Originally Posted by
ksteve
There is little or no possibility that a married guy who considers himself to be in a stable marriage ( other than the absolute exceptions above ) and therefore has a lot to lose but who still visits escorts , believes he is going to get caught or found out by his wife and family. Rightly or wrongly, he has made the assessment that provided he takes X precautions , the risk of exposure is sufficiently remote and therefore boxed off in his head.
Were he to believe otherwise and to believe that the risk of exposure is indeed high , with a distinct likelihood of exposure resulting in the decimation of his marriage and the revulsion of his children, I doubt whether the vast majority of these married punters would visit escorts and take that risk.
I would be interested to hear comments to the contrary from these married guys as I stand to be corrected.
I think you sum that up very well. It's a calculated risk to enjoy something that that can't be found at home (this can be one of many things - different for everyone). A selfish act, but perhaps not, as it keeps you on an even keel and content at home.
Retired from punting, yet still here?
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