Any genuine Alcoholics? Help needed ...

[hd7055]

Title says it all really.

Have lost my career, friends and hope through drink.

Family stand by me but are getting sick of it.

House will go in a couple of months.

Have done 3 rehab/ 28 day programs but think I'm just fucked!

Currently think I'm doing well, because I'm 'controlling' my drinking by limiting myself to 26 units a day - apparently 22 is the safe weekly limit. This for me is good by the way, a daily dose of 50+ would have being my norm.

People may read this and think just stop - not that simple, unless you want an epileptic shock or the DT's ( which I've had, but thankfully not fatal).

Anyone that's had and dealt with alcoholism - would really appreciate some pointers.

This is a thread for Alco's; please don't reply unless you have had a genuine problem with drink. Don't want to be rude but I need help not sympathy.

[n73]

Mate, I'm only finished work and am too tired to write a long post. I'll pm you tomorrow at some stage.

[JAMESCORK]

Holy shit...

Here we are posting alongside a good buddy of ours, all the time not knowing he was struggling with an addiction that was having serious impact on his life....

My support, albeit perhaps ineffective, is with you bud... I hope you see this out...

Best of luck... and stay here on the boards, you are amongst friends..

[itstimenow]

i watched my father drink himself to death,the last time i spoke to him was wen i entered his bedroom to find at least 5 opened bottles of vodka,i pleaded with him to stop ,he had banged on his bedroom floor as he was in sum pain,he was bleading from his stomach,i called da ambulance 4 him but he was dead the next day in hospital,
i cant tell how to stop drinking but this is a clear warning 4 you,i lived with my father and spent 3 years in and out of hospital with him as he was getting fluid drained off his stomach,i dont know your problems but ive seen it,i hope after reading this you do what you need to do before its to late

[TomEA]

I'm not much of a drinker unfortunately so I feel advice from me wouldn't go very far.

I do wish you the best of luck in your journey mate.
It will be long and hard as im sure, I will not be able to imagine how hard, but it will be worth it mate.

I'm sure plenty of people here have been in your situation, this is a safe haven.

Good luck

[madjack]

HI HD7055, John here. Believe me i know what you are going through as i have been there done that. I am not going to give you my life story because i want to try to help you and not bore you with my past. The first step to recovery is admitting that you are an alcoholic and i could not see that and when people told me i had a problem it was then that i said to myself who do they think they are i'll show them. Having gone through suicide attempt's etc i could not still see i had a problem until one day the penny dropped. No 2 talk to someone about it and nowadays people will listen especially fellow alcoholic's who are in recovery. There are good people out there believe it or not. Do not for the moment worry too much about other problem's as they cannot be sorted until you are on the road to recovery yourself. I could not believe that i could live without drink because it was my crutch to lean on when anything went wrong but the problem's were still there after. I thought without drink i couldn't talk to people, i'd have no friend's i wouldn't be able to dance etc but after a while i realised my so called friend's were only aquaintaincies. Talking to fellow alcoholic's you will realise that they are mostly genuine and are willing to help. At the start you might feel that it is only all bullshit like i did but after a while you will find yourself getting more confident ,better able to comunicate, start the day with a clear head. Very important to talk and keep talking about your problem and do not let it get you down and believe me there is light at the end of the tunnel. I am not preaching or anything but i know that if i done it anyone can. Hope this is some help to you as i have walked in your shoes but with the help of people like myself i know that you can do it. Willpower will not do it but you and i and genuine recovering alcoholic's can. John

[down at heel]

Hi Man , listen to what madjack is telling you I'm in recovery since 91 and my life has turned around, PM me anytime about anything and good luck there is a great life out there for you one day at a time

[ber]

Title says it all really.

Have lost my career, friends and hope through drink.

Family stand by me but are getting sick of it.

House will go in a couple of months.

Have done 3 rehab/ 28 day programs but think I'm just fucked!

Currently think I'm doing well, because I'm 'controlling' my drinking by limiting myself to 26 units a day - apparently 22 is the safe weekly limit. This for me is good by the way, a daily dose of 50+ would have being my norm.

People may read this and think just stop - not that simple, unless you want an epileptic shock or the DT's ( which I've had, but thankfully not fatal).

Anyone that's had and dealt with alcoholism - would really appreciate some pointers.

This is a thread for Alco's; please don't reply unless you have had a genuine problem with drink. Don't want to be rude but I need help not sympathy.

U are at a crossroads and what way this will end is in no way certain. I have seen the exact thing that u have described
happen to a close relation, the only difference is that he prob did rehab 10 times. It always ended the same he dried out
stayed sober for a period then started drinking again, functioned while drinking for a period then would get so bad he would
stock up on drink and take to the bed. He would reach rock bottom then we would get him sorted out everything ok for a
while, everybody would say maybe this time will be different but eventually the cycle would begin again.
The cycle broke eventually when at 48yrs of age he died from organ failure brought on by excessive drinking,basically his
system could take no more and shut down. What was so terrible about this was this many was held in such high regard in
his community, when he was sober he did so much voluntary work etc. All everyone could say was what a waste.
I wont sugar coat this for u, from what u say u are headed down his path and seeing as u appear to have a good support
network nothing can deviate u from that path but ureself. U can get all the help and suppoprt in the world but at the end
of the day u must beat this ureself
So i will be brutally honest here from what i have garnered from what u have written u dont seem to be fully 100% committed
to beating this, nothing u will read here will have not already been offered to u in rehab etc. U seem to be grasping at straws
hoping someone can offer u a lifeline a solution. There is no magic bullet here,it is all down to u at the end of the day.
Just to finish as u said ure not looking for sympathy well all i can say unless u get ure shit together this will not end well
This is from someone who has seen the desperation and pain this causes to a whole family when it happens

[hd7055]

My sincere thanks to all that have posted here and particularly those that have sent PMs. Much appreciated.

Guess I really need to go back to AA and stick to the program - I know full well that my other options are hospital, jail or an early grave. Having said that, it's unreal how much I crave booze - daft, I know, but that's addiction for ya ...

[TomEA]

My sincere thanks to all that have posted here and particularly those that have sent PMs. Much appreciated.

Guess I really need to go back to AA and stick to the program - I know full well that my other options are hospital, jail or an early grave. Having said that, it's unreal how much I crave booze - daft, I know, but that's addiction for ya ...

I will never be able to understand your addiction fully, although I have had/still have addictions. I am currently a smoker (attempting to quite thanks to an escort here) and I know it can be hard to break the habbit. The worst thing about it, is its routine, I have a cup of tea and a fag, after food I have a fag.

Try and break routine and this may help.
Again, good luck in your journey and I hope it turns out best for you and the ones you care for