Sex....Morality....Ethics and all that jazz

[JAMESCORK]

I think it is preferable to go to an escort in order to preserve an otherwise functioning marriage,

then to slowly, progressively grow more and more unhappy with your otherwise loving wife and eventually

become resentful towards her (due to lack of sex), therefore making for a very unhappy marriage and lead

to eventual break up..

If you love the other and are compatible otherwise, why destroy it if you can find a way to make it work??

Especially if you have kids, preservation of a contented family unit would be a priority I think.

(note: I say "a contented family unit" is worth preserving)

In my opinion your first and foremost responsibility is to yourself.. if you're unhappy, so is your family..

Refer to my "wheelchair" post : a miserable person makes for a miserable relationship. Period.

May that person be male or female. Sexual frustration is gender blind.

I like this girl... I think she understands me..... I think I am falling in love with you Steph...

[doodlebug]

I like this girl... I think she understands me..... I think I am falling in love with you Steph...

Is that a proclamation or a threat, LOL

[JAMESCORK]

Is that a proclamation or a threat, LOL

Butt out Doodles.. cant you see Im in love here....

[UKHeather]

i see how my post could have been misconstrued, i went to bed.
Heather's argument reminds me of the vegetarian butcher i once knew.

Argument? It's just my opinion in reply to the question that was asked. God some of you aren't half half drama queens who twist things!

[warmcome]

Argument? It's just my opinion in reply to the question that was asked. God some of you aren't half half drama queens who twist things!

argument here is not like 'row', but point of view.
this was an engaging thread, but i really couldn't
give a toss what anyone thinks about ethics and morality,
it's a personal thing, that. we can be friends?

[Prickly]

I am not going to pass judgement, (publicly anyway) on anyone posting here or using this site, as clients or escorts. I do however wonder how many clients are actually valuing the companionship more than the sex. I expect the proportion is higher than many would believe from the forums etc. The environment on the boards with reviews etc is very "macho" for want of a better term and very few posters will admit they enjoyed the conversation, drink etc more than the actual sex. If the companionship is the reason you are seeing escorts and you are in a relationship then you do have to ask yourself some fundamental questions.

Not, moral ethical or whatever but pure happines. Can't help agreeing with Stephanies earlier point if you or your partner are basically unhappy in a relationship you will make others close to you unhappy too.

Ksteve
Seeing escorts should have nothing to do with your chances of having a normal relationship with a girl in civvy street. You should not confuse the two. I suspect your worries about forming normal relationships need to be adressed in other ways. The best of luck --- everyone should experience the magic of being in a loving relationship

I have no problem acknowledging the companionship aspect of seeing escorts. And it has become more a big factor over time. Maybe too big. I enjoy the sex - most of the time, but sex without some form of connection can be very empty. On the other hand when there's emotional longing involved there is also the danger of addictive behaviour. Seeing escorts may be a way to make up for the lack of sex at home, or having a very high sex drive, but I think, in the long run, it's the wrong way to make up for a lack of companionship.

[billyjt]

The morals of what we do?

I believe that paying for sex is morally wrong. It can't be right for me to use women for the sole purpose of satisfying my sexual urges.
But i still behave the way i do...people may justify their behaviour but if an act is right or just you shouldn't need to justify it.

[Stephanie]

If the companionship is the reason you are seeing escorts and you are in a relationship then you do have to ask yourself some fundamental questions.

Not moral ethical or whatever but pure happines. Can't help agreeing with Stephanies earlier point if you or your partner are basically unhappy in a relationship you will make others close to you unhappy too.

Just as he said.

[doodlebug]

I have no problem acknowledging the companionship aspect of seeing escorts. And it has become more a big factor over time. Maybe too big. I enjoy the sex - most of the time, but sex without some form of connection can be very empty. On the other hand when there's emotional longing involved there is also the danger of addictive behaviour. Seeing escorts may be a way to make up for the lack of sex at home, or having a very high sex drive, but I think, in the long run, it's the wrong way to make up for a lack of companionship.

I don't disagree with you there, and it ends up becoming very messy because the emotional overcomes the physical and clients begin to think they have found true love. I hate to be cynical about it, but business is business and where money is changing hands emotions take second place. So if you are craving emotional connection I suggest you try a dating site, or else be aware that friendships with escorts are fine but there is a line that you don't cross.

Sorry for sounding like hard hearted Henry here but that is the truth of this business.

[Prickly]

I don't disagree with you there, and it ends up becoming very messy because the emotional overcomes the physical and clients begin to think they have found true love. I hate to be cynical about it, but business is business and where money is changing hands emotions take second place. So if you are craving emotional connection I suggest you try a dating site, or else be aware that friendships with escorts are fine but there is a line that you don't cross.

Sorry for sounding like hard hearted Henry here but that is the truth of this business.

No need to be sorry. I would be very disappointed if I didn't get frank responses. I think the physical desire is the primary motive. The emotional is in the background but one needs to be aware of it and wary of it. I think falling for an escort, or should I say the wrong escort, is a shortcut to an empty bank account. (As well as a broken heart )