i see your point alright
i know if it was me that was caught with an escort even if it was only a massage i would be done relationship over. I know other guys who shared the same hobbie as me visiting escorts and the same for then if they were caught i think if your caught once its going to be a very long time before your trusted again every argument you would have even years after it would be throwing back in your face it happend to a mate of mine she couldn't deal with it no matter how hard she tried.