What would you get hung for ?

[timdog]

All I know is that this activity of visiting escorts can never be found out. It would categorically be the end. In fact if I was uncovered to have visited this website it would probably result in separation.

What are the limits, as doozer points out, when weighing up the risks associated with my activity, I should not be here at all, the risks are huge, but perhaps that is part of what makes it, the want for risk in what is otherwise portrayed as a very established lifestyle.

Back to Ksteve's points, all of those listed would categorically be the end. We have what I believe is a conservative marriage, and I unfortunately just do not quite fit this conservative life, but that is something I know now, and perhaps should have realised earlier. However not to get down on this, what my wife and I share is tremendous, and I go through "moments of clarity" where I wonder to myself why the f*ck am I taking this risk? We have sex, I enjoy the vanilla sex we have very much, but I guess it is a want for the variety of flavours in life that drives me to search out the encounters with individuals on EI...

Right that's too much self reflection for this time in the morning, think my head is going to explode. I'm going to have to solve this with a good viewing of escorts, and plan how I will find time to make my next rendezvous (sounds exciting doesn't it....)

[ksteve]

i see your point alright i know if it was me that was caught with an escort even if it was only a massage i would be done relationship over. I know other guys who shared the same hobbie as me visiting escorts and the same for then if they were caught i think if your caught once its going to be a very long time before your trusted again every argument you would have even years after it would be throwing back in your face it happend to a mate of mine she couldn't deal with it no matter how hard she tried.

Wow, ok ! That does seem pretty unreasonable to me but as I said everyone has a different type of relationship. You better not get caught so, cause if you do I would be worried about you surviving at all, let alone your relationship !

[ksteve]

All I know is that this activity of visiting escorts can never be found out. It would categorically be the end. In fact if I was uncovered to have visited this website it would probably result in separation.

What are the limits, as doozer points out, when weighing up the risks associated with my activity, I should not be here at all, the risks are huge, but perhaps that is part of what makes it, the want for risk in what is otherwise portrayed as a very established lifestyle.

Back to Ksteve's points, all of those listed would categorically be the end. We have what I believe is a conservative marriage, and I unfortunately just do not quite fit this conservative life, but that is something I know now, and perhaps should have realised earlier. However not to get down on this, what my wife and I share is tremendous, and I go through "moments of clarity" where I wonder to myself why the f*ck am I taking this risk? We have sex, I enjoy the vanilla sex we have very much, but I guess it is a want for the variety of flavours in life that drives me to search out the encounters with individuals on EI...

Right that's too much self reflection for this time in the morning, think my head is going to explode. I'm going to have to solve this with a good viewing of escorts, and plan how I will find time to make my next rendezvous (sounds exciting doesn't it....)

That seems absolutely draconian to me . Separation for merely looking at the site !!

[timdog]

That seems absolutely draconian to me . Separation for merely looking at the site !!

Why would a married guy be looking at an escort site except to find an sex outside of the marriage?? It's like the old line of the playboy magazine, they are bought for the articles... I was only here to look at the pictures... as if!

Maybe I've misread some of your subtext, would your wife allow you this pleasure?? And if so was that in play before or after you got married, you might be able to advise on how you created this "open" environment.

[ksteve]

Why would a married guy be looking at an escort site except to find an sex outside of the marriage?? It's like the old line of the playboy magazine, they are bought for the articles... I was only here to look at the pictures... as if!

Maybe I've misread some of your subtext, would your wife allow you this pleasure?? And if so was that in play before or after you got married, you might be able to advise on how you created this "open" environment.

There is a difference surely between allowing you the pleasure of looking at escort sites as an ongoing interest and separating from you on the very first occasion you are found looking at one. In the same way, there should be a difference between a one-off HR massage and her continually sanctioning a saturday morning HR session with the 20 something yo in the local massage parlour.

[anon361]

I would have thought the following examples would be fatal;

* transmission to your SO of an STI: Could be a tricky one but I'd go up North, get the stuff over the counter, tell her I have worms or something and she knows once one in a family gets worms all have to be treated so no questions would be asked about medication being handed over.

* a large history of booking many escorts over a long period of time: Who knows me to tell her, couldn't see that happening..

* discovery of lieing and deceit traced to times when you were in fact visiting escorts: Wouldn't happen as I go out for long periods of time, even overnight on occasions so I never have to explain my whereabouts.

* wasting of funds on escorting when badly needed elsewhere: Not needed elsewhere but I do have to use cash instead of withdrawing the money so hitting petty cash all the time can be an issue..