Originally Posted by
jacklad3
This is an excellent and well posed question and is deserving of considered responses. Please do not pull back now.
People come here, use this site and visit escorts for a very wide range of reasons. And as you say, what can be romantic and vanilla for one can be fetishistic for another. After all if you use whips, chains and leather every single time, using candles, soft music and oils just once is out of the ordinary for that couple! Or group!!!
I like romantic sex myself and indeed have referred to an ideal date as being languid. Kate indeed has picked up on that and suggested that, at least initially, that would be terrible for both client and escort. Buses exchanged views here and via pm and, while I think she is still of the view that good sex ought to be wilder, hot and sweaty, she accepts that I love slow, relaxing lovemaking. Or sometimes all three and for a hundred other reasons. But the same sex with the same person for years does get boring and routine after a while.
As has been said here already some guys use this site to experience something different to what they get at home. Others use it because they get nothing whatsoever at home! Others still because they like variety or the thrill of meeting someone new young or sexy! Or for a hindered other teasing.
All definitions of what a fetish is all boil down to and reduce to some kind of sexual gratification attached to a partial body part, piece of clothing or practice. Well I happen to like vaginas and breasts, sexy lingerie(on girl, not me) and massage. They respectively are body parts, objects and a practice. So is that a fetish?
And in time I may find something else that I like. It may still be a feather as opposed to a chicken but,hey, if it floats my boat!!!
And these are all worth discussing.