Why bother

**sperminater** · 19-10-11, 03:18

So half of the posters are married or in a relationship and your off seeing escorts. Why not I hear you saying sure its doing no harm....... Is that right I say, but is it not the case that your relationship is fucked up and you have go out of the home to get something your not getting there or is it a case of " I don't care" but why bother staying there cos lets face it your not happy so get the hell out of there.. !! So have I hit a raw nerve??

**Franken996** · 19-10-11, 03:25

I know it's after 3am Irish time Spermy, long day , eh? ..but that's a convoluted & potentially loaded OP question there bro'!!
Guessing you don't have a SO... people have all sorts of reasons for playing this game & (perhaps I'm misreading this), you seem to be making a heavy value statement there?
Some of us are happily married but we're sex addicts, some of us have an itch we occasionally scratch- wanna give up your kids over that??

**MrNiceGuy2010** · 19-10-11, 04:02

Originally Posted by sperminater

So half of the posters are married or in a relationship and your off seeing escorts. Why not I hear you saying sure its doing no harm....... Is that right I say, but is it not the case that your relationship is fucked up and you have go out of the home to get something your not getting there or is it a case of " I don't care" but why bother staying there cos lets face it your not happy so get the hell out of there.. !! So have I hit a raw nerve??

I'm not in a relationship so i cant really comment,but if i was i would not fuck about unless it was an open relationship

**sperminater** · 19-10-11, 05:01

Originally Posted by Franken996

I know it's after 3am Irish time Spermy, long day , eh? ..but that's a convoluted & potentially loaded OP question there bro'!!
Guessing you don't have a SO... people have all sorts of reasons for playing this game & (perhaps I'm misreading this), you seem to be making a heavy value statement there?
Some of us are happily married but we're sex addicts, some of us have an itch we occasionally scratch- wanna give up your kids over that??

It's not ment to be a conniving question but an overloaded one maybe but it might answer a lot of questions for others or maybe just open a debate, I'm not judging anybody throwing stones in glass houses comes to mind I'm just courious

**doodlebug** · 19-10-11, 07:16

In my humble opinion for many of those married or in relationships that post, the site more than the escorts is the vital part. It is a release and a place where they can let out the part of their personality that is feeling trapped. Thats all, never came near the place myself until I was separated!!!

**experiencedguy** · 19-10-11, 08:31

As an infrequent punter, for me it's purely a release of tension. Yes, I am in a relationship, and yes, she does know about what I do.

You see, it's a huge generalisation to say that your relationship is fucked just because you punt. I can only speak for myself, but I am not monogamous by nature, and I'm mature enough to know my own mind. I seem to have a nature that doesn't handle monogamy very well, and that goes back to evolution, spreading your genes and all of that. Escorting provides an infrequent relief for me to do that, and as it's a business transaction, no relationship of a romantic nature occurs. The monogamous stereotype everyone seems to follow is, remember, a social stigma, so if those involved aren't getting hurt, how is the relationship fucked?

My SO asks how I got on, and if I learned anything. She asks me if the escort was pretty, and even joined me on a couple of occasions, although not in this country. She knows I love her, but that variety is the spice of life. Just because you desire someone different doesn't mean something is wrong. It just means that you desire variety, and that is part of human nature. But I would never replace my partner. She's not perfect, and neither am I, but she's damn close to being so.

The confusion may be that escorting and punting can be viewed as starting an affair and this is a gross mistake. The escort is paid for her/his time, and things take place. An affair is where you seek somebody else out for a relationship to either augment or replace the one you are currently in, and THAT can be destructive. Escorting is a business transaction, and if all of those involved bear that in mind, then there would be no confusion.

**Jackdaniel** · 19-10-11, 08:53

Interesting read Expd' very much in agreement!

**emmasweet** · 19-10-11, 09:05

But what about couples ?
If any man choice to see escort is for because she offer:good service and discretion.

**paul_m** · 19-10-11, 09:11

Originally Posted by sperminater

So half of the posters are married or in a relationship and your off seeing escorts. Why not I hear you saying sure its doing no harm....... Is that right I say, but is it not the case that your relationship is fucked up and you have go out of the home to get something your not getting there or is it a case of " I don't care" but why bother staying there cos lets face it your not happy so get the hell out of there.. !! So have I hit a raw nerve??

Try walking a mile in that person's shoes, by the time you have walked a mile in them you will not have to listen to them
and you will have a new pair of shoes.

**benin** · 19-10-11, 10:25

im married and happy ...but in the words of jimbop..."why do i do it..cause im dirty cheating bastard"...

the buzz man the buzz.

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