Thankyou, everything has:-) but I do regret not having the maturity to deal with my relationship problems directly with my ex-wife and some subsequent partners. There was no wrath to deal with, there was just the realisation on my part of the hurt and devastation I had caused.
I was never honest from the start as regards anything so it just gave me a selfish excuse to continue in my ways. I am not judging anyone here, but just call it like it is, sticking your penis in another womans vagina, i.e. a woman that is not your partner or wife, I think that would be regarded as cheating, whether you are paying for the privilege or not is immaterial. Just my humble opinion mind.