Loosing it to a escort

[Frontwing]

As the title suggests, im a 25 year old (just turned) virgin. Getting kinda lonley now to say the least, i've been with girls before and been out with them and always been the gent buying them things and basically being a skivvy but never gone so far with a girl to loose my virginity, the last one i was with was a complete user only in it for my money, that was a few years ago (when i was 18) after that i swore off them for life and that they'd only hurt you in the long run (i realise this isnt the case for alot of women, but certainly the ones i attract), but i cant stand to be hurt again and used again.

The current job i'm in exposes me to the worst and best of life (taxxing) i've been doing it for just under 4 years now it kinda helped me get over her and hinderd me in the same way. Always a excuse not to go out always having the excuse not to go for a few pints ''Sure i have to work tonite''.

But i cant get away from the fact that i'm the wrong side of 20 and never been intimate with a woman, now im no looker im average at best and overweight, but to the folks on here do you really think its the best for me to loose my virginity to a escort, for merely the physical task in itself??

I realise this probably isnt the best place to be asking as it probably raises more questions than it answers.

Any way thanks for looking and hopefully someone who has been in the same position before can shead a bit of light on it many thanks.

Frontwing.

[wolfie]

Make that call

[Julius Caesar]

Hay Frontwing I'd say if you called an escort and get the job done i will give you some confidence for future girls just take it easy and if your 25 don't delay

[Lucy Chambers]

As the title suggests, im a 25 year old (just turned) virgin. Getting kinda lonley now to say the least, i've been with girls before and been out with them and always been the gent buying them things and basically being a skivvy but never gone so far with a girl to loose my virginity, the last one i was with was a complete user only in it for my money, that was a few years ago (when i was 18) after that i swore off them for life and that they'd only hurt you in the long run (i realise this isnt the case for alot of women, but certainly the ones i attract), but i cant stand to be hurt again and used again.

The current job i'm in exposes me to the worst and best of life (taxxing) i've been doing it for just under 4 years now it kinda helped me get over her and hinderd me in the same way. Always a excuse not to go out always having the excuse not to go for a few pints ''Sure i have to work tonite''.

But i cant get away from the fact that i'm the wrong side of 20 and never been intimate with a woman, now im no looker im average at best and overweight, but to the folks on here do you really think its the best for me to loose my virginity to a escort, for merely the physical task in itself??

I realise this probably isnt the best place to be asking as it probably raises more questions than it answers.

Any way thanks for looking and hopefully someone who has been in the same position before can shead a bit of light on it many thanks.

Frontwing.

Hi there


Unfortunately escorts can provide only so much intimacy. Your virginity is something easy to lose and impossible to get back, and you should think carefully before making that leap. For many reasons. Relationships can be a bit of a minefield but right now you are in a perfect position not to worry. You are only 25, and while I realise you might be getting slightly perturbed don't think you will be alone forever, you won't. Think of now as time to learn about what you like, get comfortable with yourself, and then look for someone. Try internet dating, you. Have nothing to lose (apart from the obvious).


If you are still a virgin when you are thirty then come back and one of us will shag you rigid. But please try not to worry.

[mer]

if its what you really want dude, pick up that phone and go actually run lol
best of luck anyway dude

[JAMESCORK]

Nice advice Lucy, but I fear not what the guy wants to hear. Reading between the lines I sense this guy doesn’t get out much and feels self conscious about his physical appearance. Being self conscious and lacking confidence is probably one of the biggest stumbling blocks a guy can have when looking for an intimate relationship.

I say go for it bud. There are many guys like you here on these boards. Guys that have learned confidence because of meeting escorts. The fact that you do not think you are attractive is irrelevant, escorts do not mind in the slightest. Chances are that a lot of civvie girls wont mind either, you just need to find the right ones. Choose a proven escort to start with, lose those inhibitions, and you may find after a while you are getting ‘luckier’ with the girls in your social group.

[Lucy Chambers]

Nice advice Lucy, but I fear not what the guy wants to hear. Reading between the lines I sense this guy doesn’t get out much and feels self conscious about his physical appearance. Being self conscious and lacking confidence is probably one of the biggest stumbling blocks a guy can have when looking for an intimate relationship.

I say go for it bud. There are many guys like you here on these boards. Guys that have learned confidence because of meeting escorts. The fact that you do not think you are attractive is irrelevant, escorts do not mind in the slightest. Chances are that a lot of civvie girls wont mind either, you just need to find the right ones. Choose a proven escort to start with, lose those inhibitions, and you may find after a while you are getting ‘luckier’ with the girls in your social group.

I see what you are saying James but I would think it even worse for your self esteem if you were to think the only way to lose your virginity would be to pay someone to do it. I'm not a guy though

[Julius Caesar]

I see what you are saying James but I would think it even worse for your self esteem if you were to think the only way to lose your virginity would be to pay someone to do it. I'm not a guy though

Us men think with 2 heads and quite simply a ride is a ride

[mer]

I see what you are saying James but I would think it even worse for your self esteem if you were to think the only way to lose your virginity would be to pay someone to do it. I'm not a guy though

i understand what your saying lucy i think i made a mistake lol ahh well we learn

[herodotus]

I agree with Lucy on this one. It seems to me that you are after a relationship not sex. Also, I think that your first experience if it is with an escort, especially if it is a good escort, will give you a completely unrealistic expectation of what is going to happen when you meet the right girl. With the end result that you could blow a perfectly good relationship because of those unrealistic expectations.

I would say dont make that call.

As the title suggests, im a 25 year old (just turned) virgin. Getting kinda lonley now to say the least, i've been with girls before and been out with them and always been the gent buying them things and basically being a skivvy but never gone so far with a girl to loose my virginity, the last one i was with was a complete user only in it for my money, that was a few years ago (when i was 18) after that i swore off them for life and that they'd only hurt you in the long run (i realise this isnt the case for alot of women, but certainly the ones i attract), but i cant stand to be hurt again and used again.

The current job i'm in exposes me to the worst and best of life (taxxing) i've been doing it for just under 4 years now it kinda helped me get over her and hinderd me in the same way. Always a excuse not to go out always having the excuse not to go for a few pints ''Sure i have to work tonite''.

But i cant get away from the fact that i'm the wrong side of 20 and never been intimate with a woman, now im no looker im average at best and overweight, but to the folks on here do you really think its the best for me to loose my virginity to a escort, for merely the physical task in itself??

I realise this probably isnt the best place to be asking as it probably raises more questions than it answers.

Any way thanks for looking and hopefully someone who has been in the same position before can shead a bit of light on it many thanks.

Frontwing.