Could you, would you?

[Curvaceous Kate]

Out of the question,once a whore
always a whore.Thats it.
Don't get me wrong please,there
a few ladies I visit from time to time I care for deeply,and I
would try to help if I could.
But there's no way,I'd ever get involved
romantically.Thats just the way I roll.

You are completely and utterly wrong. Many Escorts avoid relationships while they are working because they are Monogamous and it would be going against the grain to work and be in love with one person.

Many Sex Workers choose the occupation, because it is the route to a better life, not because they are sex mad and rampant.

Many Sex Workers hold back with clients, so they can keep something special between themselves and he person that they love.

Most sex workers view it purely as a 'job' and not as their sex life, so if they were to change jobs, it would not be a burning ambition to still have sex with many different people, it would purely be the start of a new chapter in their life and if they wanted sex, then they would go to their partner.

If anything it is the Sex Worker who would be suspicious of the Client they were settling with, as they are often the ones that desire variety or were seeking sex within a relationship.

Personally I believe in treating every person as an individual and finding out the reasons why they are where they are in life and what their motivation is. I feel it is wrong to put people in boxes and make huge assumptions on their feelings and their needs in life. We all need to be loved and we all deserve love, it's what we do with it that matters.

I would say the question here for me is more to do with if the sex work continues once you are a couple and if you can handle that, or do you work towards leaving the profession and moving on to another chapter of life together? When you love someone you are willing to compromise and look for solutions. If not, it's not really love at all and that is for both sides, not just the sex worker.

[Playitsam]

A definite yes . There is one , but like everything else in life it's complicated .

[sixfourblond]

I don't see why marrying an escort would be different to marrying a woman from a different profession — the main reason I would marry any woman would be because I love her and that she would love me!

I don't see why someone who works as an escort should be thought of any differently when it comes to a relationship, she is a woman, not some sort of alien.

Having said that though I don't see such a situation arising as most ladies who work as escorts try to keep their business away from their social life. It is easier for them to be somewhat detached which is totally understandable.

As for me well, any escort I have met would be so far out of my league that I would never have got to meet them in their social world and I am sure that working as an escort would not lower their standards so much that I would appear on their radar as someone they would like to spend the rest of their life with.

Well said. I am sick of of posts on here which dehumanize the girls. I have met many who are head and shoulders above the rest both physically but more important intellectually.

[mcgurk123]

I would its just a job and the end of the day and escorts have normal lifes away from the job so why not.

[Best Before]

Could you, would you...

marry an escort?

or, if you don't believe in marriage, enter a long term arrangement?

Perhaps you are already married; would you consider a "change"?

No?

Why not?

Probably best to question your own suitability to get married after starting a thread like this!!

[Petros]

Well said. I am sick of of posts on here which dehumanize the girls. I have met many who are head and shoulders above the rest both physically but more important intellectually.

Indeed - so many of the ladies on here are extremely intelligent and have excellent communication and social skills.

These are special women but they are also normal people in that they have feelings, they eat in such places as McDonalds, shop in SuperValu and Tesco, order pizza, watch TV and do much the same other mundane things as us clients do - we are all people trying to get on in this world.

I see so many threads asking questions where it would appear people assume these ladies are from another planet - ATEOTD after work they are just the same as the rest of us, apart from still being drop dead gorgeous in most cases LOL

[slavetoyou]

Out of the question,once a whore
always a whore.Thats it.
Don't get me wrong please,there
a few ladies I visit from time to time I care for deeply,and I
would try to help if I could.
But there's no way,I'd ever get involved
romantically.Thats just the way I roll.

You my friend are a touch of class, your use of the queens English would do her majesty proud. Reading over some of your reviews your description of your encounters are like a brainstorming session for the screen writers of 50 shades of grey. I'm sure all the escorts hearts skipped a beat when they read you would not be available to any of them (even the ones you care about deeply) for either the marriage of their dreams or for some long time fun and frolics.
I'm sure there is a non whore type lady out there who would snap up the chance to be in a relationship with a punter, what do they say, "once a punter, always a punter" so it may come as a surprise to you that your generosity with your feelings to some of the ladies you have met means as much to them as it appears they do to you, and after the point you close the door behind you and your 30 mins of love making and generous €100 donation are long forgotten, I'm sure they pull themselves together for their next client.
Best of luck with love, I'm sure you will make some lady very happy.

[Stephanie]

I commend all the guys who are so openminded as to see us as a human being first and foremost , job notwithstanding.

I wish there were more people like that in society at large ; perhaps then , we would not be facing such restrictive

and counterproductive and punitive and discriminatory legislation as we are facing today : to victimise the sex worker and

make a pariah out of otherwise law abiding citizen men.

However , all that said , ye enlightened men , willing to marry a sex worker :

Tell me this >> how will you feel when your loved one , your Significan Other goes off to work , and you know she

will be engaging in various physical , sexual , most intimate acts with several

(or in an even worse case -- with a single one reg ) Client/s ? She likely will even have an orgasm or two. That being the

most intimate moment of all imo. Or suck a mickey or two. Will you just block it out ?

: It is all good and applaud-worthy to have such an open mind to begin with , but truly , how would you feel kissing those lips

(either set of lips) when she walks out the door , knowing that a handful of men will 'kiss' the same just while she is out on this day.

Can you truly handle it ???

How about when she gets home after a day's 'work' and she's tired , mentally emotionally exhausted ,

wants nothing more than some food on the table and a hug at most. No conversation , just space. Can you handle it ?

It all sounds so exotic , to be in a r/ship with an Escort ..

But I tell you this , if you ask a house painter if he wants to paint a house after his workday , if you ask a mechanic if he

wants to fix a car in his off time , if you even ask a surgeon if he wants to operate on his day off , I tell you most certainly ,

their answer will likely be No. And so the same with (most of) us. : the exotic wears off quick , and at the end of the

day we really are just like anybody else -- with good days , with bad days , with bad hair days , and with time of the month

crankiness , and personal issues and baggage and responsibilities that you had never seen as a client.

Because that is what our 'job' is : to always be in top form , to always be happy , to always 'be there ' for you ,

to always look our best , to always smile , to always be horny , to always be entertaining , to always be accepting and

welcoming , and in my case to always be true.

That's a lot of always as part of the job , and most certainly on my time off I do not want to always push my own

issues or concerns to the back.

And so the question arises : r/ships being as difficult as they are to begin with even in the 'real world' , why would you want

the extra strain of your potential partner being a sex worker ? Are we really truly "once in a lifetime" ?

Ye who've been there with an escort , you know.

Ye who dream of , think again xx

[Irishrover74]

Out of the question,once a whore
always a whore.Thats it.
Don't get me wrong please,there
a few ladies I visit from time to time I care for deeply,and I
would try to help if I could.
But there's no way,I'd ever get involved
romantically.Thats just the way I roll.

You really sound like some pr1ck & your reviews back that up.
I'm sure the ladies love to see your reviews which just seem to boost your ego on your manhood size.
Its a pity your brain is not as big and if it is maybe you should open your mind
You know nothing about these woman to label them as whores. God help your wife or gf if you have that opinion of woman.

[JAMESCORK]

I commend all the guys who are so openminded as to see us as a human being first and foremost , job notwithstanding.

I wish there were more people like that in society at large ; perhaps then , we would not be facing such restrictive

and counterproductive and punitive and discriminatory legislation as we are facing today : to victimise the sex worker and

make a pariah out of otherwise law abiding citizen men.

However , all that said , ye enlightened men , willing to marry a sex worker :

Tell me this >> how will you feel when your loved one , your Significan Other goes off to work , and you know she

will be engaging in various physical , sexual , most intimate acts with several

(or in an even worse case -- with a single one reg ) Client/s ? She likely will even have an orgasm or two. That being the

most intimate moment of all imo. Or suck a mickey or two. Will you just block it out ?

: It is all good and applaud-worthy to have such an open mind to begin with , but truly , how would you feel kissing those lips

(either set of lips) when she walks out the door , knowing that a handful of men will 'kiss' the same just while she is out on this day.

Can you truly handle it ???

How about when she gets home after a day's 'work' and she's tired , mentally emotionally exhausted ,

wants nothing more than some food on the table and a hug at most. No conversation , just space. Can you handle it ?

It all sounds so exotic , to be in a r/ship with an Escort ..

But I tell you this , if you ask a house painter if he wants to paint a house after his workday , if you ask a mechanic if he

wants to fix a car in his off time , if you even ask a surgeon if he wants to operate on his day off , I tell you most certainly ,

their answer will likely be No. And so the same with (most of) us. : the exotic wears off quick , and at the end of the

day we really are just like anybody else -- with good days , with bad days , with bad hair days , and with time of the month

crankiness , and personal issues and baggage and responsibilities that you had never seen as a client.

Because that is what our 'job' is : to always be in top form , to always be happy , to always 'be there ' for you ,

to always look our best , to always smile , to always be horny , to always be entertaining , to always be accepting and

welcoming , and in my case to always be true.

That's a lot of always as part of the job , and most certainly on my time off I do not want to always push my own

issues or concerns to the back.

And so the question arises : r/ships being as difficult as they are to begin with even in the 'real world' , why would you want

the extra strain of your potential partner being a sex worker ? Are we really truly "once in a lifetime" ?

Ye who've been there with an escort , you know.

Ye who dream of , think again xx

I have heard of relationships between escorts and punters in the past. It can be wonderful, but it also is difficult. Steph has really analysed it well here. Whereas both in the relationship assure loyalties and commitment it still niggles away at the back of ones mind. Is my punter lover punting? Is my escort lover really just "doing the job"... always?

I think it would be harder for the punter. Probably way in over his head and with the constant worry that any day the escort could be swept off her feet by a charming client, and the game could be up. Can the escort really leave emotion at the door when she entertains a client, especially a nice regular. It is even more upsetting when the escort is entertaining on an overnight.

She will probably constantly assure you the she is just going through the motions, and that none of these clients interest her in the slightest. But you will always be so conscious... you were just a client too once!