johnjohnII (17-09-11), Stephanie (16-09-11)
I thanks you for ur apoligies i think it is a noble act when people go to far to be able to said sorry.
But keep in mind many male foreign usually go throught this type of discrimation but that should make u stronger.
Many racial attacked usually target male foreigner than female in general.
Many foreign who moved to another country will face that, you are lucky your are not Indian, Arabs,Turkish or Pakistani i see they are the more suffering from racism all the time.
But you dont have to see all act with racism in mind, if he girl do not want to see u because of ur ethnicity that should not heart you at all. You move to the next one or ur precise over the phone.
Take life in easier side and dont get upset because a girl refuse to see u because u are not caucasian.
Some guys will not see me because i am black and will prefer a blond, and so what not the end of the world, the game still go one.
Many people suffer from discrimination if u are ginger, to fat, to small, not good looking enough, differences ethnicity but that real life.
benin (16-09-11), curvyirishgirl katie (17-09-11), Lucy Chambers (16-09-11), UKHeather (17-09-11)
Oh, I am mad.. and it takes much to get me riled..
This man was declined an appointment and then tried to coerce the girl with a veiled threat, to oblige him..
She was wise enough to ignore him and he exerted his payback by doing a thread and naming her. Despicable.
I don't care what his childhood or stay in a foreign land has been like. No excuse.
And you guys falling for it ? Come on now !
Racism is horrible. Fact. But it is not an excuse for bad behavior.
Attempting to coerce a girl and then exacting revenge, not on.
I do what I want. I cannot do otherwise.
UKHeather (17-09-11)
Stephanie (16-09-11)
Really sorry to read your story! I like to think that the people, (and I use that term reservedly), who caused you such hurt are very much in the minority! I am ashamed, as a proud Irishman, to think that anybody calling themselves Irish could behave like that!
Stephanie,
The thread began with Ms. X, then i lost my head as I was becoming angry. Revealing a name was never the initial intention.
I have no friends here on EI so why would I offer an apology? I could have create a new username and go from there. Right? Why endure all this embarrassment? Because it's the right thing to do so. I was angry because I was rejected due to my skin colour, culture. I have had appointments cancelled before but I never said anything to anyone. Was disappointed but never angry.
As I said, I've done what I can, it's up to you to accept it or not.
HF07
Lilian (16-09-11)
I know, totally out of character.. lol Must have touched a nerve..
I'll chill in a minute..
What really got me, was why did this man even say "Everything will remain private and I will not look to damage your reputation
or business in any way," ? You don't say something like that unless that is the course of action you are considering, just in case..
I had an incident where during an outcall I was cajoled to have unprotected activities. He attempted to coerce me into allowing
him to proceed by bringing up the Review process. Blatant intimidation and coercion. I was new, he had many reviews. I got out
of the situation fine. Toda˙'s thread must have tapped into that memory. I am still outraged by it..
Now do I get some sympathy ?
I do what I want. I cannot do otherwise.
Bruno69 (16-09-11), doodlebug (17-09-11), harry10 (16-09-11), hd7055 (17-09-11), Lucy Chambers (16-09-11), mikemorrison (16-09-11), Sassy Ann (17-09-11), SR71 (16-09-11), UKHeather (17-09-11)
Stephanie (16-09-11)
hd7055 (17-09-11)