Exaggerated Compliments or Borderline Rudeness

[Curvaceous Kate]

Which is more annoying?

When someone is way over the top with compliments, does it make you feel wary? That they may well be being insincere and looking for something in return?

If someone is borderline rude with you, say they comment on your appearance or personality in a way that you would not expect someone you did not know you well to do; maybe they comment on your age, your appearance, your choice of clothing etc. Do you feel they are just being honest, or is it a bit offensive and thoughtless?

Who do you trust most out of the two of them, do you reject them for being too much (either way) or just accept that it is likely just their personality, the way they are and brush it off as relatively inoffensive?

[Clyde]

Wow what a thread !! It's brilliant.

[namesjack]

Which is more annoying?

When someone is way over the top with compliments, does it make you feel wary? That they may well be being insincere and looking for something in return?

If someone is borderline rude with you, say they comment on your appearance or personality in a way that you would not expect someone you did not know you well to do; maybe they comment on your age, your appearance, your choice of clothing etc. Do you feel they are just being honest, or is it a bit offensive and thoughtless?

Who do you trust most out of the two of them, do you reject them for being too much (either way) or just accept that it is likely just their personality, the way they are and brush it off as relatively inoffensive?

I dont like someone who is too sweet or over the top with compliments either kate, I know i'm gorgeous so i dont need people reminding me of it every 5 minutes, .. but guys can say things that could be construe as rude by others even though it wasn't that persons intention especially when they are nervous, I put my foot in it many times myself.

[Deven]

Which is more annoying?

When someone is way over the top with compliments, does it make you feel wary? That they may well be being insincere and looking for something in return?

If someone is borderline rude with you, say they comment on your appearance or personality in a way that you would not expect someone you did not know you well to do; maybe they comment on your age, your appearance, your choice of clothing etc. Do you feel they are just being honest, or is it a bit offensive and thoughtless?

Who do you trust most out of the two of them, do you reject them for being too much (either way) or just accept that it is likely just their personality, the way they are and brush it off as relatively inoffensive?

I can only answer for myself but if I give a complement its genuine, I dont do flippent complements but its lucky I dont say half what I think because even I cringe when I hear them in my head. Lucky I get mute around you and I even had one for when we next met, dodged that bullet

As for the second, from a friend or family member its harmless from a stranger its usually rudness.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Some really interesting answers thanks. I think I was prompted by someone who is calling me quite a bit recently and they are making lots of compliments with regards to my looks etc. I keep reminding them they have never seen me, but they think they have seen enough with the blurred or slightly hidden pictures they have seen. It worries me a tad, because I think he must be confusing me with someone else or he will be sorely disappointed when and if we do meet.

I really appreciate compliments when I think they are real and meant, but the superfluous ones? I suppose they lose impact and meaning, as they are hard to judge. Can someone really think that much of you?

The kind of rudeness that I am referring to is subtle. It's not always obvious at first that there is a little sting to it or it is said in a way that you feel like you shouldn't react to it. My Mum is great at this and gets away with murder with some of the things she says. This is not to be confused with sarcasm though and Clyde did a great example of that with his reply to my thread on here.

[Hot Olivia]

It doesn't matter what people say about you, as long as they're talking about you.










Because I'm a ROCKSTAR

[Curvaceous Kate]

It doesn't matter what people say about you, as long as they're talking about you.








Because I'm a ROCKSTAR

Good one. No such thing as bad publicity (well nearly).

p.s. I'll give him your number

p.p.s. Only joking!

[stringfurtcool]

I think when people start to believe their own publictiy then thats a recpie for disaster.

[jamieboyo]

Which is more annoying?

When someone is way over the top with compliments, does it make you feel wary? That they may well be being insincere and looking for something in return?

If someone is borderline rude with you, say they comment on your appearance or personality in a way that you would not expect someone you did not know you well to do; maybe they comment on your age, your appearance, your choice of clothing etc. Do you feel they are just being honest, or is it a bit offensive and thoughtless?

Who do you trust most out of the two of them, do you reject them for being too much (either way) or just accept that it is likely just their personality, the way they are and brush it off as relatively inoffensive?

I probably have been guilty of going overboard on the compliments sometimes, but to be honest it's probably a lot to do with the fact that I love compliments myself.....even when you know they are not really true!!!!

[bollocks]

Which is more annoying?

When someone is way over the top with compliments, does it make you feel wary? That they may well be being insincere and looking for something in return?

If someone is borderline rude with you, say they comment on your appearance or personality in a way that you would not expect someone you did not know you well to do; maybe they comment on your age, your appearance, your choice of clothing etc. Do you feel they are just being honest, or is it a bit offensive and thoughtless?

Who do you trust most out of the two of them, do you reject them for being too much (either way) or just accept that it is likely just their personality, the way they are and brush it off as relatively inoffensive?

Kate, you do come up with good issues......There is nothing worse than blatantly false praise. As regards criticism,,,it needs to be done very tactfully, and for the purpose of helping a person. If someone has bad breath...like a relative...you could tell them....and point out that probably no one else will tell them......I hear of people going to hair dressers and being told that they have nits...ugh As you know, you can never get comments right, and sometimes they can be misunderstood