Getting Caught

[willieh]

Because certain others do not want to learn, merely bang a drum. My private life and reasons for my behaviour and decisions are exactly that, a private life. Not a freak show for others to misinterpret, ridicule, draw wrong conclusions based on completely wrong or biased assumptions.
Meursault's replies to Justfrank's thoughtful input would justify me in my reticence, I think....

I completely concur with every single word. Enough said.

[Meursault]

A man should always endeavor to live a life without secrets. Its all grand coming onto an escort forum and looking for vindication for your choices with regards cheating, because you will get that vindication on this forum from your forum buddies who are seeking the same vindication. If you are so convinced that you are justified in your infidelities, tell your wives and see if they reciprocate that belief. If you are so sure you are doing the right thing, why is it a secret? Why do we have secrets? because we know should the truth ever come to light, our actions would be frowned upon. So i suggest you go onto another forum that isnt skewed in favor of sexual liaisons outside marriage and pose the same question and see what the general public think of your actions.

[dr love]

Ladies and fellow punters I salute you , now do the auld doc a favour and not feed the trolls pleaseeee .: doc

[Meursault]

Ladies and fellow punters I salute you , now do the auld doc a favour and not feed the trolls pleaseeee .: doc

That is harsh. That really cut to the core of me. Im gona set up my own escort website and you wont be invited......and neither will the adulterers

[Vitruvian]

That is harsh. That really cut to the core of me. Im gona set up my own escort website and you wont be invited......and neither will the adulterers

Adultery, who needs it, a definition by others, I like to fall in love a little, each time, all encompassing, limitless, tends to spread, just to be understood, you can't but not understand the needs of an other.
Should there be a limit on friendship/ love, spite we be less than perfect?
I like to think it should be endless.

[bollocks]

WOuld you rather be caught by your girlfriend,,,,or by An Garda????????????????????????????????

[bollocks]

I have to be in work to read the long ass threads! I will read if you motherf**kers don't get it locked! But secrets are good, good for a relationship, for you and your security especially if you have fetishes that most people don't understand.

Couldnt have said it better,,,,Fetishes that most people dont understand.

[topmanapril1985]

Man, your just trying to justify why you should see escorts. Its confirmation bias, wherein you say "well my marriage survives by me cheating and hence cheating is a good thing." If you dont want to be faithful to your wife A) you shouldnt have got married in the first place and B) You divorce her.

If you had a bit of self control and werent obsessed with sexual gratification, you could love your wife without sex, which is the foundation of any good marriage. If your marriage survives by you cheating, well im afraid there isnt a lot of marriage left.

Go off an tell your wife what you have been doing and see her response. This is utter humiliation for your wife. If you really cared for your wife, you would sacrifice sex for her. Sex is not something you need to survive

Just read this post now, what a load of cobblers you spout.

Men and women change over the years. My wife loved sex when we were first married. Now like some posters here she doesn't like any physical contact with me - period.

Anyway I have a choice, see my children once a week, live in a sh*thole of a bedsit, and suffer because she couldn't be bothered to make any compromise about sex. So no, I choose to live with her like brother and sister, she is breaking her vows by not making any effort with me. I leave I'm f***ed sideways financially and every other way too, so I'm not going to do that.

So get down off your high horses. I wanted to stay faithful, but after the birth of our second child 16 years ago my wife has slept with me about once a month on average, and not since last November a year ago.

In response to godeepers comment that all women like sex, yes they do. But some women see it as a means of control. Anyway if my wife wants sex she can easily get it, I'm sure of that. For me I can't so easily, unless I am prepared to leave the home I have spent 20 years building up.

[topmanapril1985]

im not married thats the difference

Ah I see why you can spout like you do - you have had no experience of married life. Have you got children?

[Playitsam]

Just read this post now, what a load of cobblers you spout.

Men and women change over the years. My wife loved sex when we were first married. Now like some posters here she doesn't like any physical contact with me - period.

Anyway I have a choice, see my children once a week, live in a sh*thole of a bedsit, and suffer because she couldn't be bothered to make any compromise about sex. So no, I choose to live with her like brother and sister, she is breaking her vows by not making any effort with me. I leave I'm f***ed sideways financially and every other way too, so I'm not going to do that.

So get down off your high horses. I wanted to stay faithful, but after the birth of our second child 16 years ago my wife has slept with me about once a month on average, and not since last November a year ago.

In response to godeepers comment that all women like sex, yes they do. But some women see it as a means of control. Anyway if my wife wants sex she can easily get it, I'm sure of that. For me I can't so easily, unless I am prepared to leave the home I have spent 20 years building up.

Topman I think you have spoken for many punters on here . It is not necessary to leave a marriage because of a difference over sexual desire . By staying together your children have the extra stability of both parents and family finances are not stretched to breaking point . If you wife is happy with your current living arrangements , why change . And if a punt keeps you happy then why bring the added grief into life .

99% of your married life together will not be about having sex !