Can seeing a Escort help save a relationship?

[10inchesandcounting]

When I was married , I never cheated, and I have to say that I didn 't get much action.
In the end this just drove us apart.
Sometime I think that IF I went to see some escorts at the time, just to blow some steam, nothing more, we would probably still be together, and happy about it .

[Curvaceous Kate]

I have been told of situations where it has helped. There are married men who love their wives, but for whatever reason the wife no longer wants to be intimate and they feel guilty on the odd occassion where intimacy is sort, because they know it is not a mutual experience and she is enduring it because she loves him. There are others that can't because of medical reasons and some where perhaps the relationship is strained and the expectation of sex is just not there.

Being able to be close to another female and 'de-stress', unwind those coils of frustration and have a cuddle can really help. Without that nagging feeling and need they are able to enjoy the marriage they have and not feel like they are pressurising their partner to be intimage against their will. Most of them have admitted that they would rather be intimate with their partner, but it's not an option and they don't want to leave them, so this allows them to stay with them and feel whole still.

I think in some cases it has led the person to gain the confidence to leave their wife as well, as they have realised that their life is worth more than co-existing with someone that no longer lives with them, but those are rarer cases.

Life is not black and white, we are complex creatures and I firmly believe that we were created to be intimate and close to someone and this makes us happier, stronger, more confident. It is a scientific fact that people who enjoy regular sex live longer than those who abstain. There has to be a reason for that.

[doodlebug]

I think that Kate's post is absolutely correct, seeing an escort can certainly help prolong a marriage and in some cases save a marriage. Sometimes, particularly for men, the sexual side of a relationship blinds us to the other sides of the relationship, so if we are not sexually satisfied in the relationship we fail to see the sharing, having time with another human being who values our thoughts and opinions, the shared actions together etc. When we are blind to those sides of a relationship it is doomed to failure, however if achieving sexual fulfillment with an escort removes that obstacle and allows us to see the other good things in a relationship then the answer is a definite Yes, seeing an escort can save a marriage.

I would have to add the other side of the coin is true sometimes we see an escort and believe we can have more than just the sexual fulfillment, that's when we go too far and get into trouble.

[Sexy Sandy 69]

There was a survey done by Relate in UK years ago that stated nearly 70% of marriages worked as those guys interviewed had used either escorts or parlours. There's more damage done when guys have an affair, as women tend to see that more of a threat to their relationship.

Sandy x

[samlad]

Just wondering do you think that visiting an escort could save a marriage/relationship?

[Big J]

I have been told of situations where it has helped. There are married men who love their wives, but for whatever reason the wife no longer wants to be intimate and they feel guilty on the odd occassion where intimacy is sort, because they know it is not a mutual experience and she is enduring it because she loves him. There are others that can't because of medical reasons and some where perhaps the relationship is strained and the expectation of sex is just not there.

Being able to be close to another female and 'de-stress', unwind those coils of frustration and have a cuddle can really help. Without that nagging feeling and need they are able to enjoy the marriage they have and not feel like they are pressurising their partner to be intimage against their will. Most of them have admitted that they would rather be intimate with their partner, but it's not an option and they don't want to leave them, so this allows them to stay with them and feel whole still.

I think in some cases it has led the person to gain the confidence to leave their wife as well, as they have realised that their life is worth more than co-existing with someone that no longer lives with them, but those are rarer cases.

Life is not black and white, we are complex creatures and I firmly believe that we were created to be intimate and close to someone and this makes us happier, stronger, more confident. It is a scientific fact that people who enjoy regular sex live longer than those who abstain. There has to be a reason for that.

Yoy are spot on in everything there.

[Cable87]

I've also got to agree with Kate's post, strikes me as right on the money. I'm not married myself, but I do imagine that this is something that many married men deal with, as it's inevitable that the amount of sex that a married couple have together can and seemingly often does lessen over the years, and sometimes can get to the point where it's little to never.


A great friend of mine who's a good bit older than me (he's in his late 50's and married/divorced twice over) had told me that he'd once had a conversation with some of the married guys at his work ranging from their late twenties and recently married to mid sisxties and married 30+ years, the topic being how often do you and the wife still have sex. There were 10 or so men taking part in this conversation. As you all can imagine, there was a drastic reduction with all of them after the first year of marriage, and then a chartable downward trend in the frequency of sex as the years go (or is it drag?) on...


The youngest guy in the chat was late 20's, had been married close to 2 years, and said he and the wife still averaged about 3 times per-week. The next cluster of guys were all generally late 30's to early 40's, married anywhere from 8 to 15 years, and these guys were saying they were only getting sex form the wife once a week in the best case, a few that were only got it twice a month, and another that was only getting sex from the wife once every 2-3 MONTHS!

There was only 3 guys left, one in the mid-40's, another mid 50's, and the oldest was early 60's. These guys claimed it was at best 2-3 times a YEAR, with the oldest guy saying it had been about once a year for himself and the wife for the last 5 years or so.

As unofficial and less-than-scientific my friend's 'research' in this case might've been, he'd had this type of chat many times over the years, with similar answers among those that would talk about it. Obviously there's a lot more to a relationship than only sex; my friend did go on to ask if they still cared about their marriages, and all said yes, and all the guys here seemed to be happy enough with all the other aspects of their marriage, APART FROM the lack of sex. It's probably the only major thing in their relationships that most of them would change if they could.


So I can imagine that if/when I should happent o get married, I might find myself in the same situation, having a gradual reduction in the frequency of sex with the wife. I trust that my own sexual appetite will also reduce as I age, but I think I'll still want sex a bit more frequently that a few times per-year... I'd say I'll be an escort customer for life!

[Curvaceous Kate]

I can understand that point of view, but you still have cheated, albeit with "no strings attached". It's just a precursor to the inevitable affair/divorce.

What if your partner is terminally ill and unable to have sex? You wouldn't leave them because there is no sex and it could be years before they pass away. You would end up waiting for the day to get your life back. Not all scenarios are that cut and dry, in fact most aren't.

[Leggy Leah]

I've also got to agree with Kate's post, strikes me as right on the money. I'm not married myself, but I do imagine that this is something that many married men deal with, as it's inevitable that the amount of sex that a married couple have together can and seemingly often does lessen over the years, and sometimes can get to the point where it's little to never.


A great friend of mine who's a good bit older than me (he's in his late 50's and married/divorced twice over) had told me that he'd once had a conversation with some of the married guys at his work ranging from their late twenties and recently married to mid sisxties and married 30+ years, the topic being how often do you and the wife still have sex. There were 10 or so men taking part in this conversation. As you all can imagine, there was a drastic reduction with all of them after the first year of marriage, and then a chartable downward trend in the frequency of sex as the years go (or is it drag?) on...


The youngest guy in the chat was late 20's, had been married close to 2 years, and said he and the wife still averaged about 3 times per-week. The next cluster of guys were all generally late 30's to early 40's, married anywhere from 8 to 15 years, and these guys were saying they were only getting sex form the wife once a week in the best case, a few that were only got it twice a month, and another that was only getting sex from the wife once every 2-3 MONTHS!

There was only 3 guys left, one in the mid-40's, another mid 50's, and the oldest was early 60's. These guys claimed it was at best 2-3 times a YEAR, with the oldest guy saying it had been about once a year for himself and the wife for the last 5 years or so.

As unofficial and less-than-scientific my friend's 'research' in this case might've been, he'd had this type of chat many times over the years, with similar answers among those that would talk about it. Obviously there's a lot more to a relationship than only sex; my friend did go on to ask if they still cared about their marriages, and all said yes, and all the guys here seemed to be happy enough with all the other aspects of their marriage, APART FROM the lack of sex. It's probably the only major thing in their relationships that most of them would change if they could.


So I can imagine that if/when I should happent o get married, I might find myself in the same situation, having a gradual reduction in the frequency of sex with the wife. I trust that my own sexual appetite will also reduce as I age, but I think I'll still want sex a bit more frequently that a few times per-year... I'd say I'll be an escort customer for life!

Makes marriage look like the final nail in the coffin, well for your sex life anyway!!

[very shy guy]

I have been told of situations where it has helped. There are married men who love their wives, but for whatever reason the wife no longer wants to be intimate and they feel guilty on the odd occassion where intimacy is sort, because they know it is not a mutual experience and she is enduring it because she loves him. There are others that can't because of medical reasons and some where perhaps the relationship is strained and the expectation of sex is just not there.

Being able to be close to another female and 'de-stress', unwind those coils of frustration and have a cuddle can really help. Without that nagging feeling and need they are able to enjoy the marriage they have and not feel like they are pressurising their partner to be intimage against their will. Most of them have admitted that they would rather be intimate with their partner, but it's not an option and they don't want to leave them, so this allows them to stay with them and feel whole still.

I think in some cases it has led the person to gain the confidence to leave their wife as well, as they have realised that their life is worth more than co-existing with someone that no longer lives with them, but those are rarer cases.

Life is not black and white, we are complex creatures and I firmly believe that we were created to be intimate and close to someone and this makes us happier, stronger, more confident. It is a scientific fact that people who enjoy regular sex live longer than those who abstain. There has to be a reason for that.

Sound thoughts Kate except for the last bit,you sure that those that enjoy regular sex live longer than those that do not ?,I think it seems longer to those that do not,lol.