Secret diary of a Dublin call girl

[UKHeather]

She seen escorting as easy peasy money.

She found out, that no, there is no such thing as easy money. She seen the wrong clients and was blinded by the money and not the risks.

I would disagree that she saw the wrong clients. Just clients. Most of the women who work as escorts will identify with much of what she wrote. The thing is, she had been emotionally beaten into a submissive mindset and she put up with it.

[UKHeather]

I've been reading through that this afternoon.
From an initial reading it would seem that this girl has some quite serious mental health issues.

Wonder if I ever saw her..

Would it make any difference if you knew for sure that you had? You know.. contributed to her misery

[DaithiMac]

Most interesting thread in a long time.....I dont really have any comment ....just wanted to say thx to all the ladies who responded to what is a very personal issue.....
David

[Lucy Chambers]

I've been reading through that this afternoon.
From an initial reading it would seem that this girl has some quite serious mental health issues.

Wonder if I ever saw her..

Erm, I think that her issues may be why she chose this cathartic route. There is no need to disparage her Punty, just disagree with what she says. For the record, she is perfectly sane. I think she is suffering with post traumatic stress.

[saoirsemac]

Have we figured out who this poisonous bitch is yet or is she a figment of Ruhama's imagination?

wow, u are proofing why this blog was wrote, this job is not all good u know! some of us can deal with and make our peace with it, others however cant and dont, she didnt ur remark is vile tbh,

i guess the truth often hurts, i share some of her feelings tbh and i aint the only one, however i do like what i do but chirst there is some plebs about


imho personal i believe she is been a victim, not but choice but life has sadly led her to this, not all of us will see ourself as that i believe the abuse she faced in the past ended up been continued in her escort career

but u have some nerve to say that about her, when in fact ye the punters are rather clueless about this life

[Curvaceous Kate]

This thread has been making me think and it reminded me of a young Escort who I met last year. She is also involved in the BDSM scene and offers herself at a high rate offering submissive services. For some time she joined myself and a few others once a month holding party bookings and during one party she started to talk about the fact that she was in care for some of her childhood and abused.

As it was I was looking after a gentleman and as it was inappropriate and a bit of a mood killer I had to ask her to change the subject, but at the time I wondered if her involvement with BDSM was due to her start in life and her appeal towards older men. I do think the start we have in life is often a blue print to our future and be it right or wrong, we cling to what we know and understand.

Having said that, she never came across as a victim and appeared to be very much in control. She was and is a very intelligent young lady and had worked out how to use what she had to her benefit. Whether she was making the right choices for herself remains to be seen, but it was definitely her choice, as her boyfriend did not want her working and often tried to stop her.

[doodlebug]

This thread has been making me think and it reminded me of a young Escort who I met last year. She is also involved in the BDSM scene and offers herself at a high rate offering submissive services. For some time she joined myself and a few others once a month holding party bookings and during one party she started to talk about the fact that she was in care for some of her childhood and abused.

As it was I was looking after a gentleman and as it was inappropriate and a bit of a mood killer I had to ask her to change the subject, but at the time I wondered if her involvement with BDSM was due to her start in life and her appeal towards older men. I do think the start we have in life is often a blue print to our future and be it right or wrong, we cling to what we know and understand.

Having said that, she never came across as a victim and appeared to be very much in control. She was and is a very intelligent young lady and had worked out how to use what she had to her benefit. Whether she was making the right choices for herself remains to be seen, but it was definitely her choice, as her boyfriend did not want her working and often tried to stop her.

I think Kate, that is exactly the point I was trying to make earlier. It would be interesting to see other professions and the numbers from care backgrounds that enter them or don't. I am thinking about group professions, poice force, army nursing etc. There can be no doubt that how we are brought up can have an effect on the choice of career we make and being abused or neglected can lead to certain choices. If we start as abused then we learn to rebel against it or to embrace it, it is the same with any trait. Therefore, again the question must be asked is DCG abused because she choose to be an escort and therefore abused in the profession (in her own mind certainly) or did she choose the profession because she was abused. I don't know the answer and I am lucky not to have to reflect on such influences on my own life, although like us all I carry my own baggage and it affects my choices.

[Anna23]

I wish to make clear, that drawing conclusions regarding submissivity and escorting is out of order. I've been thinking about this topic a lot and the only conclusion that can be made is, that every case is different and has to be considered individually.
But, I know for sure that there are submissive people who would never do escorting and I also for sure know, that the VAST majority of escorts is NOT sexually submissive.
Please keep this in mind.

[ksteve]

I really minded the sugestion that it must be something wrong for someone to start such a job. It's not true and nobody can generalise this days, when women are emancipated and consider escorting to be a career choice, not a way of self distruction and self punishing.


So, if she put up with that for 4 - 5 years, a really long time, I really doubt she was so unhappy. A really unhappy person would have been crushed in weeks or months and no amount of money would have made it bearable. Probably that's the normal person in me talking here, but this is just how I feel. I retired as an escort as well. Do I resend certain things from the past? Yes, of course? Do I think that it was somethig wrong with me because I got into it in the first place? Not at all. Do I hate some of my previous clients? Not at all. Perhaps I have no respect for some and some I find really annoying, but this is hardly something strange in any business.
I find it as well sad that this would give more bad ammunition to all the Rhuama crap that sees all escorts (or masseuses ) as victims, forced to do what they are doing.

It is a good personal account, which is clouded by generalisation. You often wonder in life what your life might have been like if you had turned a different corner. There is no knowing if the choices you make if it will be right for you or not until you take it, but nevertheless Escorting for independent Escorts, is a choice and in my case it has been the right one. No job is perfect, but the good far out ways the bad in my case and I can sleep well at night most nights, whereas before I was in turmoil most of the time, as I didn't know a way out of the siutation I had got myself in to.

I would also say that my opinion on Escorting before I started was far lower than the reality. I had imagined dirty old men that didn't care about my enjoyment at all, that they would be taking what they wanted and I would be 'putting up with it' and feeling unfullfilled. I used to swing before I started Escorting and I had decided that I would still go to the club I freqented once a month, as no way would I get any sexual fullfillment out of the job. The reality is that I have not been back in 2 years. I have had better sex in many cases and have met men that I am mentally and physically attracted to and in some cases formed friendships. Yes of course there are some that conform to my stereotype, but they are few and far between in my experience.I still live my life very conservatively, as I have commitments I am trying to pay off, my life on the outside has not changed very much and I would much prefer it if I could be open about what I am doing, but that is not likely to change in the near future. I think if the stigma was taken away for those that do 'choose' to do this, life would be made a lot easier and happier, as it is the secrecy that can often be depressing for me.



This could just be me. I might be totally unique in my feelings and thoughts, but they are valid, as they are mine and I am an Escort.

Thank you ladies.

It is heartenning to read such clear and unambiguous views expressed by such experienced escorts and well respected posters. I think it is so important that you and other ladies who hold the same beliefs make it clear to those who wish to destroy your chosen path, that your experiences are quite different in the main from those expressed by this unfortunate escort. We will also appreciate this as clients of escorts.

As someone who has visited escorts on numerous occasions ( and personally know others who do so also ), I just cannot identify with this notion of 'power trippers '. I hope and trust that the majority of clients feel the same way. I see the booking encounter as a meeting of equals, at the very least. If anything, I feel perhaps that the lady has the balance of power in the meeting and I have no problem whatsoever with that.

WRT reviews, my guess is that the vast majority of reviews are positive and written by guys anxious to show their appreciation for the wonderful time that he enjoyed with the escort concerned. Rather than being used as a power trip by some small men , trigger happy to get his hands on his keyboard at home to put down his escort, I would suggest that most reviewers do their best to accentuate the best aspects of the visit and not primarily in order to puff up their supposed egos.

There is little point in my commenting on this escort's blogs as I would need hours to do so properly. Judging from her past, I think her entry into escorting was doomed to fail from the very start. I wish her all the very best for the future and hope that she gets all the help and support that she so clearly needs and deserves.

[DaithiMac]

I wish to make clear, that drawing conclusions regarding submissivity and escorting is out of order. I've been thinking about this topic a lot and the only conclusion that can be made is, that every case is different and has to be considered individually.
But, I know for sure that there are submissive people who would never do escorting and I also for sure know, that the VAST majority of escorts is NOT sexually submissive.
Please keep this in mind.

All generalizations are dangerous, even this one.
Alexandre Dumas
French dramatist & novelist (1802 - 1870)