Exaggerated Compliments or Borderline Rudeness

[stringfurtcool]

I think when people start to believe their own publictiy then thats a recpie for disaster.

[stringfurtcool]

Complaiments should be taken in the same context in which they are given.

[jamieboyo]

Which is more annoying?

When someone is way over the top with compliments, does it make you feel wary? That they may well be being insincere and looking for something in return?

If someone is borderline rude with you, say they comment on your appearance or personality in a way that you would not expect someone you did not know you well to do; maybe they comment on your age, your appearance, your choice of clothing etc. Do you feel they are just being honest, or is it a bit offensive and thoughtless?

Who do you trust most out of the two of them, do you reject them for being too much (either way) or just accept that it is likely just their personality, the way they are and brush it off as relatively inoffensive?

I probably have been guilty of going overboard on the compliments sometimes, but to be honest it's probably a lot to do with the fact that I love compliments myself.....even when you know they are not really true!!!!

[bollocks]

Which is more annoying?

When someone is way over the top with compliments, does it make you feel wary? That they may well be being insincere and looking for something in return?

If someone is borderline rude with you, say they comment on your appearance or personality in a way that you would not expect someone you did not know you well to do; maybe they comment on your age, your appearance, your choice of clothing etc. Do you feel they are just being honest, or is it a bit offensive and thoughtless?

Who do you trust most out of the two of them, do you reject them for being too much (either way) or just accept that it is likely just their personality, the way they are and brush it off as relatively inoffensive?

Kate, you do come up with good issues......There is nothing worse than blatantly false praise. As regards criticism,,,it needs to be done very tactfully, and for the purpose of helping a person. If someone has bad breath...like a relative...you could tell them....and point out that probably no one else will tell them......I hear of people going to hair dressers and being told that they have nits...ugh As you know, you can never get comments right, and sometimes they can be misunderstood

[Curvaceous Kate]

I have to eat my words. The person that inspired this thread turned out to be a real client and a real lovely person. I think I need to learn to accept compliments a little more readily. I thought I was quite well balanced and had reached the point where I could say 'thank you' and not just tell them where my negatives are (okay I do still do this sometimes), but no, he meant it, he was real and he still likes me after meeting me.

I have chocolates...

I'm happy

[paul_m]

Which is more annoying?

When someone is way over the top with compliments, does it make you feel wary? That they may well be being insincere and looking for something in return?

If someone is borderline rude with you, say they comment on your appearance or personality in a way that you would not expect someone you did not know you well to do; maybe they comment on your age, your appearance, your choice of clothing etc. Do you feel they are just being honest, or is it a bit offensive and thoughtless?

Who do you trust most out of the two of them, do you reject them for being too much (either way) or just accept that it is likely just their personality, the way they are and brush it off as relatively inoffensive?

You mean like the guys arse kissing the girls on this forum?

[Danny2011]

I have to eat my words. The person that inspired this thread turned out to be a real client and a real lovely person. I think I need to learn to accept compliments a little more readily. I thought I was quite well balanced and had reached the point where I could say 'thank you' and not just tell them where my negatives are (okay I do still do this sometimes), but no, he meant it, he was real and he still likes me after meeting me.

I have chocolates...

I'm happy

for happy endings and for genuine guys

Maybe you need some practice accepting compliments so here goes

While I've not yet had the pleasure of meeting you, someday I may get the chance and a big part of the reason I would like to is I enjoy your posts on this forum, they're always intelligent, articulate and often thought provoking, they also give a sense of the real person (imo anyway) which is refreshing and very attractive so thank you for making the forum a more intersting place to spend some time.

[Danny2011]

You mean like the guys arse kissing the girls on this forum?

Sure there is some of this unavoidable really but there isn't too much wrong with a little banter, everything doesn't have to be viewed so cynically

[Rachel Divine]

I think every single escort receives compliments from guys in a daily basis.

Because I am a snob, doesn't excite me to hear how beautiful I am , but for others might be very nice thing hear and by any means I have something against it.

I got texts from guys I have seen and not in the past. I ignore those I haven't met , I will reply to the others within a limit.

Don't think there is guy to beg me to visit his area. If he is that interested , he is always welcome to Dublin.

I do not have time or willing to engage in texts and "love stories" , how much they want me and so on. Don't know how others do it and why. But that is just me , of course.

When I visit towns/cities the guys interested in spending time with me, will make an appointment , have fun and move on.

Keep it professional.

[UB40]

Your lovely!
Your grand !
Your a trooper!
Your nice!
Your the greatest!

These are bland - would any of these upset you?