Escort- Ladies, is your Significant Other allowed to have sex with other people?

[LynnT]

Much different results so far this side of "town".

[Doozer]

Escorts don't have to post, they can just post and no one can see.
I think it should be fine, as long as specific detials/escorts are not mentioned or asked for

Not against the rules personal
Just mind your.own business personal

[Techno Viking]

What do people expect the answer will be . Im sure not one, wants to find out that their partner is having a sexual relationship out side of them. If people say the dont mind if they are cheating then its not a loving relationship

secondly this thread is a bit personal isn't it ?

Doozer, perhaps we can debate this more to get a better understanding of each others views?

Assuming, that the SO of an escort knows she is an escort, therefore, he is accepting, understanding and content that his partner is having sex with numerous strangers everyday, correct? Also, it wouldnt be a case of him finding out she is having sex with clients for money everyday?

He also understands that it is purely a job, done for money and no emotional attachments are made when he knows she is an escort already, right?

I think the key word you used in your post was relationship. Assume the SO of an escort is having nsa sex with other people. Just sex, no attachment, no contact or friendship other than to organise a time purely for sex, be that because he just wants a physical release, or his partner isnt in the mood after seeing clients that day, whatever.

In your opinion is he cheating and not really in love with her? If yes, would you consider that when his escort partner has sex for money, is she cheating on him and does she really not love him cos she has sex for money?

Do you differnetiate the two?

[LynnT]

Its only cheating if the other doesnt know about it. You're only cheating when you break the agreement you have with each other.


I personally would not allow it unless I was involved as in we have a play date... Or we are swinging together.. Im personally a lady that will take care of her man so he does not feel the need to be with others. he wont even want to cause he has good loving at home.. Im a bit older and so is who I date we've both already "played the field" had enough "variety".. You just have to work on keeping the sex spicy. It the states this question is posed, its a very tit for tat mentality. Well she fucks so can I.. even if she gives him all the lovin' he needs and them some its well she does so can I, crap IMO. I dont get pure pleasure out of my appointments, its work, Im numb to it.. Its all about the client not me, Im there to please him not myself.. hes doing it just for pure pleasure to please himself in a greedy way.. with a "just because she does tude"...
I am not so it does not make it "fair" IMO.

[Techno Viking]

Thats an interesting viewpoint Lynn, thanks.

I probably should have specified in my hypothetical scenario that the escorts partner is not having nsa sex purely out of spite just because his partner does so everyday for a living. He does so because he chooses to do so or for instance, maybe his partner isnt in the mood after seeing clients all day.

You say you dont get pleasure out of your appointments, its all about the client. The end goal is client satisfaction and money in your pocket correct?

For an escorts partner who has nsa sex, the end goal is a physical release, again say for instance if he hasnt been intimate with his own partner and is not being greedy, but just wanting to orgasm and nothing to do with, well if she can do it, so can i mentality

Is your opinion still the same?

[LynnT]

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I probably should have specified in my hypothetical scenario that the escorts partner is not having nsa sex purely out of spite just because his partner does so everyday for a living. He does so because he chooses to do so or for instance, maybe his partner isnt in the mood after seeing clients all day.

You say you dont get pleasure out of your appointments, its all about the client. The end goal is client satisfaction and money in your pocket correct?

Yes more or less, its not like it never "pleasurable", you do become numb over time. Im a gfe lady so my appointments are all about him. When Im single I try to seek more pleasure but when I have SO I save it for him so to speak. I also agreed to work certain days a week so I dont have to deal with the issue of not wanting to after work.. I agreed to no overnights, vacations and never to book on our time as hes dated an escort in the past that did that, they saw each other on the weekends and she'd put them off for an appointment. I can make enough doing my 3 days a week, Im not greedy. Im also going to start working a different job in this industry so I will not need to work this job as much. I just need some time to implement it.


For an escorts partner who has nsa sex, the end goal is a physical release, again say for instance if he hasn't been intimate with his own partner and is not being greedy, but just wanting to orgasm and nothing to do with, well if she can do it, so can i mentality.

No, as she is not filling his needs. Comes down to keeping him happy at home.. thats my "job" as it is his to keep me happy so I want keep him happy.

There is also nothing like true intimacy and pleasure, you just cant have that with a client or NSA...

[Franken996]

Much different results so far this side of "town".

You're right there Lynn!

Below are the US Poll figs....guess there's some looser arrangents here in the land o'the swingers...

[Lucy Chambers]

Significant other? How I hate that phrase.

It would depend on how the relationship was going I guess. If it was casual, there is no reason it shouldn't be open. I cant offer a sexually exclusive relationship to anyone so I don't feel I could really ask for one. In general I am not sexually jealous but I may be emotionally so, so if for example my ''SO'' was having emotionally involved sex, that may be an issue. If I was making commitments to a person I would prefer monogamy unless previously discussed and agreed and shared sexual adventures, ie a threesome and so on. I think it is good to experiment but bad to go too far. As escorts we are in the wrong business for treasuring monogamy unless of course you meet a rather special and very understanding partner.

Too complicated, relationships and work. Better to keep a few close friends in each country

[Franken996]

Significant other? How I hate that phrase.

Well ya know- I've been living here long enough to get brain washed by the PC police... eh, NOT
I just wanted to capture the essence of a committed long(er) term partner ( regardless of same/opp sex etc) & SO seems to work!

It would depend on how the relationship was going I guess. If it was casual, there is no reason it shouldn't be open. I cant offer a sexually exclusive relationship to anyone so I don't feel I could really ask for one. In general I am not sexually jealous but I may be emotionally so, so if for example my ''SO'' was having emotionally involved sex, that may be an issue. If I was making commitments to a person I would prefer monogamy unless previously discussed and agreed and shared sexual adventures, ie a threesome and so on. I think it is good to experiment but bad to go too far. As escorts we are in the wrong business for treasuring monogamy unless of course you meet a rather special and very understanding partner.

Too complicated, relationships and work. Better to keep a few close friends in each country

Truest words I've seen in a while!!

[Techno Viking]

thanks to both lynn and lucy, your posts were very refreshing and interesting to read and get your views. Thanks to franken as well for starting one of the more interesting threads of late