Sensual deprivation. I get weeks sometimes months of that. So when i meet an escort i want the complete opposite of that. Whatever that is. Sensual overload maybe.
Curvaceous Kate (29-04-12), UncleBob (29-04-12), very shy guy (29-04-12)
very shy guy (29-04-12)
I've been both a giver and a receiver on tying and teasing, so these are my tuppence. Onto the bed/sofa/whatever, a strong kiss, a restraint goes on firmly, a smile and a promise. Another kiss, another limb gets held in place. Delicious
Blindfolds - best used in moderation - and probably only when you're in the process of delivering strong sensation (pleasure or pain), and want to keep them guessing as to where a kiss or the flogger lands next Eye contact is wonderful, especially if you're the sort who likes to be mischievious and make unspoken promises
Leather restraints are possibly best from the point of both comfort and ease of use. (Hemp) rope is good, but you need to know how to do an appropriate knot (competent riggers are in demand in certain communities, and for deserved reasons). Velcro is ok, but not the sexiest thing in the world. Handcuffs have great visuals and sound when they're being put on, but can be uncomfortable sometimes.
It's certainly the time to push a little on sexual limits, as well. There is an implicit permission there in submitting to being restrained, I think, and if you have agreed words to signify 'slow down' and 'stop' then everything should be gravy
Curvaceous Kate (29-04-12), Stephanie (29-04-12)
Telling people I'm crap at something and asking for their experience is not what I would consider to be self promotion.
I'm really pleased I started the thread, as I love using my blindfold and it is interesting to see that generally it doesn't seem to be that popular, so I would have been going right up the wrong alley with that idea. I'm already learning.
Thanks everyone for their input so far x
Banjaxed (29-04-12), UncleBob (29-04-12), very shy guy (29-04-12)
This is something I'd love to try. The idea of being brought closer and closer to climax without being able to jump over the line sounds amazing. I'd imagine the finish would be mindblowing when it eventually comes.
As for blindfolds, it's not something that immediately jumps out at me as appealing, but I I'm not going to knock it until I've given it go. Great thread by the way.
Banjaxed (29-04-12), Curvaceous Kate (29-04-12), Stephanie (29-04-12)
Have done it a few times and have always enjoyed it. The feeling of waiting to be touched, not knowing how or where is wonderful.
Curvaceous Kate (29-04-12), Stephanie (29-04-12)
Certainly something I'd like to try, but I haven't the foggiest about the dynamics of it, so good thread. It sounds simple enough, if a little unnerving to be defenceless and under someone's control to the point of being blindfolded or gagged or whatever other variation.
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Curvaceous Kate (29-04-12)