meant to be together but the fact that you have signed up on here I think your mind is wandering and wondering is the grass greener on the other side of the fence?

What I fear is that if you do marry this girl that you will always be wondering what it is like to be with another girl. This could eat away at you and cause trouble in your relationship.

You may thin that visiting an escort is an easy fix to seeing what other girls are like to be with — well, you will see another side but it is very much a false side! You are paying these girls and they will want to make sure that you are happy — it is not like a relationship in the real world.

Your girlfriend is someone who you are in a relationship with 24/7 — an escort is just for the time you pay for. There is no comparison when it comes to a relationship! As far as the sex goes — well, there is more to a good relationship than just sex.

[bettercallsaul]

BUT ....i am an incredibly horny guy, (whats new) and ...im pretty desperate to just have sex and be pleased sexually by other women.....does that make me a bad person?

That makes you male not a bad person,what you do about it is what would potentially make you a bad person in your girlfriends eyes at least.