Originally Posted by
experiencedguy
As an infrequent punter, for me it's purely a release of tension. Yes, I am in a relationship, and yes, she does know about what I do.
You see, it's a huge generalisation to say that your relationship is fucked just because you punt. I can only speak for myself, but I am not monogamous by nature, and I'm mature enough to know my own mind. I seem to have a nature that doesn't handle monogamy very well, and that goes back to evolution, spreading your genes and all of that. Escorting provides an infrequent relief for me to do that, and as it's a business transaction, no relationship of a romantic nature occurs. The monogamous stereotype everyone seems to follow is, remember, a social stigma, so if those involved aren't getting hurt, how is the relationship fucked?
My SO asks how I got on, and if I learned anything. She asks me if the escort was pretty, and even joined me on a couple of occasions, although not in this country. She knows I love her, but that variety is the spice of life. Just because you desire someone different doesn't mean something is wrong. It just means that you desire variety, and that is part of human nature. But I would never replace my partner. She's not perfect, and neither am I, but she's damn close to being so.
The confusion may be that escorting and punting can be viewed as starting an affair and this is a gross mistake. The escort is paid for her/his time, and things take place. An affair is where you seek somebody else out for a relationship to either augment or replace the one you are currently in, and THAT can be destructive. Escorting is a business transaction, and if all of those involved bear that in mind, then there would be no confusion.