Losing my virginity to an escort

[ladytron]

I have just turned 24 and am still a virgin. I am now searching for an escort to finally lose it with.I find it literally impossible to get physical with a girl, never able to go for the kiss even when girls approach me. I find myself sabotaging interactions with girls who express an interest due to this. I know exactly what you mean with "I am far too self-conscious about how sloppy and inexperienced I will seem", the benefit of an escort in making us more feel more comfortable even with kissing and touching will be huge.

It is easy for people to tell you are too young to worry about this, or that it will sort itself out in time, but in if your anxiety is far above what would be considered normal, then that advice is useless

you have this pre-concieved notion that you will be sloppy and inexperienced; it's your imagination. The problem is your looking for a 100% guarantee that everything will go smoothly but mate life just doesn't work that way. And life's too short to take everything so seriously, ffs kissing is supposed to be fun!

I agree with your point that it's easy for people to tell you it will sort itself out; the truth is it's up to you to take control and face your fear.

when it comes to kissing, just remember to be gentle and try to lose yourself in the moment; look deep into her eyes and focus on the connection, then just let it happen...

[themuffinman]

@doozer @Ladytron
You’re right I should be able to bite the bullet and just go for it, and in an ideal world I would. But my anxiety is so bad that I’ve repeatedly failed to, even in situations where I’m absolutely smashed and flirting outrageously.

Knowing me, things won’t change for a long time which is why I want to nip this in the bud now so that I can start having fun.

.I find it literally impossible to get physical with a girl, never able to go for the kiss even when girls approach me. I find myself sabotaging interactions with girls who express an interest due to this. I know exactly what you mean with "I am far too self-conscious about how sloppy and inexperienced I will seem", the benefit of an escort in making us more feel more comfortable even with kissing and touching will be huge.

I totally hear you mate. Esp the bit about “sabotaging interactions with girls who express an interest”. It’s so frustrating, not to mention completely out of tune with the otherwise positive vibes I’m sending off. Best of luck!