Loosing it to a escort

[Lincoln]

As the title suggests, im a 25 year old (just turned) virgin. Getting kinda lonley now to say the least, i've been with girls before and been out with them and always been the gent buying them things and basically being a skivvy but never gone so far with a girl to loose my virginity, the last one i was with was a complete user only in it for my money, that was a few years ago (when i was 18) after that i swore off them for life and that they'd only hurt you in the long run (i realise this isnt the case for alot of women, but certainly the ones i attract), but i cant stand to be hurt again and used again.


The current job i'm in exposes me to the worst and best of life (taxxing) i've been doing it for just under 4 years now it kinda helped me get over her and hinderd me in the same way. Always a excuse not to go out always having the excuse not to go for a few pints ''Sure i have to work tonite''.

But i cant get away from the fact that i'm the wrong side of 20 and never been intimate with a woman, now im no looker im average at best and overweight, but to the folks on here do you really think its the best for me to loose my virginity to a escort, for merely the physical task in itself??

I realise this probably isnt the best place to be asking as it probably raises more questions than it answers.

Any way thanks for looking and hopefully someone who has been in the same position before can shead a bit of light on it many thanks.

Frontwing.

I lost my virginity with workin girl mate. Its no big deal I reckon if you absolutely want to get off the mark so to speak.

That being said you are only a young fella. The physical sensation of sex (which is just great by the way) is one thing to enjoy but if you do go for an appointment use it as a means to feel more confident about dating and stuff like that. This lifestyle, from a punters point of view, is only recreation. You should try to find a relationship I reckon. You don't want to end up lonely and bitter like me (actually I'm not that bitter!!!)

If you do go for an appointment be well scrubbed and polite.

lincoln

[paul_m]

Hi there


Unfortunately escorts can provide only so much intimacy. Your virginity is something easy to lose and impossible to get back, and you should think carefully before making that leap. For many reasons. Relationships can be a bit of a minefield but right now you are in a perfect position not to worry. You are only 25, and while I realise you might be getting slightly perturbed don't think you will be alone forever, you won't. Think of now as time to learn about what you like, get comfortable with yourself, and then look for someone. Try internet dating, you. Have nothing to lose (apart from the obvious).


If you are still a virgin when you are thirty then come back and one of us will shag you rigid. But please try not to worry.

Maybe it's just me I am was bothered who I lost it to as long as I was able to do it. Different for girls I think, I lost it to an escort and it wasn't romantic but it was exciting.Make the call you need to have sex.

[paul_m]

Sex is sex, I think people make to much of the virginity thing, just go out and empty your nuts and you will be able to

see again

[Julius Caesar]

Sex is sex, I think people make to much of the virginity thing, just go out and empty your nuts and you will be able to

see again

Im with you on this one if your going to break you virginity do it with a sexy bird that you will certainly, ah fuck it i see there's a few pornstars here book one and blow it in style

[paul_m]

Im with you on this one if your going to break you virginity do it with a sexy bird that you will certainly, ah fuck it i see there's a few pornstars here book one and blow it in style

yeeeeee haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

[Morpheus]

As the title suggests, im a 25 year old (just turned) virgin. Getting kinda lonley now to say the least, i've been with girls before and been out with them and always been the gent buying them things and basically being a skivvy but never gone so far with a girl to loose my virginity, the last one i was with was a complete user only in it for my money, that was a few years ago (when i was 18) after that i swore off them for life and that they'd only hurt you in the long run (i realise this isnt the case for alot of women, but certainly the ones i attract), but i cant stand to be hurt again and used again.

The current job i'm in exposes me to the worst and best of life (taxxing) i've been doing it for just under 4 years now it kinda helped me get over her and hinderd me in the same way. Always a excuse not to go out always having the excuse not to go for a few pints ''Sure i have to work tonite''.

But i cant get away from the fact that i'm the wrong side of 20 and never been intimate with a woman, now im no looker im average at best and overweight, but to the folks on here do you really think its the best for me to loose my virginity to a escort, for merely the physical task in itself??

I realise this probably isnt the best place to be asking as it probably raises more questions than it answers.

Any way thanks for looking and hopefully someone who has been in the same position before can shead a bit of light on it many thanks.

Frontwing.

There are obviously plenty of different views on this Front wing, as evidenced by the diversity of replies.

My own suggestion is not to see an escort just so that you can lose your virginity. Certainly not at 25. Wait at least until your're 40 and if you're still a virgin the, by all means go visit an escort!.

That was a joke. Seriously, it's nice to have sex for the first time with someone who actually means something to you.

Don't get hung up on this virginity thing. You're not at school anymore. Keep it to yourself, it's no one's business.

I didn't lose mine until I was in my early 30's and it was with a girlfriend who I really loved.

The caution I would use about visiting an escort is that it is something you can never go back from. Once you've visited an escort, you'll be bitten by the bug (provided it was a good experience).

Escorts do what we pay them to do, and they do it very well. It's more than the sex. They pander to our egos, and are always kind and willing to listen. Ansd when it comes to the sex, the pleasure is all one way.

You don't want to get into this habit or it will ruin you for women in the real world.

You may think that I'm a hypocrite as I see escorts regularly and am advising you otherwise. In my defence I am much older than you and have played the game of love and relationships and lost. And I truly love and appreciate escorts and in all reality will probably never return to the real world with regards to sex and relationships.

Whatever your decision, do it because you want to and not because you feel pressured to do so. Best of luck.

[rideMeHard]

From what you said, it looks like you have had some experience with having female companions. So talking to women or having a girlfriend is not HUGE problem.

you just haven't had sex.

what i perceive is your problem is that you hadn't the courage to ask for sex or flirt your way into sex.
if this is true then i will recommend going for an escort.
if you get the experience and it will help boost your confidence.

BUT BEWARE as you might get ADDICTED to it...,
I was in this same situation a couple of years ago, i'm in my twenties. i get incredible pay from my job. women knew this and they take advantage of me. i never got sex.

i got fed up one day,went for an escort. she was nice and all that. paid her. got down to business. it lasted for like 5 mins as i was nervous and excited at the same time.
she laughed, we chatted but by the time i was ready for second round. she asked for more money, telling me my time is over. i paid her for another 30 mins. got down to business, didn't last much longer either but it was a thrilling
and wonderful experience.

the problem now is that, i now find it difficult to get away from "escorting" as i earn a lot of money and it is so easy to get any girl you want.
averagely, i spend a grand on escorts in month.(not good, considering what you could do with a grand)
but i'm ADDICTED to it.
In Real life, girls don't matter to me anymore as i know that get someone like them with just a phone-call.
this is a problem as you become ignorant, more LONELY and boring.
you lose out on the experience of going out with a girl that you like, doing fun activities, meeting new people and learning new things.

So basically, my advice:
make sure you have FEMALE FRIENDS thus a room to get a girlfriend in the future.
MAKE SURE YOU DO NOT GET ADDICTED TO IT, it is an addiction that can not be discussed openly thus you will suffer alone with it.

The caution I would use about visiting an escort is that it is something you can never go back from. Once you've visited an escort, you'll be bitten by the bug (provided it was a good experience).

Escorts do what we pay them to do, and they do it very well. It's more than the sex. They pander to our egos, and are always kind and willing to listen. Ansd when it comes to the sex, the pleasure is all one way.

You don't want to get into this habit or it will ruin you for women in the real world.

You may think that I'm a hypocrite as I see escorts regularly and am advising you otherwise. In my defence I am much older than you and have played the game of love and relationships and lost. And I truly love and appreciate escorts and in all reality will probably never return to the real world with regards to sex and relationships.

Whatever your decision, do it because you want to and not because you feel pressured to do so. Best of luck.

[Julius Caesar]

I could think of worse addictions

[Frontwing]

Cheers for the replys folks alot of helpfull advice, i can see how it could become addictive. For me going to a escort is just about the physical act of having sex it dont want a GFE out of it and in the real non escort world i dont want a relationship either, any escorts in the Derry city area that are discreet about the whole 1st time thing?

Thanks again for your advice.