Why do you visit escorts?

[happy shy lad]

Why do we vist Escorts. I had some wonderful relationship of the years and they all ended after a few year of being together and were all nice looking ladies. Last relationship end out of the blue by text and we meet up and fixed things out and about a month later same thing again and I said to hell with relationship. Each one ended you a lovely guy and I never being treated like this in my life. I need a break it not your fault. And a few months down the road they are ring or text you back can we get back together. After breaking my heart NO. So I joined EI and started finding some lovely ladies and there so any pick from and I only wish I could see them all. It's lovely to spend time with an escort and enjoy there company. I will get around to see more lovely escorts.

[Vitruvian]

Initially my reasons were valid, nesseccery.
For a while now, I have had no reason to be here, I struggled with my conscience, questioned why, yet knowing my greatest challenge is but to myself, since I have found a balance, a comfort, just enough that I can let myself linger here a little longer, then be gone.

[simon2280]

[QUOTE=Clyde;1404758]For the crack............... Like...!!![/QUOTE

Well Clyde you old mucker....Spanish Crack still best,

[Ric Hardgear]

Apologies if this has either been done to death or is in the wrong section.

For me, I've started visiting them because I'm in my late 20's and have never had a girlfriend. I've love shyness (for those who don't know http://www.love-shy.com/faq).

In the last while, it had started to eat away at me that I'm soon to be 30 and have never been with a woman. I felt an utter failure and led to depression. In light of the death of Robin Williams, something snapped inside me and made me realise life is too short and that I had to know what it was like.

It's an incredible feeling, being with a beautiful woman. And one I want to experience again and again.

I don't think the depression will ever lift permanently, but at least I no longer feel a failure.

I havent come across any escorts that have" sympathy rides " listed in their fav

[Jakek]

I visit them because I like to have some variety in my sex life and I don't want the any emotional complications that having girlfriends would bring

Escorts cost less than girlfriends too, and are better looking as well

[johnb59]

Visiting escorts for me is purely about the sex and with as little complications as possible no affairs just visit pay and leave.visiting an escort is within my time frame. Having an affair means it's alot of time and lying to explain? So 30-60 mins now and again is just right for me

[slavetoyou]

Because I craved the attention of a beautiful dominant woman. I wanted to be her slave. I have had that need since I was a child and have tried to satisfy that need with "normal" ladies but it never worked so I turned to "escorts" who are service providers hoping they could help. Unfortunately they couldn't either but I had great fun trying.
But I did meet one escort who did satisfy my desire to be a slave so I begged and begged and proved and proved my worth to her and then I became her slave.
You could say I visited escorts to feel "normal"

[ZVN60]

hold on. Your contradicting yourself. You said you didnt have what it took to be in a relationship and then you say you went off with an escort. You are not going to have a relationship with an escort. They are providing a service. There will be no relationship with them, i can guarantee.

Now my point is that you are still basing your esteem on being with a woman, as if almost the image of being alone haunts you. There are a lot of men not in relationships who are mentally stable. So why are they stable and you not?

Firstly, how am I contradicting myself? I've said that, after finding out others were in the same boat as me, I've come out of my shell a hell of a lot and have gained a new-found confidence. Which has lead to a good job and having the courage to book an escort. I've never said that I "didn't have what it took" to be in a relationship at all. And where you're getting this idea that I have it in my head that I'll have a relationship with an escort.

Once again, you're making a number of assumptions.

And as for the self esteem comment, I'll reiterate: if you've got to your late 20's and you've never had sex, a girlfriend, someone kiss you, hold you or even told you that they think you're cute/pretty/whatever, it does have a detrimental effect. Those men you refer to have undoubtedly had something in the past, so they can judge if a relationship is worth the hassle or not. I had not even touched a woman (until recently).Bit of an extreme comparison, but it's like saying to someone who was born without legs "walking's overrated anyway." How can you know if you've never had the chance

You have said from the outset that you are love shy. (Im saying no such thing exists.) but if you are saying you are love shy, it means you have anxiety about yourself and your place in the world. this anxiety comes in part from failure within the dating scene and the cycle continues. All im trying to do is give you advice, which is: Be yourself and dont beat yourself up over that failure.

I've no problem whatsoever with advice, but making assumptions (like the previous paragraph) don't really help your cause at all.

<personable enough to pass the interview> first of all love shyness has nothing to do with interviews, unless you plan on dating your interviewer. Second of all and more pertinent, by saying you are not "personable" you are already beating yourself up. You are already saying you dont have a chance and like i said, if you dont give yourself a chance, you dont stand a chance.

More wild assumptions.

I've said that that's what I thought at the time, but now I think differently. Because I have the job after all.

[Petros]

I visit escorts because I am not in a relationship and I love spending some time in the company of beautiful ladies. Also, while I have gone without sex for long periods I do like sex and decided I needed to do something about this as it was getting me down.

I don't think the depression will ever lift permanently, but at least I no longer feel a failure.

I understand where you are coming from here - while visiting an escort for an hour is not going to turn your life completely around, the fantasy that you experience for that hour can do wonders for your self esteem which you can then carry out to the real world.

I have gone through some rough times in my personal life over the last 2 years but having the chance to escape every now and then and be totally pampered by a beautiful woman, one who I know I would never in a million years get near in real life has helped me get through the hard times.

[bettercallsaul]

Apologies if this has either been done to death or is in the wrong section.

For me, I've started visiting them because I'm in my late 20's and have never had a girlfriend. I've love shyness (for those who don't know http://www.love-shy.com/faq).

In the last while, it had started to eat away at me that I'm soon to be 30 and have never been with a woman. I felt an utter failure and led to depression. In light of the death of Robin Williams, something snapped inside me and made me realise life is too short and that I had to know what it was like.

It's an incredible feeling, being with a beautiful woman. And one I want to experience again and again.

I don't think the depression will ever lift permanently, but at least I no longer feel a failure.

To have a good time and enjoy stress free activities without the strings of a relationship.