"50 Shades" is abuse

[Banjaxed]

The latest issue, firstly we had anti-prostitution, anti-pornography, and now anti-50 Shades of Grey...as linked to by Ex-LondonCallGirl...

This website has been set up to campaign against the "50 Shades of Grey" book series. These books have been portrayed as a erotic fiction and have gained total acceptability throughout popular culture. As campaigners, workers, women who have experienced domestic abuse and preventers of violence against women, we stand up to say these books are not erotic fiction, but the full reality of domestic abuse.

Putting the series as erotic fiction gives it credibility that it does not deserve. These books portray sexual, emotional, physical and psychological violence and abuse as not only normal, but as something to aspire to. As people committed to the eradication of violence against women we reject the normalising of abuse these books are perpetuating and we call you to join us.

http://50shadesisdomesticabuse.webs.com/

[UncleBob]

FFS. Stupid beyond belief, yes, but it's only a degree of difference from half of the mommy porn out there.

But the charity industry in the UK is a goldmine, it seems.

[Half Man and Half Dildo]

I suppose when they get around to reading the works of the Marquis De Sade they'll put up another site to campaign against those, too?

[UKHeather]

I too interpreted the control and humilation exerted by the Christian Grey character as abuse. Saying that, lots of ladies I know loved the book and found it sexy!
Seduction is sexy, abuse is not.

[Banjaxed]

I too interpreted the control and humilation exerted by the Christian Grey character as abuse. Saying that, lots of ladies I know loved the book and found it sexy!
Seduction is sexy, abuse is not.

I agree, it's absolute abuse, as I'd much prefer you were doing the control and humiliation

[UncleBob]

I too interpreted the control and humilation exerted by the Christian Grey character as abuse. Saying that, lots of ladies I know loved the book and found it sexy!
Seduction is sexy, abuse is not.

Oh, there's no doubt the main character is a sociopath (the treatment of the previous gf's proves this). But cruel, emotionally abusive men have been getting knickers wet for many years.

[Lucy Chambers]

Oh, there's no doubt the main character is a sociopath (the treatment of the previous gf's proves this). But cruel, emotionally abusive men have been getting knickers wet for many years.

And long may they continue!

I have no problem with the book, amusing tosh. If only there were so many kinky wealthy good looking industrialist S&M fans around

It is fantasy, peeps. You will get off on it if you have a mild sub streak. You will be amused by it if you have a domme streak. You won't get it at all if you favour the odd Saturday night tickle with the lights off.

Should you ever worry about its ''message''? Um no. It is fiction, designed to titillate those with boring love lives. It also gets people talking about things that would previously have been considered Taboo. Well done that woman. But no, I won't read it in full. I have an imagination. As for worry about the abuse contained there in? Other than to think ohhhh, yes please, um..no.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Or "the story of O"?

Now that is a story worth reading!!! I'm afraid I abandoned the 50 shades of gray book at 11% on my kindle and replaced it with Oscar Wildes 'Dorian Gray', which I am finding far more entertaining and read worthy.

I probably do need to read on to understand the hype behind the 50 shades of gray books, but I can't get past the awful writing and lack of detail. To me it reads very Mills and Boon and I stopped reading those at 14, when I started reading Catherine Cookson (I blame my Mum for that).

[LaBelleThatcher]

Surely war is abuse, and murder is abuse...but there are whole genres written about them?

Trying to dictate what other people can read is ALSO abuse.

I probably do need to read on to understand the hype behind the 50 shades of gray books, but I can't get past the awful writing and lack of detail. To me it reads very Mills and Boon and I stopped reading those at 14, when I started reading Catherine Cookson (I blame my Mum for that).

Oh I'll pass then...

So "sadomance" FINALLY made it to the best seller lists? Who would have thought it? They really *ARE* usually just Mills and Boon with a few floggings and inventive forms of non-destructive humiliation and torture thrown in.

[Anna23]

Maybe people should make talking/writing about sex taboo again. That way nobody will have a clue what is going on in others peoples bedrooms and nothing to compare their sex lives to. Sexual frustration will disappear as people wont be worried if their having as cool sex as others and isntead focus on what they like. Whether normal/not normal wont be a question anymore, because nobody will know what is the norm. It would be a purely private matter between 2 people and as long as the 2 are content, then thats all that matters.