Friends

[sara26]

But you see you have mentioned "friends" and then "real friends".

I guess what I was asking is can a client/escort ever be "real friends"

Personally, I would be friendly with a couple of ladies from this website. I enjoy their company & have a great time in their presence. Yet, while we may be friends of sorts, I would never class out relationship as "real". There are professional boundaries which I expect & respect!!

I'm friendly with everyone
I get your point and i'm with you on this one. I have a few people that i met trough this job who i am very close with but there are boundaries to be respected. We always have great time and great conversations and we might even do the ''hi, hope you're keeping well'' text during the week but outside of that, they have their own life where i don't come into and i have my own life where it would be hard for me to explain the circumstances of our '' friendship''

[Petros]

But you see you have mentioned "friends" and then "real friends".

I guess what I was asking is can a client/escort ever be "real friends"

Well, my friendship is "real" but how deep is that friendship? That is a different question.

ATEOTD the client/escort relationship will and should remain on a professional basis. But, as in everything else in this life nothing is ever as clear cut as that and different people will react differently with each other.

While it may happen on the very odd occasion this is not an area to come to if you are looking to find friends

[sara26]

LOL - It was not like that at all. I needed something collected and delivered for my mother and this lady lived very close by whereas I was much further away. She offered to do it for me to help me out as I was up to my eyes with another situation.

Sorry, i had to ask as i'm a bit old fashioned... when someone gets to meet my parents then it's serious stuff
It was very nice of the girl to offer helping you. Have you thought about all the consequences when introducing an escort to your friends, family? What if someone recognizes her, how will you explain it? And are you ready to stand up for her? I don't want to be mean, i am an escort too but let's be real, this industry has a certain stigma attached and i see it very hard to change.

[Petros]

Sorry, i had to ask as i'm a bit old fashioned... when someone gets to meet my parents then it's serious stuff
It was very nice of the girl to offer helping you. Have you thought about all the consequences when introducing an escort to your friends, family? What if someone recognizes her, how will you explain it? And are you ready to stand up for her? I don't want to be mean, i am an escort too but let's be real, this industry has a certain stigma attached and i see it very hard to change.

I totally understand where you are coming from She was indeed very nice, genuine and helpful to me

As for introducing an escort to my friends..... Well, obviously I would not introduce her as an escort but as a friend. As for someone recognising her as an escort - well, the chances would be very slim IMO. Many escorts blur their faces in their ads plus many look a tad different when out in jeans and t-shirt going about their everyday business.

Having said that though I would not have an have a problem if someone thought they recognised her as an escort. If I like the person what has it got to do with anyone else? I am not married or in a relationship so I don't have to hide anything!

[Petros]

I forgot to answer this...

And are you ready to stand up for her?

Most definitely - I would stand up for any lady who I met on here and got on with!

[jamieboyo]

Maybe the icon would have been a better choice.
No I would not marry anyone just for the bank balance.
In reality if a person were obnoxious or rude no way would I spend too much time with them let alone marry them.
Money can buy the pretence of friendship but never the real connection of people enjoying each others company.
I am excellent friends with some of my clients but would never overstep the privacy for either party.
I know some of my clients are married and maybe ones who are saying they are single are not, not for me to ask and is for me to remind them not to give away too much personal information.
If we are getting too chummy when talking and either of us about to overstep the privacy we wink or nudge each other, that I believe is why we are such good friends because we can all trust each other to respect boundaries - this with a few of my clients not just one.
People often talk about not falling in love but no one ever says anything about being friends who respect each other.
I think it is easy to be friends in Escort World but not to bring the friendship in to Real World, too much harm could be done.

Those of us who have replied seem to be singing from the same hymn sheet on this subject anyway, which is always a good thing!!

I wonder how one deals with the situation where an escort tries to convince the client that they are actually "real" friends however; -maybe to manipulate him to take longer bookings for example!!. I'm sure it's a rare enough occurrence, but I believe it does happen occasionally (you know what they say about a fool and his money!!).......What do ye think???

[sara26]

-maybe to manipulate him to take longer bookings for example!!.

In this case, the words respect, trust and friendship do not come anywhere near the situation. It's up to the client to figure out if there really is some sort of '' friendship'' or it's just a very good marketing strategy

[sara26]

I forgot to answer this...



Most definitely - I would stand up for any lady who I met on here and got on with!

That's because you are enough open minded to see the person behind the name and the job. But there aren't too many who would do that. Some, because it would involve too many risks, some because they value too much what others say or think and they wouldn't want to be judged.

[Petros]

The Escort may be with your using her real name or if using her work name and one of your friends knows her in real World they are going to wonder why the person they know is using a different name.
For me it would be too high a risk.
I mention sometimes that I have a son so maybe I am more protective of my privacy and have given it a lot of thought, but when I protect my privacy I am also protecting his.
For me I am happy to be friends but not to connect the two worlds.

I can appreciate that you need to keep your private life private and as you say, you have a son so in your case it is not just you that you have to worry about.

In one sense I am lucky in that I am in a different situation and don't have to worry about anyone else getting hurt. As for the escort, the chances are that she will not be local or even Irish for that matter so will probably be departing our shores anyway.

[Petros]

That's because you are enough open minded to see the person behind the name and the job. But there aren't too many who would do that. Some, because it would involve too many risks, some because they value too much what others say or think and they wouldn't want to be judged.

If I valued what other people thought of me then I would be in a very dark place! I do what I want as long as it does not interfere, upset or disrespect anyone else.

I have had some quite candid conversations with some ladies on here and know the advertised persona is not necessarily the real them but when you get to talk to someone over time you can get an insight as to what they are really like. What some ladies in this profession put up with on a daily basis would put most people to shame.

I would be proud to call some ladies I know on here "my friend" and if push came to shove I would say it to my other friends as well!

All this is very much hypothetical though as we all know such situations don't normally arise!