Could you, would you?

[Stephanie]

Indeed - so many of the ladies on here are extremely intelligent and have excellent communication and social skills.

These are special women but they are also normal people in that they have feelings, they eat in such places as 1. McDonalds, shop in 2. SuperValu and Tesco, order 3. pizza, 4. watch TV and do much the same other mundane things as us clients do - we are all people trying to get on in this world.

I see so many threads asking questions where it would appear people assume these ladies are from another planet - ATEOTD 5. after work they are just the same as the rest of us, apart from still being drop dead gorgeous in most cases LOL

1. McDonalds -- once a year or so :

a convenience , but what a scrumptious guilty pleasure ! More likely Patrick G.s for fare though x

2. Marks & S -- like their quality , great produce , like the 'civilized' ambiance lol x

3. Hawaiian or Shroom & Pepperoni -- haven't had pizza in yeeeeaaaars ! should remedy that x

when back in town , should do rugby afternoon x

4. TV -- bah , boring me : NatGeo , Discovery , History , Animal Planet , .... educational stuff. Love it on my days off x

and of course CNN , and SkyNews , and MSNBC , and Bloomberg , ah , what fun lol !

5. "After work theyre just the same as the rest pf us" ... -- well , the way I do my entertaining , when I have

someone in my company I fully , completely focus on that person to read their even slightest twitch or inclination ,

their desire.

Without having to 'discuss' , I know what would knock the socks off of that particular person. xx

That's what I am here for : to entertain to my Clients' pleasure -- on my terms at all times. It is such a balancing act ,

intense attention and complete focus to guess and intuit what his pleasure might be even before he himself would know it.

I love it !

It takes a full mind and heart commitment to be like so , to engage lightly and lightheartedly while the whole time

anticipating this particular person's need. As all ye are not the same !!

So , at the end of the day , when I take my private time , the very last thing I'd want to do is engage with someone ,

with anyone ! on any meaningful level.

After a week or so of working I need to take time off to be quiet , to find solitude , to recharge.

Perhaps other girls work differently , but I just do not see how this lifestyle (that is fun !!) could be conducive to a solid ,

well founded , have-a-future relationship. And is that not , what marriage is supposed to be about ?

Perhaps it's my own shortcoming xx

[slavetoyou]

I commend all the guys who are so openminded as to see us as a human being first and foremost , job notwithstanding.

I wish there were more people like that in society at large ; perhaps then , we would not be facing such restrictive

and counterproductive and punitive and discriminatory legislation as we are facing today : to victimise the sex worker and

make a pariah out of otherwise law abiding citizen men.

However , all that said , ye enlightened men , willing to marry a sex worker :

Tell me this >> how will you feel when your loved one , your Significan Other goes off to work , and you know she

will be engaging in various physical , sexual , most intimate acts with several

(or in an even worse case -- with a single one reg ) Client/s ? She likely will even have an orgasm or two. That being the

most intimate moment of all imo. Or suck a mickey or two. Will you just block it out ?

: It is all good and applaud-worthy to have such an open mind to begin with , but truly , how would you feel kissing those lips

(either set of lips) when she walks out the door , knowing that a handful of men will 'kiss' the same just while she is out on this day.

Can you truly handle it ???

How about when she gets home after a day's 'work' and she's tired , mentally emotionally exhausted ,

wants nothing more than some food on the table and a hug at most. No conversation , just space. Can you handle it ?

It all sounds so exotic , to be in a r/ship with an Escort ..

But I tell you this , if you ask a house painter if he wants to paint a house after his workday , if you ask a mechanic if he

wants to fix a car in his off time , if you even ask a surgeon if he wants to operate on his day off , I tell you most certainly ,

their answer will likely be No. And so the same with (most of) us. : the exotic wears off quick , and at the end of the

day we really are just like anybody else -- with good days , with bad days , with bad hair days , and with time of the month

crankiness , and personal issues and baggage and responsibilities that you had never seen as a client.

Because that is what our 'job' is : to always be in top form , to always be happy , to always 'be there ' for you ,

to always look our best , to always smile , to always be horny , to always be entertaining , to always be accepting and

welcoming , and in my case to always be true.

That's a lot of always as part of the job , and most certainly on my time off I do not want to always push my own

issues or concerns to the back.

And so the question arises : r/ships being as difficult as they are to begin with even in the 'real world' , why would you want

the extra strain of your potential partner being a sex worker ? Are we really truly "once in a lifetime" ?

Ye who've been there with an escort , you know.

Ye who dream of , think again xx

I think many may have a romantic notion about dating an escort but I think what really matters here is if there is a real connection or not. Everybody has the same issues no matter what your work, tired, bit of stress about some trivial thing, a nurse is just as likely to be off form after work as an escort would be so it is wrong in my opinion to categorise a sex workers as someone who it is difficult to have a relationship with. I know people who are controlling of their women who do not like them talking to other men nor mind engaging in a sexual acts so that is common in all types of relationships with all kind of professions. Like all relationships the escort client one is as likely to work or fail as the carpenter shop assistant one as long as from the start each is fully aware of what one another does for a living at the start.
All relationships need work and understanding so if there is a genuine "love" there then what each does for a living shouldn't matter.

[Stephanie]

I have heard of relationships between escorts and punters in the past. It can be wonderful, but it also is difficult. Steph has really analysed it well here. Whereas both in the relationship assure loyalties and commitment it still niggles away at the back of ones mind. Is my punter lover punting? Is my escort lover really just "doing the job"... always?

I think it would be harder for the punter. Probably way in over his head and with the constant worry that any day the escort could be swept off her feet by a charming client, and the game could be up. Can the escort really leave emotion at the door when she entertains a client, especially a nice regular. It is even more upsetting when the escort is entertaining on an overnight.

She will probably constantly assure you the she is just going through the motions, and that none of these clients interest her in the slightest. But you will always be so conscious... you were just a client too once!

I wouldn't want to , I wouldn't know how to work like that.

If my heart is not right there , I wouldn't want to be there.

If my heart is not present , it's a cheat , and I do not want to be a party to that.

It would make me feel awful to engage in an act that I do not enjoy , I do not want.

When I feel myself becoming more and more distant , more detached , I know it's time for a Holiday.

: Really , there's only so much emotional richness any one person possesses , and giving of myself each and every day ,

eventually it wears away , I run out of 'give' , and find myself holding back.

That's when I know it's time to take some time off , to re engage my heart and caress my soul >>>

to be able to come back , and give a hundred percent of who I am , to the pleasure of my guests xxx

[EIFII]

Absolutely would, no hesitation, if there was a definite mutual connection.

There was me thinking you were a leading example of a guy who had formed a "definite mutual connection"?


Unlike that langer manwhore, JAMESCORK

[JAMESCORK]

There was me thinking you were a leading example of a guy who had formed a "definite mutual connection"?


Unlike that langer manwhore, JAMESCORK

Funny man Flyboy...

I wouldn't want to , I wouldn't know how to work like that.

If my heart is not right there , I wouldn't want to be there.

If my heart is not present , it's a cheat , and I do not want to be a party to that.

It would make me feel awful to engage in an act that I do not enjoy , I do not want.

When I feel myself becoming more and more distant , more detached , I know it's time for a Holiday.

: Really , there's only so much emotional richness any one person possesses , and giving of myself each and every day ,

eventually it wears away , I run out of 'give' , and find myself holding back.

That's when I know it's time to take some time off , to re engage my heart and caress my soul >>>

to be able to come back , and give a hundred percent of who I am , to the pleasure of my guests xxx

You know Steph, whereas I applaud your ethics and commitment to your work I still find it hard to believe you click with ALL your clients. I mean surly there is a few you don't REALLY like and just put on that pleasant smiling face and get on with it.

Unless of course... you are the luckiest escort in Ireland.

[Curvaceous Kate]

I think the white knights are not thinking the scenario out propely.

Could they deal with the wife having sex all day with anybody that has money?

What if the wife had a client then it turned out to be your friend?

You come home after a long day at work and look to be intimate but the wife has had enough sex all day 4,5,6 maybe!

I think most of the lads here couldn't handle if the sex work continued.

I don't think I could marry an escort but I would have no problem marrying a retired escort.

You are probably right, but then there is an assumption that the Escort has no intention of leaving the profession or any possibility of having reached her goals, which may not be the case. I think the average working life span of a Sex Working is around 5 to 10 years, so not a life time career.

I would say any man expecting to be kept by a Sex Worker may be barking up the wrong tree. The money may be good, but it's usually already spoken for and if there is a career change ahead it could well be the guy who is going to have to pay the lion share until the adjustments have been made. As I said before, it's all about compromise.

[philipkntz]

Marry an escort? Certainly. Not sure that I could afford all the sex though.

[randy]

Could you, would you...

marry an escort?

or, if you don't believe in marriage, enter a long term arrangement?

Perhaps you are already married; would you consider a "change"?

No?

Why not?

Would have no problem in doing so......I asked the question to a lady on here.....got a hesitant ''yes''.....still waiting for a definitive answer.....any way what ever happens...we will always be friends.

[slavetoyou]

Marry an escort? Certainly. Not sure that I could afford all the sex though.

I think you would find being married to any woman will cost you a lot more to have sex with than an escort.

[Stephanie]

....

You know Steph, whereas I applaud your ethics and commitment to your work I still find it hard to believe you click with ALL your clients. I mean surly there is a few you don't REALLY like and just put on that pleasant smiling face and get on with it.

Unless of course... you are the luckiest escort in Ireland.

Of course I don't click with all my clients. That'd be quite impossible imo , but I do have great chemistry with most ,

and clickety click awesome with a select few > 'lucky me' xx

But : dealing with the occasional 'less than perfect' encounter is very different from "parking her feelings at the door".

(sorry , just checked : "leaving emotions at the door").

I would never want to do this job if I had to leave my emotions at the door. In fact I wouldn't want to do any job ,

or be in any long term situation in my life , if what was required of me to deal with it was to leave my emotions behind.

If you have to leave your emotions behind , it's your own self telling you something is wrong , and you shouldn't be there.

I don't want to live like that. Read my Sig xx

I lead a life where I can sleep peacefully at night , with a clear conscience , with a clear untroubled mind and soul.

I want to be 'present' in my life x

So , in that respect yes ,

I do count myself as one of the luckiest escorts , and one of the luckiest persons in Ireland , and otherwise xx






As an aside : the very few that amble my way that shouldn't have , find themselves in a hurry to leave.

I do not suffer fools xxx