Question for the Ladies

[Techno Viking]

Hello gorgeous ladies of EI, how we all doing?

I wanted to ask your opinions on something and get your feedback please if I may?

There is an escort that ive seen quite a few times, the last time being end of sept/start of oct. We are quite friendly and get on well.

Said escort has told me and i quote "i dont see you as a client, i see you as the great friend you are"

Now this isnt supposed to sound how it probably will, but ive been around the block a few times and heard that line trotted out by so many girls, i take it with a pinch of salt. I fully umderstand that in 99.99% of the time, thats just covert flattery to try and ensure a repeat visit etc. and that i will always remain a client and never a friend.

With the girl i am referring to though, i am not so sure. She has told me on more than one occasion, i am not a client, but a friend. She has told me private and personal things about herself and i know for a fact they were true cos she showed me the proof to back up what she was saying. I am in two minds as to whether i believe her not as its always in the back of my mind that im always a client first and foremost, and is she saying the exact same thing to alot of clients?

Now, i should clarify, i have no romantic inclinations or feelings for this lady, but i do really like her platonically and think she would be a great friend and who id be proud to have a friendship with.

I havent heard a peep from this lady in ages (she's not working) and im wondering is it acceptable to contact her just to say hello, see how she's doing and wish her a happy xmas? She gave me her personal contact details and had said i could contact her anytime. Is this acceptable ladies? I dont wanna overstep the boundary.

I have resisted so far, and doubt is creeping into my head because if we were indeed the "good friends" she says we are, wouldnt she have contacted me first? I made it implicitly clear that i would not contact her first cos i felt it was wrong until i kinda confirmation from her and first contact from her, kinda like the green light to respond, then i would feel more comfortable replying.

Also, would she not have already contacted me to say that she isnt working but that she's fine and happy and not to worry about her if indeed she saw me as a real friend? Nearly 2 months on i have heard absolutely zip from her. If i havent spoken to some of my real, civvy friends for a while (and by a hile i mean a few weeks at the very most) i'll always get in contact somehow and let them know im alright, just been busy or whatever and vice versa.

Should i contact this lady outside or work/escorting or just let it be and put it down to her being a little more believable than most escorts who use the friend line and that we were never friends to begin with?

Or i am i being just an over analysing douche? Ya probably

[Doozer]

One question for you
How much does this friendship cost you an hour?

[Techno Viking]

One question for you
How much does this friendship cost you an hour?

When i see her for escorting stuff, an arm and a leg, when i see her platonically just to hang out, zilch

[Doozer]

Im probably going to get eaten alive for saying this but
Id out it down to the role the escort plays. If she is really your friend she would contact you

[Nicole]

It may look like Mods are hacking your thread Techno LOL

I think you should not contact Lady in question. After all it is a business transaction between escort and punter and perhaps it is better to leave it that way.

xxx
Nicole

[Techno Viking]

Im probably going to get eaten alive for saying this but
Id out it down to the role the escort plays. If she is really your friend she would contact you

No, i think you're right and i agree. Like i said, i think she's just more believable than most ive met and also think she would have contacted me by now if she was being genuine. Cheers Doozer, i just wanted a second opinion

[samlad]

Yeah, we've seen enough clients fall into a false sense of security by a pretty smile unfortunately. Don't mix business with pleasure, fella.

[Techno Viking]

jeez nicole, you werent kidding when you said my thread was gonna be hacked by mods

Seriously though, all your input is welcome so rhank you.

The sentiments you have expressed were what i was feeling and thinking anyway, just wanted an unbiased opinion from somone else and they all echo mine. Its sorted now and put to bed, excuse the pun, in my mind so im just gonna leave it and forget about it


Thanks again

[anon361]

A little bit of flirting and mutual admiration does nobody any harm, it's when guys start looking too much into it that it becomes a problem, you must have clicked because they don't say it to every guy, take it for what it is, a paid GFE experience..

[doodlebug]

I am going to overturn the applecart on this one. I would take this lady at her word, she says she considers you a friend and you have met (apparently) without a transaction taking place. You quite clearly state that you have no romantic inclinations, so what harm in sending a happy christmas hope you are ok message.

There are numerous threads where escorts are emphasizing they are humans first with feelings and sensitivities, so maybe as a human said lady would be delighted to hear from you on a friendly basis.

What's the worst can happen she doesn't respond or she comes back and says lets just keep this a business arrangement. If you are not romantically inclined towards her you will be able to accept whatever response you get.

I for one say make the contact she might just be glad of a friend right now.