Would you rather try out kinkier sex ideas or have romantic sex?

[slavetoyou]

I think the thread should read do you prefer vanilla or kinky sex as romantic implies an emotional attachment to the other party and this may not alway be correct on this site. As you may guess I would be on the kinky side of the fence and I think that both ways are equal to different people. I have had vanilla sex in my life but I prefer kinky sex. Now I have become a slave to a mistress I am addicted to kinky sex. Now I must make this clear, I do not engage in sexual acts of contact with my mistress as that is forbidden, I would not consider myself worthy or does my mistress to have such encounters, but what happens in a session I would consider sex to me (a sexual experience, but that is all it is)
You mention bdsm couples finding something kinky, yes they do. Over the years I have done many things and as of late my mistress has progressed me along to total servitude which involves me preforming certain task which prove to her that I am willing to do anything she asks if me. My mistress has pushed the "anything" side of things and I have always complied. All of these things I would have considered being kinky but once they are done they become normal and acceptable, that is why I enjoy my mistress pushing me, the more pain I take for her, the more degrading tasks I preform for her the kinkier it is, so yes we all have things we find kinky. As was said something kinky to you maybe foreplay to me, but what's kinky to me maybe insane to you, that's why we are all different but basically the same, it's all about our sexual needs.
As for romantic sex, romance is just an emotional idea that implies a deep love for the other party as opposed to just having sex with someone. I could say that my encounters are both because I am totally besotted with my mistress (a totally unrequited love) but it makes my experience more enjoyable. To have a sexual encounter with someone who you like is a very pleasant experience, so I think it is possible to have both.

[jamieboyo]

This is an excellent and well posed question and is deserving of considered responses. Please do not pull back now.

People come here, use this site and visit escorts for a very wide range of reasons. And as you say, what can be romantic and vanilla for one can be fetishistic for another. After all if you use whips, chains and leather every single time, using candles, soft music and oils just once is out of the ordinary for that couple! Or group!!!

I like romantic sex myself and indeed have referred to an ideal date as being languid. Kate indeed has picked up on that and suggested that, at least initially, that would be terrible for both client and escort. Buses exchanged views here and via pm and, while I think she is still of the view that good sex ought to be wilder, hot and sweaty, she accepts that I love slow, relaxing lovemaking. Or sometimes all three and for a hundred other reasons. But the same sex with the same person for years does get boring and routine after a while.

As has been said here already some guys use this site to experience something different to what they get at home. Others use it because they get nothing whatsoever at home! Others still because they like variety or the thrill of meeting someone new young or sexy! Or for a hindered other teasing.

All definitions of what a fetish is all boil down to and reduce to some kind of sexual gratification attached to a partial body part, piece of clothing or practice. Well I happen to like vaginas and breasts, sexy lingerie(on girl, not me) and massage. They respectively are body parts, objects and a practice. So is that a fetish?

And in time I may find something else that I like. It may still be a feather as opposed to a chicken but,hey, if it floats my boat!!!

And these are all worth discussing.

Thanks for your great response,

It's funny, I can totally empathise with your point of view with regards slow, relaxing lovemaking........but, further to this, I can also see where Kate is coming from on that topic. I suppose if I am been honest, with some people I have found slow, passionate lovemaking worked best, while with others hot, wild & sweaty stuff really rocked my boat. I think it comes down to the two individuals involved.

Maybe you and Kate need a slugfest to determine who is right between the two of you.....

[jamieboyo]

I think the thread should read do you prefer vanilla or kinky sex as romantic implies an emotional attachment to the other party and this may not alway be correct on this site. As you may guess I would be on the kinky side of the fence and I think that both ways are equal to different people. I have had vanilla sex in my life but I prefer kinky sex. Now I have become a slave to a mistress I am addicted to kinky sex. Now I must make this clear, I do not engage in sexual acts of contact with my mistress as that is forbidden, I would not consider myself worthy or does my mistress to have such encounters, but what happens in a session I would consider sex to me (a sexual experience, but that is all it is)
You mention bdsm couples finding something kinky, yes they do. Over the years I have done many things and as of late my mistress has progressed me along to total servitude which involves me preforming certain task which prove to her that I am willing to do anything she asks if me. My mistress has pushed the "anything" side of things and I have always complied. All of these things I would have considered being kinky but once they are done they become normal and acceptable, that is why I enjoy my mistress pushing me, the more pain I take for her, the more degrading tasks I preform for her the kinkier it is, so yes we all have things we find kinky. As was said something kinky to you maybe foreplay to me, but what's kinky to me maybe insane to you, that's why we are all different but basically the same, it's all about our sexual needs.
As for romantic sex, romance is just an emotional idea that implies a deep love for the other party as opposed to just having sex with someone. I could say that my encounters are both because I am totally besotted with my mistress (a totally unrequited love) but it makes my experience more enjoyable. To have a sexual encounter with someone who you like is a very pleasant experience, so I think it is possible to have both.

Thanks for your response,

What you are talking about is definitely what I would consider to be kinky, and that is just normal to you, so that's exactly why I asked the question in a general sense......I can see your point about asking romantic vs vanilla, but to me there can be romance without emotional attachment, but, I understand for others this may not be possible.

Your reply has me itching to ask......has your mistress ever demanded something from you, that you point blank refused to do????

[slavetoyou]

Thanks for your response,

What you are talking about is definitely what I would consider to be kinky, and that is just normal to you, so that's exactly why I asked the question in a general sense......I can see your point about asking romantic vs vanilla, but to me there can be romance without emotional attachment, but, I understand for others this may not be possible.

Your reply has me itching to ask......has your mistress ever demanded something from you, that you point blank refused to do????

I see your point with the romance thing but I suppose that is to an individuals taste.

To answer your question. When my mistress accepted me as her slave I had told her I would do anything she asks of me( this is done with some degree of respect by my mistress) but I have complied with all her requests. If you can think of something that you might think a person would not do and if my mistress asked me to do that then I would have to obey. I have totally submitted to my mistress so I cannot then turn around and say no. Believe me when I say this, my mistress is pushing me with this anything game but I will always obey, otherwise I am not really her 24/7 slave just a guy who is suiting himself to get what he wants. This is not the case, pleasing my mistress by doing what she asks is more important to me than any sexual gratification and will always come first. I have done things that I have not been totally comfortable with but I like to be pushed, once I have done those things I now have no problem doing them for my mistress. I must stress, I would not do half of these things by any stretch of the imagination but when my mistress tells me to do it I obey. That is what being a slave is and I take my position very seriously
Hope that answers your question.

[Westsidex]

I know its a very nosy question but anyway.....

Would you rather try out kinkier sex ideas or have romantic sex? Or maybe a bit of both??

I have little to no interest in kinky sex.

Westside.

[jamieboyo]

I see your point with the romance thing but I suppose that is to an individuals taste.

To answer your question. When my mistress accepted me as her slave I had told her I would do anything she asks of me( this is done with some degree of respect by my mistress) but I have complied with all her requests. If you can think of something that you might think a person would not do and if my mistress asked me to do that then I would have to obey. I have totally submitted to my mistress so I cannot then turn around and say no. Believe me when I say this, my mistress is pushing me with this anything game but I will always obey, otherwise I am not really her 24/7 slave just a guy who is suiting himself to get what he wants. This is not the case, pleasing my mistress by doing what she asks is more important to me than any sexual gratification and will always come first. I have done things that I have not been totally comfortable with but I like to be pushed, once I have done those things I now have no problem doing them for my mistress. I must stress, I would not do half of these things by any stretch of the imagination but when my mistress tells me to do it I obey. That is what being a slave is and I take my position very seriously
Hope that answers your question.

Thank you for answering the question!

Mistress/Slave would not really be my cup of tea TBH (I'm a man of much simpler requirements!), but, none the less I hope your mistress does not abuse her power over you (or does if that's your wish!!) although I reckon abuse of power is probably a given......and maybe part of the attraction from your point of view.

[johnb59]

I have been told that the line between romantic and kinky is very thin - for example romance would involve the utilisation of a feather and kinky the whole chicken.

what about the duck?
And who ducked the duck on the naas road?

[slavetoyou]

Thank you for answering the question!

Mistress/Slave would not really be my cup of tea TBH (I'm a man of much simpler requirements!), but, none the less I hope your mistress does not abuse her power over you (or does if that's your wish!!) although I reckon abuse of power is probably a given......and maybe part of the attraction from your point of view.

There is a certain abuse of power as I must obey any request. But my Mistress is a professional and respects certain boundaries. Now I did not set any boundaries but there has to be some respect for one another. I am pushed to do things that sometimes make me uncomfortable but I enjoy that, it is very rewarding feeling to please my mistress. She is a goddess who must be obeyed.

[WTAT]

Romance and kinky don't have to be mutually exclusive.

[IEnjoyescorts]

prefer standard romatic sex.
but if im with someone who gets me riled up enough id do anything lol