Secret diary of a Dublin call girl

[Vasco da Gama]

I would like to draw attention to a recent blog that has been started with the above title.
http://secretdiaryofadublincallgirl....ess.com/about/

It has received considerable interest on other forums like boards.ie.
And we all should be interested as she quotes many threads and reviews on E-I.

This is her opening statement:

I was a call girl/escort/prostitute in Dublin, for four to five years.
This is where I have a voice, this is where I can say the truth.
Comments from the pro prostitution lobby and punters will be briefly skimmed over and then discarded. This is not a place for discussion

She is completely against the escorting industry as is evident from her threads. Everyone is entitled to his or her own views, as is the author of this blog. However, there is a very insidious message that she is sending. She clearly states that she wasn’t coerced into escorting or controlled while doing so.

I didn’t have that bad a time of it over the 4 -5 years that I was an escort

I was completely in control of my own work. I didn’t have anyone controlling me or pressuring me or forcing me


But her end conclusion is this:

Escorts are vessels, utensils, cum receptacles, fuck toys, whatever else you want to call them. To the punter, they are not entirely human, because no one entirely human would put up with such abuse, every day, every week.

The blogger says she was sexually manipulated and used in her late teens. And by association she applies this to all escorts:

Nobody wakes up one day thinking ‘Hey I think I’ll be a hooker’ and just goes for it. There is always something else behind the scenes, in the background. There is always some story, some reason beyond the facade.

Her message is essentially – that all escorts are victims. And if you work independently then you are victimizing yourself.

I do feel sorry for the blogger, if what she says is true about her abuse and sexual manipulation in her teens. No one should have to undergo that. However, extrapolating her experiences to all escorts isn’t a fair conclusion.

I have no doubt that many escorts will be able to relate to some of what she says. We have a number of our lady posters who certainly don’t pull punches on the forum and let fly about timewasters, smelly punters, hagglers etc.. But as independant escorts, you do have a choice to do this or quit. The blogger would contest that you (escorts) are not in control of your choices.

But I have reason to suspect that this isn’t the work of a single blogger but rather the carefully crafted propaganda of anti-escorting organisations. More in my next post.

[Vasco da Gama]

There are a number of reasons why I suspect that this blog is actually the work of Ruhamma and the TORL. There probably is someone like the blogger who has been involved to help with content, but the agenda reeks of the above organisations.

Firstly the timing is uncanny. The Minister for Justice has given 6 months for what he calls an ‘open discussion’ on the proposed legislation change by anti-escorting groups. This blog was started at the beginning of this year almost as a final push for the TORL campaign.

Ruhamma and the TORL have not engaged in discussion with independant escorts. All of a sudden a blog is started by a former “independant” escort which completely knocks the industry and seems to rehash everything said by the above organisations. This is a direct attack on the freedom of independant escorts to choose to work as escorts. Ruhamma and co. don’t have to engage with them anymore, as “one of their own” has spoken.

Along these lines the blogger(s) also knocks books by independant escorts – “Secret diary of a London call girl” and our own “Between the sheets”. Another dismissal of any escort who has something positive to say about her choice to work as an escort.

Secondly whoever is writing the blog, has spent a lot of time reading threads, posts and reviews on E-I. Many of these are quoted in the blog. I don’t believe that an ex-escort who has been traumatized by her experiences would bother spending hours over a period of months reading the E-I forum. This is far more likely an in-depth research project on the part of a well oiled organisation.

Thirdly one of Ruhamma’s big bugbears are reviews. And the blogger(s) go to town in this section on reviews http://secretdiaryofadublincallgirl....-get-reviewed/

Fourthly any blog I’ve read – tends to focus on actual experiences of the blogger. The blogger mentions a number horrific escorting experiences but seems to do so like someone relating a third party experience. Also early on in the blog she says that she can’t remember a lot of her escorting life, as part of a “post traumatic stress disorder”. So there is a contradiction here.


A word of warning. Be assured that the bloggers will probably comment and quote anything you say here, on their blog.

[UKHeather]

I have read the chapter on 'reviews' to which you linked and have no doubts at all that the blog is genuinely the words of an escort who has worked in Ireland. To coin a phrase: You couldn't make it up.
I'm off to read more!

[Curvaceous Kate]

I read "Secret diary of a London call girl" a year ago while on tour in Scotland and it is the biggest pile of crap I've ever read in my life. It really annoys me when people like to speak for all. You can say 'This is my experience' or 'I know people who have also' etc, but don't glide a wand over one and all and say we are all the same, as we are not.

In my situation it was perfectly normal. I wasn't earning enough money in my current job, so I looked at my skill base and where my personal strengths were and came up with Escorting. I started part-time to see if I liked it and then took the plunge and made it my main job, although I do still have other work that I do, which I think makes me a more rounded person and keeps my brain active.

I have no sexual hang ups, I was never been sexually abused in my past (unless you call woefully bad sexual partners abuse?), I am able to do other jobs if I really want to and am using some of the funds earned to train in another career for when I give up.

There are some men out there that are not interested in 'mutual fun' but this is usually balanced out during the course of a working day and there is plenty of job satisfaction to be had. I've certainly never had a job before where people I work with take me out to dinner, buy me gifts and pay me so well. I feel more valued than used (most of the time).

This is my experience and I have to balance this out a little, as most of my experience has been based in the UK, Scotland and Nothern Ireland, so I can't really make comment about Ireland fairly and will abstain until I have gained more experence, which I certainly intend to do.

[Lucy Chambers]

I have read the chapter on 'reviews' to which you linked and have no doubts at all that the blog is genuinely the words of an escort who has worked in Ireland. To coin a phrase: You couldn't make it up.
I'm off to read more!

The escort is real. She used to advertise here. However I wouldnt be too surprised if she was working with Ruhama now. Interesting, harrowing and very truthful in parts. Not everyone thrives in the sex industry, and as she says herself, it isnt all Belle Du Jour. I think she writes exceptionally well.

Some clients will be horrified. I should remind them it is all subjective to your own personal experience.

[FullLife]

I've read some of the blog, it's well written even if it is made up.
To be honest it made me take a look at myself and I'm kind of disgusted.
Hope I can give up punting, and will definitely give up reviewing.
I'm out

[Curvaceous Kate]

The escort is real. She used to advertise here. However I wouldnt be too surprised if she was working with Ruhama now. Interesting, harrowing and very truthful in parts. Not everyone thrives in the sex industry, and as she says herself, it isnt all belle Du Jour. I think she writes exceptionally well.

Belle de jour is rhubarb too!

Sounds like this one is worth a read though.

[Lucy Chambers]

Belle de jour is rhubarb too!

Sounds like this one is worth a read though.

As I said Kate, its all subjective. I think perhaps you should have a read of it first.

[UKHeather]

The escort is real. She used to advertise here. However I wouldnt be too surprised if she was working with Ruhama now. Interesting, harrowing and very truthful in parts. Not everyone thrives in the sex industry, and as she says herself, it isnt all Belle Du Jour. I think she writes exceptionally well.

Some clients will be horrified. I should remind them it is all subjective to your own personal experience.

I have just finished reading all of it. I can relate to some of it and can accept the rest of it. She has managed to relate her own experiences, feelings and perceptions quite exceptionally, I agree.

[Curvaceous Kate]

As I said Kate, its all subjective. I think perhaps you should have a read of it first.

I just said it sounds like it is worth a read. I was not critising it Lucy, just ackowledging that it has pricked my interest.

My comment before was purely taken from the info provided in the introduction here and I stand by what I say. I think it is wrong to make general judgements and put people in boxes.

I was watching the devils table earlier today (I know I must be boring) and there was a question poised to one of the guests, which was...

Which would your presecute first...

A benefit fraud

A drug dealer

A brothel owner

The lady chose brothel owner and said that it was because the other two people have a choice not to do it, where people working in brothels don't.

Now that to me is a sweeping statement and I know people who work in parlours and choose to do it, so I know her opinion is wrong.

That was my point.