Newbie. In a relationship. Need advice, experienced views and thought.

[Anna23]

I'd say, if you lucky enough to meet The One, then in my case 100% honesty would be essential, for which reason I wouldn't be able to cheat.
Other than that, I think a single fling or two if kept to yourself, won't do any harm. I believe that the majority of population cheated at least once in their life. It happens. We humans do it. There is no point to give yourself a hard time because of some hardly attainable ideals. I mean it;s a life time we are talking here ffs.
If you really want something, then do it. In life you can only regret the things you didn't do. If you don't do it, it might be hunting you for a good while again and again. Once you do it, you can put it behind and be happy to know, that you fullfilled a dream and don't have the need to do it again. Or maybe you will who knows. one thing is for sure - you will not know until you try.
This especially applies, if there is something you desire, that your partner cannot offer (ie. being with a mature woman). Sometimes you just really need to get the pressure out of your system.
It sucks and it doesnt comply with our romantic ideals but unfortunately it happens that we have desires our partner wouldnt be too happy about (if he/she knew).

And by god make sure you use condom for everything!

[Morpheus]

Hi,

I'm new to the escorting scene. Well kind of Before I got with my fiancee I use to frequent a few lovely ladies from this site. Not because I had to but because it was handy. Choose a lady who looks amazing, offers the services I'm after and go too see her.

Now I'm with an amazing girl, who I do genuinely love and want to spend the rest of my life with. Our relationship is fantastic and we have a good sex life. The only problem is it's dawning on me that I will never get to be with another women sexually again and that's not something I'm too happy with. I have always being drawn towards mature women with a naughty side And there are a few of this site that I would love to be with.

But what does this say about me as a boyfriend? I have never cheated on my fiancee EVER and always prided myself on the fact I never have nor ever would. But now I'm so close to picking up the phone and ringing people for dirty, meaningless sex.

Thanks...FM!

You need to stop logging on to E-I. You're asking for trouble (with regards to your relationship). Removing the temptation (i.e. E-I) would be a start.

[Banjaxed]

Maybe I'm just a traditionalist, and have never been in a foreseeable marriage relationship, but I'd agree with Morpheus. I don't think it's something I would be doing if I had a fiance or was married. Yes it's based on a societal norm, but I'd almost rather end the relationship than be dishonest. That's just my two cents worth, everyone is different, but I wouldn't be able to do it.

[Big-Paul]

Of course not...But I would turn away a husband of my own who had sex outside of the marriage.

Do you not think that’s a somewhat hypocritical view? in your own relationships you expect fidelity and yet work in this industry and don’t have a problem with other married men’s Infidelity

[Big-Paul]

Again I don't think I could forgive myself. The guilt would be unreal I would imagine? It's just, and I'm going to be blunt here, I would love an hour of wild sex with a more mature sexy women!

Thanks all for your advice and input in anyway!

I think you have answered your own question right there, don’t do it because it will eat you up and eventually destroy what you have if you cant reconcile it in your head now it isn’t going to get any easier after the act

[UKHeather]

Do you not think that’s a somewhat hypocritical view? in your own relationships you expect fidelity and yet work in this industry and don’t have a problem with other married men’s Infidelity

I don't see it as hypocritical. My private life and working life are separate, nothing alike and each has their own set of rules.
Do you think I should accept infidelity in my relationship because I work in the sex industry?

[Big-Paul]

I don't see it as hypocritical. My private life and working life are separate, nothing alike and each has their own set of rules.
Do you think I should accept infidelity in my relationship because I work in the sex industry?

Your private life and working life may well be separate but you are not two separate people and I doubt any husband or partner would make a distinction either. You said to another poster here "Tell your wife that you have sex with prostitutes then come back and tell us you still have a happy marriage" so why should you expect a man to feel any different towards a woman who works in the sex industry, do you make a distinction between sex with a sex worker or sex with another woman who is not involved in the industry ? I can only say from my point of view I wouldn’t have a problem if I was in a relationship with a lady who had been involved in the sex industry but was not in it while we were in the relationship and was honest about it.

[Curvaceous Kate]

My question is... why wait until now to consider it? Assuming you were single before or with someone it didn't work out with, would that not of been the moment to consider? So... why now?

[Anna23]

Your private life and working life may well be separate but you are not two separate people and I doubt any husband or partner would make a distinction either. You said to another poster here "Tell your wife that you have sex with prostitutes then come back and tell us you still have a happy marriage" so why should you expect a man to feel any different towards a woman who works in the sex industry, do you make a distinction between sex with a sex worker or sex with another woman who is not involved in the industry ? I can only say from my point of view I wouldn’t have a problem if I was in a relationship with a lady who had been involved in the sex industry but was not in it while we were in the relationship and was honest about it.

Dear God! You fellas here really don't seem to understand that what escorts do is A JOB. Nothing more nothing less. It is barely about sex or fun. It's about creating INCOME. It can by no means be considered the same as cheating. Cheating is, if a sex worker who is in a relationship has sex FOR FREE with someone she ACTUALLY FANCIES behind her partners back. Sex work is nothing like this.

Now mind you, I'm currently an exception to the rule and I'm treating my job as dating because nobody wants to take me out for free!

[Skeletor]

good post but there are people who cannot see a distinction between the two its a growing trend a dangerous trend too