Originally Posted by
jacklad3
I rarely disagree with Stephanie as she is usually right and a rock of sense. However (...... and there is a huge however here ...... sorry Stephanie!!) she is not correct here.
A relationship is about so much more than sex. In Ireland in the early stages of most relationships it seems to me there is (hopefully) a lot of sex, good or bad at the start (!) but as time moves on the sex becomes less and less. Other things such as children, shared family home / holiday home / investment properties along with associated mortgages, mutual friends, families, shared interests, investments all come to the fore and become even more important.
In my "real" life I have come across countless (mostly middle aged) men who have thrown up everything because they literally lost the head over a younger woman that they met and have left their wife to be with them. After a mad passionate affair (which of course the wife finds out about because men are idiots!) they end up leaving the family home, losing everything. These are the men who were on 100k a year and now end up on 20k per year - the other 80k is not going to a sexy young thing with whom they are having mad passionate sex every night. Instead it goes to paying two mortgages instead of one, supporting two households instead of one, paying the lump sum awarded, spousal and children's maintenance and a myriad of other payments. THAT is real life.
Most Irish men are pragmatic. Irish men just accept bad sex or no sex and play more golf, work harder, spend time with the children and eye the teenage son's girlfriend wistfully and think ... oh if only!!!!
If there is good sex in the relationship that is absolutely brilliant and for anyone who has that, I am truly delighted for them. (But I suspect that there are very few men on here in a good marriage AND having good sex at home.)
Having lived abroad, it seems to me that it is different in many other countries. In those countries the women feel an obligation to make an effort and look after their men sexually. Sadly that does not happen here.
Irish men have a surprisingly low happiness threshold. So long as they are more or less left alone, allowed to go to a few matches, paly a few round of golf, have a few pints, have their laundry done for them and get their dinner served on the table for them in the evening will stay in a relationship / marriage even with no sex whatsoever!!!!
Non-Irish girls working here - escorts and non escorts - find all this very surprising and are truly amazed. But that is why so many escorts do so well here ....................................