Leaving Reviews ....

[jay67]

well thats my bubble burst then!!

Do they all tell you ya have a big one too

jay67

[mellors]

I think its important that if your reviewing , you review every new escort you meet and as pointed out only re-review others if it drastically changes. I go alot on a few reviewers whose opinion I respect, so it only seems fair and if one of my reviews helps another then fine. However, i think you have to be objective as you can, and it would take a lot for me to leave a totally bad review as I've seen first hand how devastating a bad review can be on an escorts business despite the review being totally subjective.

[Fitzy]

I always review however the appointment has gone good our bad I feel it's the least I can do .

[skywalker85]

Hardly gona tell ya that ya got a p1 pecker haha

Jay your a wee rosebud, saying yesterday that was gona be a draw

How was your therapy session

Sky85 lol

[jay67]

,i just thought that'd be the way it'd go..............it was fun

Hardly gona tell ya that ya got a p1 pecker haha

Jay your a wee rosebud, saying yesterday that was gona be a draw

How was your therapy session

Sky85 lol

jay67

[Morpheus]

I think its important that if your reviewing , you review every new escort you meet and as pointed out only re-review others if it drastically changes. I go alot on a few reviewers whose opinion I respect, so it only seems fair and if one of my reviews helps another then fine. However, i think you have to be objective as you can, and it would take a lot for me to leave a totally bad review as I've seen first hand how devastating a bad review can be on an escorts business despite the review being totally subjective.

Well said Mellors. Agree with every word. Either you review all or none, otherwise the review system isn't objective.

I leave a review for every lady that I have seen through E-I. All my reviews have been postive so far (mind you I do my homework beforehand), but I'm sure someday I may have to leave a negative review. But as Mellors has pointed out the reviews need to be objective. And I would go so far as to say the reviews should be kind. There is no room to slate a lady even if the overall review is a red button.

My decision to visit a new escort is purely based on her reviews. Which is why I review - both for the benefit of other punters and also for the lady herself.

I try to be as objective as possible - always reviewing under the same criteria. I know it makes my reviews sound impersonal, but I mention the very things that are important to me when deciding to go see an escort. So hopefully they have been of help to other punters and the ladies I've reviewed.

Not long ago, someone put up a thread about an escort and ruhama and the life she had. If i'm correct, I think maybe 2, 3 escorts max. replied to the thread. None of them came out and said no, thats wrong, not all clients are like what was described in that particular ruhama interview. To me anyway, their silence spoke volumes about what escorts actually think of us behind it all. If I'm right, one of the only escorts who did comment said she agreed with what the girl said in the interview about reviews. Basically how it was pretty fucked up that a man would "score" her on her sexual performance and critique her. Not one escort said anything to the contrary or defended even decent, genuine guys. So for that reason, I wont ever be leaving a review for anyone

Ouch. I didnt see the thread,. but I did see the Ruhama interview, Amy, wasnt it?

Hmm. To be honest, there is a large part of me that thinks the review side of things is a necessary evil. A vicious circle, you need them to work initially and then, you spend much of the time ensuring you keep them. Does it make us better escorts because we have many? No, but it certainly seems to make men think so. So, please do review if applicable, but please also try and be circumspect and fair in your commentary.

This is the link Viking referred to https://www.escort-ireland.com/board...ad.php?t=75878. It certainly left a very bad taste in my mouth. And I actually considered whether to ever leave another review again.

However, having thought it over I agree with Lucy that it is a necessary evil of the trade.

I know a lot of escorts hate reviews both because it is as Viking quoted "it is scoring her physical attributes and sexual performance" and also because a negative review can have a devasting effect on her career.

However, I don't think this is unique to escorts - as even actors, musicians, performance artists all hate / dread reviews by the critics. I know escorting is completely different but just making a point that no one like to be reviewed.

So I plan to continue leaving reviews.

[Lincoln]

Ouch. I didnt see the thread,. but I did see the Ruhama interview, Amy, wasnt it?

Hmm. To be honest, there is a large part of me that thinks the review side of things is a necessary evil. A vicious circle, you need them to work initially and then, you spend much of the time ensuring you keep them. Does it make us better escorts because we have many? No, but it certainly seems to make men think so. So, please do review if applicable, but please also try and be circumspect and fair in your commentary.

Most clients are nice, normal men who treat ladies with the respect they deserve. Some are not. Some ladies are very unhappy in their work, some are not. Ruhama doesnt want to hear that, it doesnt justify their funding. It isnt significant that escorts havent commented, we can't read everything. If Amy's story was real, you can be sure it has been subjected to a savage edit.

And following on from what Lucy said Mr Viking, the girls can opt out of reviews and can specify non-explicit reviews. As Ms. Chambers said: a necessary evil. Reviewers can behave decently and be respectful and still provide pertinent info in a review. not exactly shameful to hear an apartment was easy to find, a shower was hot and a girl was pretty and welcoming now is it?

It certainly dosent have to be the degrading fare Ruhama allude to (at least not on a moderated site)

This interview with Amy obv. caused disquiet with you Mr. Viking but certainly didnt need to leve you with such an absolutist view.

[Techno Viking]

apologies for my absence and not replying, I had a playdate this afternoon and no, I wont be leaving a review.

I perfectly understand that ruhama will skew the truth to justify their means and that interview I read (thank you morpheus for providing the link) may have been exaggerated as Lucy says to demonise this profession even more, but even if 10% of it were true, its not pretty. I have my own stance on ruhama and they certainly wont stop me punting.

I think my point may have been taken up wrong. I am well capable of writing an objective, non sexual, non degrading review. Will it change the opinion of any escort? No, I dont think so. She will still view me as the guy who "graded" her performance. I think even with a nicely written positive review it will always leave a sour taste in her mouth, no pun intended. Still no escort has come out and said, "you know what, i totally disagree with what the interviewee said, i like getting reviews, thank you for helping my business, the majority of guys i see are decent, genuine men (well except for lucy today)

Ruhama havent caused me any disquiet or food for thought, like i said i will continue doing this for as long as i can. What did cause me disquiet was the fact that not 1 single escort came out and defended clients or spoke up for them, the people keeping escorts in business and im sure plenty read the thread we are discussing. That deafening silence spoke more than words ever possibly could and indeed hurt a lot more than anything "Amy" said in the interview.

[Morpheus]

apologies for my absence and not replying, I had a playdate this afternoon and no, I wont be leaving a review.


Ruhama havent caused me any disquiet or food for thought, like i said i will continue doing this for as long as i can. What did cause me disquiet was the fact that not 1 single escort came out and defended clients or spoke up for them, the people keeping escorts in business and im sure plenty read the thread we are discussing. That deafening silence spoke more than words ever possibly could and indeed hurt a lot more than anything "Amy" said in the interview.

I see your point Viking, and clearly if that's your take on the escort response to the thread, then the only respectable thing to do is not leave reviews. If there is any doubt in your mind, then safest not to review.

However, I have a different take (and trust we can amiably agree to disagree).

I don't think the 'deafening silence' is an indictment of reviews and reviewers, as the thread was about more than reviews. Also there have been other threads where reviews have been discussed and I haven't seen that sentiment of absolute abhorence to reviews expressed (which incidentally is a recurring theme touted by Ruhamma and the TORL). There is no doubt that most escorts don't like them but as Lucy said - it's a necessary evil, as reviews can be equally good for business as they can be damaging.

One other reason I review every lady is for balance on the review section. I find that a one off reviewer is far more likely to have logged on to leave a bad review rather than a good one. This unfortunately is human nature and our culture. We are far more likely to make a fuss and complain when unhappy than to make the effort to say thank you when something has gone well.

I have had some feedback from escorts I've met. Some have thanked me for the reviews I left (although I fully appreciate - what is a girl to say? Crap review?). One lady PM'd me because she was upset about my review as she got the impression that I wasn't entirely satisfied. I had to apologize and explain myself and smooth things out. It was a learning experience for me as what had confused her was the way I ticked the check boxes. I have since modifed the way I do that and haven't had any confusion from the ladies since.

I have been PM'd to change certain details in a review I left because the lady felt it would compromise her location and also didn't want every punter to expect the same range of services she provided to me. Which I felt was very fair and contacted the mods to explain the changes.

And of course there's the lady who started it all when she suggested I leave her a review. Now before you all get on your high horses and start comdemning the lady, let me explain. At the end of a wonderful appointment, I was crowing her praises and telling her how I was so impressed by her many good reviews, which is why I decided to see her. So she merely sugges ted that I put my money where my mouth was! (And rightly so!). I had just started punting and hadn't plannedon registrering with E-I or reviewing. But after she suggested this, I registered, left a review and the rest is history.

So my take on reviews is somewhat coloured by my experiences, but isn't that true for us all?

[Techno Viking]

I see your point Viking, and clearly if that's your take on the escort response to the thread, then the only respectable thing to do is not leave reviews. If there is any doubt in your mind, then safest not to review.

However, I have a different take (and trust we can amiably agree to disagree).

I don't think the 'deafening silence' is an indictment of reviews and reviewers, as the thread was about more than reviews. Also there have been other threads where reviews have been discussed and I haven't seen that sentiment of absolute abhorence to reviews expressed (which incidentally is a recurring theme touted by Ruhamma and the TORL). There is no doubt that most escorts don't like them but as Lucy said - it's a necessary evil, as reviews can be equally good for business as they can be damaging.

One other reason I review every lady is for balance on the review section. I find that a one off reviewer is far more likely to have logged on to leave a bad review rather than a good one. This unfortunately is human nature and our culture. We are far more likely to make a fuss and complain when unhappy than to make the effort to say thank you when something has gone well.

I have had some feedback from escorts I've met. Some have thanked me for the reviews I left (although I fully appreciate - what is a girl to say? Crap review?). One lady PM'd me because she was upset about my review as she got the impression that I wasn't entirely satisfied. I had to apologize and explain myself and smooth things out. It was a learning experience for me as what had confused her was the way I ticked the check boxes. I have since modifed the way I do that and haven't had any confusion from the ladies since.

I have been PM'd to change certain details in a review I left because the lady felt it would compromise her location and also didn't want every punter to expect the same range of services she provided to me. Which I felt was very fair and contacted the mods to explain the changes.

And of course there's the lady who started it all when she suggested I leave her a review. Now before you all get on your high horses and start comdemning the lady, let me explain. At the end of a wonderful appointment, I was crowing her praises and telling her how I was so impressed by her many good reviews, which is why I decided to see her. So she merely sugges ted that I put my money where my mouth was! (And rightly so!). I had just started punting and hadn't plannedon registrering with E-I or reviewing. But after she suggested this, I registered, left a review and the rest is history.

So my take on reviews is somewhat coloured by my experiences, but isn't that true for us all?

I do take on board what you are saying Morpheus and I do see the relevance of your points.

I only picked the reviews part of Amys interview as it was related to the subject matter of this thread.

My point doesnt necessarily just refer to the reviews aspect of appointments, i mean on the whole, as gentleman who acquire the services of an escort, we were left hanging, left to be portayed as the scum of the earth by ruhama and nobody spoke up for us except ourselves which we were naturally always going to do. The opinions of those who probably hold the most credence, the ladies who see us day in, day out were nowhere to be seen. I have no problem with my hobby but it would be nice to know that we have a little support from the girls. I dont want to keep harping on about it as every lady is entitled to think what she wants of me, but when im polite, mannered and respectful, it does hurt a little to think at the back of it, im just another joe punter who makes her skin crawl