Aldi and the fill your trolley mentality Vs. Corner Shop relationship…
As a counterweight to the huge emphasis placed on ‘how much?, how Long?, what do you do?” mentality from the Client side and the equally clinical, “get em in, get em out, way that seems to also be pervasive for some Escorts (not saying either is wrong, just doesn’t appeal to me) Does anyone feel that it is quite demeaning and cheapening to both in the long run. I just want to ask are there any exponents from both sides of a different way to go about things. I feel it has ended up in the wrong gear, a far too high a gear given the intimate nature of the road being driven, that it will eventually wear out both sides gear boxes (even literally maybe).
I ask as I am reliably informed that a form of Escorting exists that appeals to me very much I have to say, and does not get mentioned here ever as far as I am aware. It is something thankfully far removed from the fixation most seem to have here of a rather clinical, cold and functional arrangement in the main but hopefully not exclusively. Decided on a shopping list of sorts, pounds, pence, time, to which I feel that anyone, be they Escort or Client would and will be damaged over a long period of time dealing “only” with catering to physical needs, be they the purveyors or recipients, and was something very different, that although not a conventional relationship by any stretch of the imagination, (it can never be) as it was described to me was much more rewarding to both, a relationship “of sorts” that can develop over many years and not always be just sex, but others pursuits.
It was something I had hoped existed but never knew it can on occasion go to a level of trust between both Escort and Client that I found truly heartwarming, but it requires both parties to be givers, not just taker’s. So it may be a rarity, but still feel it important to highlight its existence here, even it is only a few drop’s in an sea of only sex, the bottom line, and nothing more. The spreadsheet Vs the soul if you will.
I feel this is what true Escorting encompasses, to some degree or another. A symbiotic relationship that not just money is exchanged but trust also and perhaps more, what I have related here is NOT just my non punter opinion, but it is exactly how I feel also, and would like to know if anyone would be off a similar mind in how they approach this be they Escort or Client, of course money is the driver for most, but it should not be the only hand on the wheel, something more personnel that grows over time should also play a part if possible or wanted by both. I know many may not want anything more then the physical side, but it is ultimately damaging I feel in particular to an Escort not to have something non fiscal returned, even it that is only a little real warmth on occasion, Inner warmth is finite, it has to be replenished if not to leave a cold core, even those that don’t feel this does not apply to them, should still be aware of it because it applies to everyone. Yes it is a business, but it is a uniquely intimate and personnel business. I and others just feel that there is to much emphasis on what you can get for so much in a given time frame and not for what you can give, that applies to both sides btw.
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Originally Posted by thehighwayman
Cynical I know, but hey. It is a friendship based on having done things a bit backwards, meaning getting the sex out of the way first and then getting to realize there is a person there you like and can get on with. Hey come to think of it most relationships start this way as well, the difference here is you don't have to have a second date, or call the morning after! Kisses Violette
