Can you work people out?

[Curvaceous Kate]

Often you here people say that they didn't realise someone fancied them until it was too late or they didn't see the signs when someone was going to leave them etc. It's often difficult to know where you stand and some find it almost impossible to feel emotion towards another person.

I thought of this in context of Escorting and how some people find they get too attached and others are quite matter of fact about the 'transaction' and easily keep the act seperate from emotion.

I think there could be a link with this and aspergers/autism. A lot of people who have mild aspergers are clueless that they have it, as generally they get by in life, but it would explain why their attitude is slightly different to the average Joe Bloggs and may appear harsh.

I found this test online and basically if you score under 32 then you are fine, but if you score 32 or more then it is possible that you have aspergers or autism and it might be worth investigating further with your doctor.

I scored 7, which is quite low and I am wondering if that says something about me too, as I tend to empathise with everyone and cry for other peoples pain and upset. I think sometimes I project too much emotion from other people on myself, which is the opposite to aspergers.

Anyway, take the test and put your score on here and let's see where everyone is at and we might see some interesting pattersn emerge.

http://www.wired.com/wired/archive/9.12/aqtest.html

Good luck!

[Banjaxed]

I got nine.

I tend to have the exact same emphatic characteristics as you've listed, Kate, and the same Jungian personality type.

I think it may fall into a category which doesn't seem to have (as yet) been accurately set out despite all the numerous disorders that keep being "invented". It seems to be a hyper-empathic and emotional personality with low mathematical and artistic competency but a high level of language function and emotional intelligence.

Various suggestions are hinted at on the web if you seek the opposite of aspergers but nothing that would really stand up in terms of a regular pattern or defined disorder in adults.

[Big J]

I scored 15

[Happy Gilmore]

I scored 16...

[stickytoffee10]

I scored 18

[CoolJay]

I scored 30

[sharkskin]

Given the prejudice in your post, do you expect many people to reply that they score well into the Aspie spectrum?

Or will we just see loads of people proudly post that they are "normal"?

I refer to:

...
I found this test online and basically if you score under 32 then you are fine, but if you score 32 or more then it is possible that you have aspergers or autism and it might be worth investigating further with your doctor.
...

What if this was a test for male homosexuality, with questions like "Do you enjoy a few beers and a curry with your mates after a game of rugby?" or "Do you think that hairdressing is a good career for a man?" A comment that if you score on the straight side of the line then you are fine but if you are on the gay side you might like to see a doctor would be considered to be offensively homophobic.

Not so long ago, homosexuality was seen as a devient choice made by bad people and it was punished and there were all sorts of ideas for treatment to cure people of homosexuality. Even today, there are still groups who take that approach though society is in general taking a more inclusive view.

Please understand that I am not complaining about your link to the test. It is much better to be an Aspie and know it than to be confused about why you just do not "get" much of the world but I will not stand silent about the expression of views that we are somehow not as OK as the rest of the world.

Like most Aspies, I lurk mostly in the closet but I decided a few years ago that I should have the balls to be "out" when the situation arose.

[mymann]

Scored 19. A lot of what you said about your self Kate,i could identify with in myself.

[Curvaceous Kate]

Given the prejudice in your post, do you expect many people to reply that they score well into the Aspie spectrum?

Or will we just see loads of people proudly post that they are "normal"?

I refer to:



What if this was a test for male homosexuality, with questions like "Do you enjoy a few beers and a curry with your mates after a game of rugby?" or "Do you think that hairdressing is a good career for a man?" A comment that if you score on the straight side of the line then you are fine but if you are on the gay side you might like to see a doctor would be considered to be offensively homophobic.

Not so long ago, homosexuality was seen as a devient choice made by bad people and it was punished and there were all sorts of ideas for treatment to cure people of homosexuality. Even today, there are still groups who take that approach though society is in general taking a more inclusive view.

Please understand that I am not complaining about your link to the test. It is much better to be an Aspie and know it than to be confused about why you just do not "get" much of the world but I will not stand silent about the expression of views that we are somehow not as OK as the rest of the world.

Like most Aspies, I lurk mostly in the closet but I decided a few years ago that I should have the balls to be "out" when the situation arose.

Prejudice? It is interesting that you interpretted it in that way. That was not my thought process or motive at all. I think that a greater understanding makes it better for every body, not just the person who it involves. Sometimes people can come across as hard, brash or uncaring, when that is not the case at all, it's because they just haven't picked up the signals and therefore armed with this knowledge, you know not to take things to heart when it's ignored or you're presented with a different reaction to the one you had expected or hoped for.

It's a shame that you took my thoughts negatively. I've never been prejudice against anyone apart from perhaps peadophiles, who I feel can't be helped and therefore once discovered or committed an indecent act should be kept as far away from children as possible.

I'm not sure your analogy can really be compared. For one thing. I don't think there is anything wrong with being homosexual either, but this is more about social awareness and the fact that you might be hurting people on a daily basis and have no idea about it or you might be upsetting yourself and wondering why everyone is against you, when in fact they are not, but you aren't communicating with them in the same way they are used to, so the barriers are formed. Maybe, the light hearted gesture of the thread could change some people's lives for the better. How can that be bad?

[Rodney69]

I scored 13.